2006-09-26 03:27:10 · 19 answers · asked by qing_66 2 in Education & Reference ➔ Primary & Secondary Education
Arrange a meeting with the teacher and the principal and ask for the specifics of the situation.
Reserve your judgment until then.
Do not scold and do not keep quiet. Investigate, advocate for your child and support the authority of the teacher.
Good Luck.
2006-09-26 03:31:37 · answer #1 · answered by anirbas 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't see why a teacher would punish a child for NO reason. You should arrange a parent-teacher conference and calmly ask why your child was punished. Be sure to tell the teacher the child's side of the story as well. You will find that most times the truth lies in between.
I am a teacher, and this is very common. Most times, the child will leave out vital information as to what is actually going on in the classroom. Talk to the teacher.
2006-09-27 05:50:16 · answer #2 · answered by ammecalo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you don't keep quiet if your child was indeed punished "for no reason" as that would qualify as emotional abuse..HOWEVER
You need to probably gather more information and investigate into this further. You cannot take just the word of your child on this..or (sadly) just the word of the teacher. I would go directly to the principal and ask for the principal as a third party to listen to both the child and the teacher and make a decision. Perhaps a counselor would be good to help you with that as well. But, unless you were there yourself (and we don't know as you don't give details in your question)...then how would you know that your child was punished for no reason?
Good luck.
2006-09-26 03:37:34 · answer #3 · answered by svmainus 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You probably have just listen to your child side of story, I believe no teacher will punish their students for no reason. Calm down first before you talk to the teacher, not matter what, you shouldn't scold the teacher, this will only make your child become a spoilt's kid!
2006-09-26 15:41:50 · answer #4 · answered by Tan D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My child has come home from school with tales of wrongful punishment and I've ridden both sides of the fence, not talking with the teacher about it (which builds a negative relationship with her and offers my child little support) and being confrontational. I learned swiftly that the goal is to gain balance. You want to get the full picture, understand the measures taken and discuss it to a satisfactory conclusion. As parents, we ARE the principal champions of our children. When my daughter has broken a school rule or class rule, I support the teacher. Children need to learn that there are boundaries that others have that may contradict our own. Learning rules and adhering to them is a necessary life skill. On only one occasion did my child come home with an incident of being punished for an action that was misinterpreted. She had tried to help someone who was struggling (children are compassionate) and broke the rule of no talking. I supported the teacher in enforcing the rule but asked that she understand that my daughter was trying to help another student and she believed that breaking the rule was a necessary evil to accomplish this. Would she please acknowledge the spirit in which the rule was broken with a kind word, even as she stressed compliance with the rules? She did and it was removed from the daily behavior report. And my daughter felt good about her effort and thought of ways to be helpful that may not involve breaking a rule.
Don't scold her teacher. As parents, we can influence the direction our children's learning goes by our willingness to work with the people we entrust our children's learning to. If you need a fuller picture of how your child is doing in class, volunteer to correct paperwork for an hour a week or help with reading or math or something. I go into my daughter's classroom occasionally to see how things are going, see where she fits in and to help teachers who sometimes feel overburdened. I can only imagine how difficult it is to teach 18 inquiring minds that are developing different skills at different rates, how difficult it is to keep them all moving in the same direction at the same time. I know that when I feel overburdened, my parenting suffers and that's my job.....so I can imagine how a teacher or caregiver must feel when they are working with 18 children and something goes sideways. A little compassion, a few direct questions, an offer to help, willingness to ask for suggestions, a mutually satisfying conclusion and a show of support should work beautifully. We are nothing if not most passionate about our children but try to leave emotion at home and bring reason and your best negotiating skills to the conference. Good luck!
2006-09-26 03:51:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are concerned by the conduct of your child's teacher, you should address all issues with the school administration. Do not confront the teacher directly on your own as this can lead to a uncontrollable situation. If you are convinced that your child is being mistreated and the problem is unresolved through the proper channels, remove your child from that school and consult legal council for a course of action in correcting this situation.
2006-09-26 03:45:05 · answer #6 · answered by Pundit Bandit 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Neither of your alternatives is appropriate because you don't know what happened. First have a long talk with your child so that you think you know the details of what happened. Set up an appointment with the teacher, and quietly ask what happened. Depending upon the answer, you must decide what to do. If you think the teacher has acted reasonably, then you must firmly and lovingly explain to your child why his or her behavior was out of line. If the teacher really had no line, first consult the principal, and if nothing is done to correct the situation, you might, if the punishment was severe, consult a lawyer.
2006-09-26 03:35:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You should talk to her (calmly) and ask her why she punished him. If it was for no good reason then you should take it up with the head teacher. This will then dissuade her from punishing him again without reason. If you keep quiet she may continue to do it and make your child's life a misery.
2006-09-26 03:31:24 · answer #8 · answered by cheryl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes out of fear of being looked down in ur eyes the child does'nt tell the truth, so talk it out calmly with the teacher, so u know the truth, and if the punishment is not physical then try to ignore it
2006-09-26 03:32:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to be biased. Talk to both your child n d teacher. If the teacher has got some valid reasons mayb you could work with him/her to come up with a better way 2 discipline ur kid...If the teacher in d wrong, keep track of it..advise her in private...talk to the principle if it gets out hand.
2006-09-26 04:19:59 · answer #10 · answered by addibadi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋