Okay ladies be completely honest we as women have all done this weather it was by mistake or on purpose slept with or been involved with a man that was already involved in a long term relationship. If you where aware of his relationship and continued to see him what was you reason? If you didn't know in the beginning after you found out did you still see this guy or did you dump him? I also want to know if any of you ever felt as if you could take this man from his wife or long term girlfriend if so WHY?
2006-09-26 03:28:43 · 18 answers · asked by cwallflower32 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't want what is not mine. If it is someone elses I am not interested in taking it from them. I have been in a situation before, but as soon as I found out the truth, I left it alone. I am stingy and I don't want to share my man with anyone else. If he is in a long term relationship and he is messing around, You have to ask yourself why doesn't he just get out of it if he is unhappy. A man who doesn't have the courage and stands behind that long term relationship isn't being fair to you. You deserve someone who is going to give his whole life to you, not bits and pieces , or the in between. That is just how I feel, I am sure others feel differently.
2006-09-26 03:38:10 · answer #1 · answered by heaven o 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I met my ex,the first 6 months I had no idea he had a gf(She went to the UK and they continued their relationship, they were together for about 2 1/2 years)
When I found out(found letters from her) I left him and about a month later, he told me he broke it off with her(I know its true, because I read the letters after their break up) and he wanted me back. So we were together for 3 years.
He had a long distance relationship with her and it wasn't working out for a long time, he just never had the heart to tell her, but he finally did when I left him, so I think I did the right thing.
I would never steal anoher woman's husband or bf. Not even to an enemy!!! It's horrible and deceitful. I get angry when women on yahoo answers talk about it and boast about it.
WHY WANT SLOPPY SECONDS? These men are pathetic losers who cheat and lie.I think some women just dont have nough confidence and would be with anyone who makes them feel good and let's face the facts - married men can make you feel real good with their charm - they will be as charming and smooth until they get what they want and had enough, then they run back to wifey.
2006-09-26 10:41:54 · answer #2 · answered by Jade22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She was aware of the long-term relationship right from the start. She was okay with it because this was "just a fling". But as time went by, she realized that it was a bad place to be - the guy couldn't spend the night, he couldn't go on trips with her, she couldn't spend time with him on his birthday or at Christmas etc. She decided to change tactics - create a scene whenever he was leaving, make unflattering references about the competition, make demands on his time. Didn't work. Instead of dumping him, she tried to get him to choose. He ended up dumping her.
2006-09-26 11:24:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happened to me only once when i was in my early 20's and nieve.. I met a man.. and he seemed wonderful.. he had been seperated from his wife for a year but because of disputes over things in their divorce they hadnt worked out the formalities yet.. but he assured me it was done and over with, he had 2 children by her that lived with him that were going through a difficult time with the divorce, and gave me that reason for not calling him at his home..as it would only hurt his kids to find out that he was starting to move on with another woman, BUT he called me from his home, at different times of the day and night so i didnt think anything of it.. and he called me from his work.. ect.. after months of talking (luckily nothing serious happened at this point between us...not from a lack of him trying..but i wasnt ready yet).. i get this phone call from his "WIFE" .. she informs me that not only are they very much married and living in the same house, but that they have 6 kids not 2.. , and that im not the only "gf" he has on the side as she found numbers to 2 other girls as well.. I told her what he had told me.. and she laughed at how UNTRUE it was and even put "JACK" on the phone and made him confess that it was all true.. when i questioned him calling me during the day and in the middle of the night ect.. he told me it was when she was at work and the times at night he hid in the bathroom while she was asleep and would talk to me in there.. and when she got back on the phone i apologized to her .. and she was ok with me cause she knew i had no idea.. but as much as it hurt.. wanted nothing to do with him anymore although he tried .. i respected the fact that he was married.. and had a family and i refused to be the "other" woman ..
2006-09-26 10:39:23 · answer #4 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've gotten involved with a married man and the moment things started getting more and more serious between us I started regretting it. I don't want to be the reason why he leaves his wife and children. I felt terrible for even thinking that I should see him.
2006-09-26 10:35:37 · answer #5 · answered by Please use other door 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes my son is the result of being with a man that had a girl already....And my excuse is that i was very young,,and didnt care what i was doing at the time. Had many family problems at home...and just wanted to get away with anyone who i thought loved me. Unfortunatley for my son his dad has nothing to do with him,,in which i blame myself for. Would never ever do anything like this again...i learned my lesson. found a great man and would never cheat on him.
2006-09-26 10:34:55 · answer #6 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has happened to me. The guy I am with was married when we got together. Well we talked on the phone. No sex involved. But he divorced his wife and we are now happy together going on 2 years. Wouldn't have it any different.
2006-09-26 11:58:22 · answer #7 · answered by Cricket 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it wasn't so much take them from anything, just liked the attention I suppose. I tried breaking things off with a guy when I found out about his relatonship but he kept after me. the best thing you can do is stop answering his calls and date other men. if he wants you so bad, why not break things off with the other and get with you instead of trying to have it all? me personally. I can only focus on one guy and be committed if it's monogomous. same for the guy, he can't fully commit with baggage. move on,. it's a come around go around thing and won't be good for you,
2006-09-26 10:46:19 · answer #8 · answered by Skypride 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i just did this the other nite - slept with someone i hadn't seen in a while, but we always had an attraction to each other, but were both unhappily married - we are both separated now, but he has a girlfriend of 3 years - we got caught up in the moment and slept together - i was surprised honestly by how easily he cheated on his girlfriend - i was feeling guilty about her and even mentioned it to him - he seemed to shrug it off - i doubt i will continue the relationship cause he cheated on his wife to be with his current girlfriend and now just cheated on his current girlfriend to be with me, so there is a pattern here............
2006-09-26 10:44:18 · answer #9 · answered by livetall1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did not know then I found out and quickly got out. I did not want to be the other woman and was afraid what happened to his wife could happen to me too. It was not whether I can take him because I could've. It was also because I did not want to be the one to ruin a beautiful family. I am sure it eventually got to it because he was a pathological cheater but I did not have to carry that burden.
2006-09-26 10:55:41 · answer #10 · answered by Georgina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋