Or do you find the confines of a group to be constricting?
What are your thoughts?
2006-09-26 03:37:48 · 13 answers · asked by Optimistic 6 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I am NOT a group joiner.... I am a complete loner, no parts missing!!
This is the one thing that drives my husband nuts about me, he can't figure out why I need no one! Well I need him for he is my best friend and soul mate but you know what I mean.
Oh sure it's nice to have friends. But ultimately I don't need them for I am happy with myself. I don't like the pecking order qualities of groups... always someone is leader, someone is the follower, someone is the jester, someone is know it all and so on and so forth... I hate that ! I am not a leader nor follower... I do not want to follow anyone and I don't want people behind me. I prefer to go it alone. I chalk it up to being very Independent! Couldn't imagine myself being born in an earlier time where women could not be this way!
aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah life is good!
2006-09-26 03:54:47 · answer #1 · answered by Kitty 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel the urge to have a partner in life to share my experiences with, but if you're defining a "group" as three or more people, then the answer is no. I don't feel some "natural urge" to be part of a group. Of course, social psychologists might call me the "abnormal" exception, but even if you find the normative behavioral pattern indicates most people generally conform and seem to want to be part of a group, it's still a circular agrument to consider the people content with not being part of a group "abnormal." Observing the normative behavioral pattern is not proof that it's "human nature" to want to be a part of a group, especially in those societies that encourage conformity (like the USA).
And by the way, your answers will be biased in the direction of being a "loner" because using a computer is a solitary act.
2006-09-26 05:31:37 · answer #2 · answered by What I Say 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone belongs to society. You are either a conformist or a deviant. Some people (myself included) choose to be in "focus societies" where you have a genuine interest in a subject that you choose to promote. You do it because of the enjoyment factor. A club.
Some people join a type of club called a "Special Interest Group" to promote a certain idea.
These societies are needed but not for everyone. Some people want to be detatched from society. They don't agree with it or don't like the ideals of the group. These are the "deviants" who don't go along with the crowd.
2006-09-26 03:52:42 · answer #3 · answered by Delta Charlie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never felt the urge to be part of a group. Sometimes I like to be alone, but generally I seek the company of one or two individuals with whom I gel, who offer the same sense of humour as myself, and understand sarcasm (my favourite method of communication). Should this then become a group... well, so be it. But i have never physically sought a group. I believe that the level of intimacy is diluted by the number of people, and as such, the more people you hang around with, the less close you are to any of them. I'd rather have one exceptionally good friend than a group of associates or "mates".
2006-09-26 08:10:45 · answer #4 · answered by old_but_still_a_child 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man being a social animal, the urge is quite natural, and a healthy one too.
But the needs that drive this urge are fulfilled in the city life where most things are taken care of !
So, preserving a bit of privacy seems to be the priority of most people, and that is why even a family is evaded , and there is a growing trend to co-habitate under a roof !
2006-09-26 03:43:06 · answer #5 · answered by Spiritualseeker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well ive spent a large portion of the last few years alone and with no one to relate to. fighting against the grain in every way.
there are rewards in that. sometimes youve gotta go your own way. but that is such a lonely way to go. and after years of it just being able to talk to someone who you fit in with is such a great feeling.
my advice is to not get too wierd cause then youll miss out on one of the best experiences in life, friendship. Yes, I would say that I feel the urge to belong to a group.
2006-09-26 03:49:43 · answer #6 · answered by sean_mchugh6 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on the group if i find them restricting. if they have nothing to say and just stand around commenting on how greaat everyone is, there is no point. i like real conversations about real subjects. i have never felt the urge to belong or vice versa, to not belong. i like being me, and i am happy that way. even if it does mean being alone :)
2006-09-26 03:58:12 · answer #7 · answered by Hurray for the ANGELS! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am a loner and being in a group is like being a lemming....follow the leader.to be in a group is frustrating for me. I spent alot of time alonme and like it that way, unless i am with my family,then i am ok, but at the end of the day i like to be by myself for awhile to unwind from the day.
2006-09-26 04:25:03 · answer #8 · answered by Dragonflygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on the group
2006-09-26 04:51:02 · answer #9 · answered by Buffy Summers 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
`I like to be alone in a group.
2006-09-26 03:47:38 · answer #10 · answered by SPLATT 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋