A while ago my best friend and my boyfriend had a conflict. What do I do? My best friend is always there for me...even when my boyfriend has been a jerk to me and I just need someone to talk to. She always gives me advice, she never bashes him. We just have a great time together. My boyfriend is my world and I love him to death. He's also my best friend, but just as a man, there are some small things I can't talk to him about. I have not told my boyfriend that I still talk to my best friend on a daily basis. Now he knows and he's mad at me, but I know that they do not like each other nor get along...but they have both been very good to me.
How do I solve this conflict? Am I supposed to dump my best friend all together?
2006-09-26 03:32:26 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
lose the boyfriend.
do you really want to be with someone who tells you who you can be friends with?
would you take that from your mother?
why take it from some guy.
2006-09-26 03:35:24 · answer #1 · answered by tigweldkat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You never give up you friends. Tell your boyfriend that he does not have to be around her but you will not stop being her friend. When a guy starts telling you to dump people who you trust and care about you need to be very careful. Abusers do this. I am not saying that is what is going on but there methods are all the same. Get the girl with no one else to turn to and they are easier to abuse. DO NOT GIVE UP YOUR FRIEND. Do not lie to your boyfriend either. If your friend is a deal breaker for your relationship what kind of jerk is he and why do you want him?
2006-09-26 10:43:51 · answer #2 · answered by rollerbabe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No - do NOT dump your best friend all together. You are you, and you have your friends - first and foremost! AND, your boyfriend should be accepting of that fact, even if he is not able to get along with your best friend. Explain to him that even though you and he are in a relationship, he should NOT be attempting to control who you talk with and spend time with. You are your own person. If he doesn't understand this, or can not live with this, then it's not meant to be between you and him. If you give in to him, and drop your best friend, what might happen in the future when he doesn't get along with one of your parents? Would he expect you to disassociate yourself from them as well? You need to be your own person, and stand up for what you have today! Be happy with who you are, and the friends that you've made. Everything beyond that becomes a bonus in your life - adding to it, instead of taking away from it! Good luck!
2006-09-26 10:38:39 · answer #3 · answered by loving father 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, friends are more important than boyfriends or girlfriends. Just don't talk to each one about the other, don't let them meet, make them be two different spheres of your daily life. That's all!
2006-09-26 10:35:29 · answer #4 · answered by Ale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Er,hello dump your best friend,are you nuts?Your best friend must be your besi mate for a reason?
Let me tell you,i was in a relationship for 8yrs,my bestmate hated my partner,but never went on about it,likewise he hated her&always tried to cause conflict,i had lots of friends but he managed to get rid of them all,except Bex,me&my now ex,don't speak&me&Bex are still bessies!!!I love her!If they both love you they will put it all aside for you,bet your mate does,anyway!Goodluck,girl.
2006-09-26 10:43:16 · answer #5 · answered by kittypinkchuck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you explain to him that the both of them are important in different ways, just like he will have his friends you have his. you are not expecting them to be best friends but they can be civil to each other when they meet for your sake, if your boyfriend ot your best friend are not up for that that they are not worth it as they are selfish and only think about themselves, in other ways in my way or no way, not the best relationship/friendship to have would you say.
2006-09-26 10:38:22 · answer #6 · answered by azmondo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who the heck does he think he is being so controlling and manipulative? You can stay close to both of them. Put your foot down, girl. He is not your husband, he is your boyfriend. Respectfully tell him nothing is being taken from him and he doesn't have to like her.
2006-09-26 10:56:27 · answer #7 · answered by Sleek 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell that jerk of a boy friend to shape up or take a walk....you have to show him that you have some back bone...so he gets mad...so what? tell him to grow up...
2006-09-26 10:38:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a friend in need is a friend in deed , be honest with yourself
2006-09-26 10:37:39 · answer #9 · answered by playful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them both to grow up, your friends are your friends, if they can't handle it, it's their problem.
2006-09-26 10:42:25 · answer #10 · answered by Cobra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋