2006-09-26 03:43:53 · 21 answers · asked by Joe Cooker 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
My girlfriend is in her early 50s she lived throu the days of the stonewall riots in NY and throu many of the hard times when the hardest gay bashing happend and the hard core lesbians were around... the days of the man hating butches were around, So I thought I would ask her about this issue..
When I asked her about this issue the responce I got was rather disheartening to me, She told me that they "dykes" of the 60's and 70's were always told when they were children that they were to be subserviant to men, then came along the womens movement that told them they could do anything they wanted to do with their lives, that they didnt have to only be nurses or secretarys any longer. So then they decided that if it had been men that kept them down all this time that to be able to get ahead they had to be EXTREEMLY competative and angry to men. After that they decided to work harder love harder play harder and do everything they did harder than any man had ever done before and prove to the world that they could be better than any man. Then when they proved that to the world and the world was almost equal and the next generation was born (my generation as im now 37) they were ready to pass the tourch but they found that the next generation was more of an equalizing generation.. they believed that they could do it all and do it all beside a man.. there were less and less man hating dikes... Like me I live in a home and am partnered to a man hating dike but I myself am what I call an equalizing dike... I think the world is a better place with the ying and yang of it all balanced out.. that we should use all our strengths.
So why do some of us hate men? I think it is a Generational thing.. and the younger ones that hate men I think that is a life experience thing.
the rest of us would rather keep us all in a ying and yang balance .. to each his own sort to speak... I do my thing you do yours and we are all happy...
Hope this helps...
Blessings,
RiahWillow
2006-09-26 05:43:08 · answer #1 · answered by RiahWillow 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I don't fit in this category, but there has been one guy in my life who has been really rude and that was my brother. This was before he had kids and settled him down. I never thought all men are bad, cheat, are rude, or whatever it's just that everyone has bad behaviors no mater if you are male or female lesbian or not. I have my sister saying all the time she's going to turn lesbian from the treatments she gets from guys. This to me is rude as if she really has to blame all men for her boyfriends ignorance or abusiveness. Everyone is different, it takes maturity and time to learn this. You can't label people for certain bad behaviors of others no matter what race, or sexuality, or whatever baggage comes with people you get involved with. I believe everyone needs to be open-minded with the society we now resided in or there will be lessons learned. It's better to teach diversification then have racism, sexism, or other isms. I hope this helps you to know that it takes a lot to open peoples mind especially we they become stubborn or have had bad effects from certain experiences. I say good day.
2006-09-26 15:49:00 · answer #2 · answered by 4me2no&u2findout 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most lesbian women that I have known - during 20 years in and around the lesbian community - do not say these things or feel this way. Many, including myself, have close male friends. I think the reality is that there are some bad people in the world - however this is not determined by gender or sexual orientation.
2006-09-26 15:55:00 · answer #3 · answered by Cia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They could have had some really bad relationships/experiences with men growing up or in their teens...i know I have...that isnt what made me a lesbian, but I dont trust or feel safe around men anymore as a result...it doesnt mean youre bad people...something happens to a girl when they go through a traumatic event in their life (esp in the teen years)...its very hard to recover from certain things...
2006-09-26 11:08:52 · answer #4 · answered by inevitable2277 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women who are lesbians should not hate on men because they do not like them. They just need to just admit that they only like women. There is nothing wrong with that however, do not blame a man because you are a lesbian.
There are some great men out there and not all should be charactized as being bad...
2006-09-26 11:06:01 · answer #5 · answered by Vicky 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The interesting thing, is that some psychologists feel that some women take the lesbian route becuse they wre hurt in one way or another by a male at some point in their life. Personally, I believe we are gay or not from birth. However, working with this theory, it would be possible to soem women who would otherwise be in straight relationships to be in gay ones instead. THese would be your stereotypical man hating deisel dykes (Still love ya tho ladies). I have a number of friends who are lesbians and some of them have a dislike for guys... or rather straight guys, and some don't. It all comes down to the individual. Remember, experience shapes perception.
2006-09-26 10:51:29 · answer #6 · answered by mresl2005 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Many straight women say that, too. In fact, I've heard much more of this from straight women (and bi women who'd recently been with men) than lesbians. As a bi woman, I said this a few times when I broke up with my boyfriend. I'm wifed up now, and I don't say that sort of thing anymore.
2006-09-26 11:08:48 · answer #7 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most lesbian women (personal peeve of mine: "lesbian" was originally an adjective not a noun, to call a woman "A lesbian" or a man "A gay" is to deny all other aspects of who they are) I've known tend to be a lot more inclined to vent about women, especially ex's. It is heterosexual women who tend to be the most anti-male, just as most woman haters tend to be straight rather than gay men.
2006-09-26 15:11:40 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Karen and i have every pretty wonderful daughter. i will have you know. she does her thing i do mine, her friends are never rude and don t talk badly about me.and we get along just fine,of course i don' nt know about completely gay girls,in the public arena, just Karen,and her friends. i am from the south,have met a number of gays , the ones you are around may not be Southerners,i beleave southerners have more manners. the only problem i have is Karen wont feed her right. they probably say those things because it is a us against them thing they have in mind. to group all people that are different, all together like that is like racism.
2006-09-26 11:03:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, I don't personally feel that way. although there are SOME men who are bad... I'm not a lesbian because I hate men, I'm a lesbian because I'm not attracted to them. I have lots of male friends.
2006-09-26 10:47:34 · answer #10 · answered by redcatt63 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋