For 4 years I've been witnessing things between my boss and his mannager that proved they have an affair .
He's married and had 3 kids , she's married too .
I know both my bosses wife and I know my managers husband .
I feel guilty knowing , and have a big problem acting normal when I talk to them .
2006-09-26 03:28:43 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Don't get in the middle of it. They will be caught eventually. No crime goes unpunished. Let nature work it out.
2006-09-26 05:49:21 · answer #1 · answered by Brad Beerdrinker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sounds like the question should be , how do you not feel guilty about knowing rather than should you tell the spouses.
Personally, being the blunt, in your face, kinda person I am... I would talk to the bosses and tell them I know whats going on,,, I am getting sick of the uncomfortable feeling I am having around BOTH of you and you BOTH need to tell your spouses or take it else where.
Now I know some people could never say that to the boss. BUT could. If I have to be uncomfortable alot of other people are going to feel it too!! Being blunt about it makes everything alot easier or I would look for a different job.
Perhaps a little eyeopener for these bosses of your is exactly what they need ! Do them and yourself a favor... talk to THEM not the spouses.
Best wishes on a touchy subject.
: )
2006-09-26 11:06:07 · answer #2 · answered by Kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It think you should just confront them and see what is really going on because it is very wrong to just assume that your boss is having an affair. If it proves to be true then you should tell your manager's husband and you will be a good friend by telling them. Because what you don't know can hurt so let him be aware of his cheating spouse. I hope this helps.
2006-09-26 10:40:00 · answer #3 · answered by Missy T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a really tough one, because both spouses may ALREADY know.
To be honest with you, it's probably best to mind your own business, remember that the truth ALWAYS comes out, one way or the other.
You will NOT earn any brownie points from ANYONE if you interfere, get it?
Being a 'tattletale' could do a lot of harm to everyone. Remember that what you 'see' is not necessarily what is actually a FACT, either.
M.Y.O.B. --- with diplomacy---is the best route to follow.
2006-09-26 11:20:11 · answer #4 · answered by fiddlesticks9 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, it's none of your business or concern.
Worry about you and your family and about losing your job should you breath a word of it to anyone.
If you're uncomfortable around them, then don't be around them. Answer questions concerning work, don't offer conversation past that. You can stay semi-friendly at work, but you don't have to let it carry over into your personal life.
If one of them asks why you're acting different, (And you're taking a chance with this since both are superiors), tell them you know what's going on and you're uncomfortable with it and you'd just rather not get involved.
2006-09-26 10:50:51 · answer #5 · answered by Lucianna 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are going to find out in the long run. When the victims find out, it should be their doing. (If you know where the secret pair meet, for instance, send an anonymous "tip" to one of the victims.)
It should be a victim "discovering" the affair otherwise if you flat out tell them, they will always know you as the guy who told them the thing that ruined their marriages. Let them "make" the discovery
2006-09-26 10:38:13 · answer #6 · answered by Delta Charlie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are absolutely sure, tell both spouses as anonymously as possible. Otherwise, you are putting yourself at great risk. But be sure, because you will be causing a world of unnecessary grief for the spouses and families if it's not really happening.
2006-09-26 10:34:21 · answer #7 · answered by OOO! I know! I know! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should. It is not your business, and if the people being cheated on should find out it should come from their spouses. If someone is unhappy in a marriage then they should divorce or seperate. If you tell them you'd basically be making that decision for them. Someone is bound to want to seperate.
2006-09-26 11:11:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It is not your business to interfer with others' personal life.
However, do use it as a bargaining chip to advance yourself at work when opportunity arises. As for now, try to be best friends with both their spouses. This will put you in a much better 'bargaining' position.
2006-09-26 10:55:20 · answer #9 · answered by galactic_man_of_leisure 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How is it that you feel guilty knowing? Do you really know what's going on in either of their lives? Now, if you blackmailed your boss and his manager, that would be something to feel guilty about.
2006-09-26 10:41:27 · answer #10 · answered by digitalquirk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋