about half a year ago i got pregnant and had an abortion (i was only 17 at the time) but it the worst thing i did in my life and no way on earth would i get an abortion again, it was awful, but now im pregnant again, (i am still with the same man i was with before) but i just couldnt go through with it again... what can i do, i no i should of been more careful and from now on believe me i will but wat shall i do?
2006-09-26 03:35:42 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Please...if you can have the baby, and if your in a certain situation where you cannot care for the baby just give it up for adoption, so people who cannot have children could give it a good life....
I got pregnant with my Son when i was 18 and i was scared to death, i didnt think i could care for a baby, but i had him and it was the best decision i could ever had made. I even got pregnant again when i was 20 a year after my son was born and i had my daughter when i was 21 ( needless to say i got my tubes tied)LOL, but they both have the same father and he is not around, I am 24 years old and raising a 3 and 5 year old on my own...i would would not give that up for anything in the world!! It may seem overwhelming now but beleive me....you can do it!!
p.s. ive heard that when you have a abortion and then get pregnant again...the same baby in spirit comes back to you!!
good luck
2006-09-26 03:45:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off, I am glad that you realize what you did before and you recognize what an awful experience it was and made a decision that you would never go through with that again. Most women don't have a consious about it at all. They don't feel any guilt, therefore they develop an attitude that, oh well, if I get pregnant again I will just have another abortion, no big deal. So it's good that you do realize and understand that it is a big deal. A Also, you now know the importance of protection against unwanted pregnancies. I don't know what you are using now, but I highly suggest something like an IUD, The "Shot", or The Nuva Ring. All of these are fairly long lasting control, and unlike the Pill you don't have to remember to take them everyday. (The Mirena IUD is good for 5 years.) If you are dead-set against ever having children, you may want to look into getting a "tubal."If you don't have medical insurance, go to either a health department or look in The Yellow Pages for a clinic in your area that is either free or one that will charge you an amount based on your income.You may have to call around. Ask yourself, would having this 1 baby really be that bad? Lots of girls have kids, work, plus finish school. It's not easy but it can be done.You may have to put off some things for a while but so what? Maybe thats the way its supposed to be. Maybe God gave you this child as a way of saying, wait, things will work out better for you at school, career, whatever, if you take this time, raise your baby then work it out because if you go for these things now you will fail because its not the right time and this is whats meant for you.Maybe the baby was given to you as a way to ease and get over your guilt. But if you cannot have a child right now, atleast carry it and bless someone elses life through adoption. Plenty of couples would want your baby and even pay and help you with expenses during the pregnancy But please, think about it, you don't want to live with anymore regret and pain.Give birth to your baby atleast, but I do pray that you will also raise your baby.Surprisingly, you will be so much happier when the time comes and you do, even if it doesn't feel that way now.
2006-09-26 04:20:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
two things, 1 - Congrats on the baby on the way and 2 - don't let some of the crappy comments on the site worry you!.
i am 5 months pregnant and have gone through more or less the same experience as you. 2 years ago i had an abortion... it was the worse thing that i could have ever done and trust me not a single day goes by that i don't think about it.... last year i met the most wonderful guy ever.. we made all these plans and he really wanted to have kids.. i was so afraid that after what i had done i wouldn't be able to conceive... that when i really wanted to have a baby i wouldn't be able to because of my past "sins'... well here i am with my first little boy on the way and i wouldn't change this for anything!! its the best feeling ever. Myself and my boyfriend are sooooo excited!
i cant make your decision for you, but give some advise. please remember that there are lots of woman out there who hope and pray everyday that they will fall pregnant and they never do. you have this opportunity now. the fact that its happened to you twice must mean something, everything happens for a reason.
its 2006, you don't need to be with a man to have a baby. there are plenty of single moms out there (",) just remember that if you have another abortion now, there is a chance that you wont be able to have kids in future...
good luck with your decision, and don't let your boyfriend pressure you into anything.
2006-09-26 03:55:26 · answer #3 · answered by Tasha C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, I am a 20 year old mother to one beautiful baby boy! I got pregnant right after I turned 18 and I had all the same questions. I had just started dating my now fiance not too long before that and both of us we young with jobs to pay for only our own needs. We thought of the same tough decision many times but in the end decided we would make it work.
Looking back now I am so happy about the decision we made. Yes sometimes it can be rough and you will fight, probably alot becuase you are so young. But if you think you can do it and you are ready to, then my advice is to go for it.
My son is going to be 2 in feb. and we couldnt be any happier. We are currently building our first home and planning on gettinng married and having a baby in the next year or so!
If you do decide that you are not ready to be a parent, there are many couples out there that are. Look in to adoption... you never know you may change your mind but if you do decide to keep this baby take all the help everyone is willing to give you and enjoy every minute of your childs life. It goes by so quick and you don't want to miss a second! I hope things go good for you and your family! Take care!!
2006-09-26 03:50:40 · answer #4 · answered by amandan0218 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abortion should never be used as a form of birth control. If you are old enough to engage in the act ( for at least a second time, quite sure more), then you are old enough to suffer the consequences of your actions. You may not, which I am sure ,be old enough or mature enough to handle a baby right now; however that baby deserves a chance in life. There is adoption. There are many couples who would love the chance to have a baby, but can not. Let this be a lesson learned. You know how pregnancy happens and you know you aren't yet ready. I will say many prayers for you and the baby.
2006-09-26 03:47:55 · answer #5 · answered by heaven o 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand where u are coming from. I had an abortion about 2 years ago. That is something that i vowed i would never let happen again. I also told him that at the time if i ever got pregnant again, that we would keep the baby. We are still together, and i am 34 weeks today. Its up to you what u want to do. The ultimate decision last in your hands. I had to go to counseling and i cried my self to sleep for months. It was horrible. If u want to keep it then go ahead. If u are thinking about anther abortion, just remember your last experience.
2006-09-26 04:12:46 · answer #6 · answered by omarion's mommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is not much that you can do but have the baby, If abortion is not an option. It's what you decide to do after you have the baby. You either keep it or you will have to consider adoption. But make sure that you definitely want to put your child up for adoption if you are going to go with that option because you don't want to give your baby away and then regret it. So those are all your options at this point but you might want to strongly consider birth control options after this so you do not have to put yourself or an innocent child threw this situation again.
2006-09-26 03:47:24 · answer #7 · answered by Bri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you've already made up your mind for part one of your dilema. Now you need to decide part two. Adoption or raise yourself. Either choice will be hard but what's important now is to get prenatal care and do what's best for the baby. Not to be mean but, you and this guy are not coming off as a very responsible people, so I would go with adoption. Give your baby a chance with a family that is responsible, ready for, and wanting a baby. Children need to grow up knowing they are wanted and loved. Also, after the birth, get on reliable birth control for yourself and make they guy use condoms.
2006-09-26 07:16:55 · answer #8 · answered by eehco 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do we answer something like this do we tell you it's okay get an abortion or do we judge you and tell you how awful you are for getting yourself into this situation again no one can tell you what to do but you, do what you feel is best but remember this is a little person inside you with A heartbeat and has the right to live. The baby didn't ask to be here. Please stop killing babies it's not A form of birth control.
2006-09-26 03:54:56 · answer #9 · answered by honeygirland 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can honestly care for this child properly (provide for him/her financially, emotionally, etc.), then keep your child. It is hard to raise a child- babies require a lot and don't always give a lot back. Don't get me wrong- children are wonderful (I have a 20 month old that is the love of my life). If you don't think you have it in you to raise a child, consider adoption. There are LOTS of couples out there looking to adopt. You need to make a decision that will be the best for your child. Abortion should not even be an option. Abortion is murder. Period. And- just ignore some of the nasty, ignorant comments you've gotten. Good luck and God bless.
2006-09-26 03:50:41 · answer #10 · answered by JustMyOpinion 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋