my boyfriend wants me to up and move to another part of the state without making any plans or arrangements. im on dialysis and there are things i need to plan for. i feel it would be irresponsible of me to just up and go without making hte proper arrangements. what to do?
2006-09-26 04:02:20 · 8 answers · asked by lovey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Your boyfriend needs to understand that you have a medical condition that is potentially life threatening if you dont get the treatment you need. That is very serious!! I think you need to stay where you are and realize that anyone that would expect somoene with medical challanges on the level of yours to just jump and run because it is what HE wants is not the kind of person it serves you to be with!!
He is being very selfish and in this situation if you give in to that it has the possibility of puting very serious risk on your life! The idea that he would suggest such a thing is rediculous! If he really cared about you rather than himself he would stay with you wherever you need to be to make sure that your needs can be met with the facilities that are available.
This guy makes the rest of us men look bad.
2006-09-26 04:07:30 · answer #1 · answered by cammsters 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please do not make any irrational decisions right now! Your boyfriend is thinking more about himself than you. Otherwise he would have already made the proper arrangements for you or better yet made time with you and get everything set up for you. I question how concerned he is about you and your health? The two of you are not married, and have not made the (BIG) commitment to one another. Example in sickness and health, He is supposed to be the provider in your relationship. Ask yourself this question, Is and has he always been there for you no matter what? I hope this helps you!!!!
2006-09-26 11:27:28 · answer #2 · answered by butterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who wouldnt make any plans or arrangments? Just moving without any plans or anything could be VERY VERY hectic and personally i wouldnt recommend it. This is your life too, and if you have things you need to plan for, then DO IT. Dont feel pressured to do anything that you dont feel comfortable doing right away. It sounds like nonsense to not plan for a move; a move is a huge change. If your boyfriend isnt going to respect the fact that you have things in your life that make you need to plan for this move, then i would suggest not moving with him. I would tell him, "Look, I have some things i need to plan for, so if you want me to move with you, then you need to let me make the proper arrangements" and if he says "okay", then thats good, work on making plans. If he says no, i wouldnt move with him at all, that would be VERY controlling to tell you not to make plans. Its your life, do what you want with it! :) GOOD LUCK!
2006-09-26 11:06:53 · answer #3 · answered by Ricki M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should not ask you to just up and leave without making plans first. Your health is in jeopardy. Tell him that you are not willing to risk your life. He should understand and not want you to put your health on the line. Good Luck!
2006-09-26 11:07:07 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely do not move without arrangements being made. Don't even think about moving.
2006-09-26 11:05:14 · answer #5 · answered by someones sister 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to make ur boyfriend understand in what situation u r n that u cant take a decision so quickly.. i'm sure if u try, he would get ur point... i think decisions like this have to b taken after a good thought, so better take ur time n do whatever u think would b the best for u n ur family...
2006-09-26 11:07:44 · answer #6 · answered by kanu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds irresponsible and self-centred. Tell him NO. He ought to be able to figure out why, but probably won't, so tell him that no matter how highly you rate him, your health obviously has to come first.
Good luck on finding a better fellow.
2006-09-26 11:08:58 · answer #7 · answered by kerangoumar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your time......think in what do you need first........talk with your boyfriend and tell him to come down
2006-09-26 11:04:08 · answer #8 · answered by haki 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋