my husband left the state(MI) fro work in nevada in june, we have a home that we are still paying for in MI and we have children that are in school at this time. we have not had any luck as of yet in selling our home, so i am i have rented the home for $200 less than what our mort pmt is, from the pressure he has put on me to ove RIGHT NOW!!
i am pregnant and i am due in jan, i would like to stay here and save some extra $$ just in case something happens w/ the tenant, so i was looking to move in feb.
since i have told him that he has told me that he'd rather not talk or hear from me until i am ready to move, that he is tired of this phone relationship, he feels like he's single cuz he's there alone!
he thinks that i just dont want to leave!!
im so confused and torn, i dont know what to think!
what do u think is going on w/ him????
please help me!!!
2006-09-26
03:25:53
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andrea
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Sounds like You have a level head on your shoulders, by taking care of your business there.
He says that he feels like hes single then I bet hes playing single and that he don't want to hear from you tells me that he is playing the field and he can have his cake and he eat it too, doesn't want you calling making him feel guilty. If He truly loved you he would want very much to hear from you.and find out how you are progressing.
2006-09-26 03:40:49
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answered by Anonymous
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He's frustrated just like you but men show it in different ways, but my honest opinion it sounds to me you are dragging your feet i think your husband is picking up on that too, you need to discuss with your agent about your house to see what can be done to sell it quicker and if you don't have an agent get one thats what their there for to help take the stress off of you.
And if you trust the tenants you have in your house then move on all you have to do is set up payment arragnements with a bank where they can deposit the rent money into an account, if you don't trust them then they shouldn't be in the house to begin with.
I understand moving is hard because you get so comfortable but if this is something you and husband agreed on then it's tough to back out now.
Stop dragging your feet and go be with your husband things will work out.
Good Luck
2006-09-26 10:34:24
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answered by Ali_Kay 2
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Where are you living while the house is rented out? I don't see how you're saving extra $$ while maintaining two separate households. Do you have any family (that you trust) in MI that can monitor your house until it is sold? I know it's easy for everyone on this side to comment on what you could or should do, but I would base all of my decisions on what's best for my family.
I'm sure he just misses you and the kids and wants to reunite his family, so that's just blinding his thoughts when it comes to his comments.
2006-09-26 10:36:09
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answered by E. Gads 4
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Why wouldn't you want to move to be with your husband? Is there something other then the house holding you back? If not, hire a good agent and get them to sell that house. Find out why it isn't selling and get rid of it so that you can be happy with your husband. I would never rent an apartment instead of living with my husband. He might think something is going on....
2006-09-26 10:39:41
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answered by Anonymous
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He sounds immature, and unrealistic. Where are you living in the meantime? You should be in the home, so that you can keep it on the market to sell. If he feels that he's alone, you can send the kids to live with him. Has he considered that? Remind him that he's not the only one in a sorry situation. You are all involved. And he needs to be sending you $, while you resolve issues where you are, while he finds a place for you all in NV.
2006-09-26 10:40:30
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answered by iyamacog 7
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I understand what you are saying (I think) and you have valid points, but you are also being selfish by staying there. Have you considered your husband's feelings in all of this? He obviously wants to participate in your pregnancy and he can't do that with you in MI and him being in NV. You both need to sit down, present your points and decide what is best for the both of you. NOT what is best just for you and just for him.
2006-09-26 10:31:54
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answered by Please use other door 2
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well,i guess he is been quite straight,you should be glad that he wants you with him,where as somemen juts want to be alone and have all the fun in life without there wifes knowledge...i guess you should go and be with him and things will definately fall in place,just dont get too worked up by all the issues,somethings are better left on time...good luck!!
2006-09-26 10:29:37
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answered by country_girl 5
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I think he loves you very much and wants to be with you. What is it going to hurt to move out there with him. The kids will have to get used to a new school anyways. I think it is better to move them while in school that way they will make friends out there before school gets out. If you love him and want to be with him then you should go.. Take care.
2006-09-26 10:31:34
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answered by Sexy-n-Hot 5
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Leave the house with a real estate agent. I really think the reason he doesn;t want to talk to you is your far away, pregnant, and he has a gf.
2006-09-26 10:42:38
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answered by Anonymous
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All I can say is that if I loved my wife and she had to move to another state because of her job Iwould move too.
2006-09-26 10:41:18
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answered by Anonymous
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