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Prior to us getting married he was very promisicous, I have never had such horrible experience with this infection which has taken weeks to clear, finally I'm starting to feel better. I don;t the cause of this horrible infection and I was taking birth control pills. However, I'm so freaked out that I am fearing having sex with him, and just had an argument with him and he told me he won;t have sex with me anymore due to how I'm feeling. I feel I got this cause of him.

I'm feel I won't be able to have sex with hima nymore I;m just afraid of getting sick again. What should I do?

2006-09-26 03:23:54 · 26 answers · asked by cookielove1430 1 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

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Both of you should get treated at the same time. My S.O. and I have gone through this and no matter how it was transmitted we got past it. If you love your husband and want to make it work seek counseling. Until you trust each other things won't be well. Best of luck.

2006-09-26 04:28:29 · answer #1 · answered by mrgoodbar_dmp 2 · 0 0

It IS possible that you got this for another reason. It is also possible that you are passing it back and forth. Both of you need to get to the doctor and clean this up. Secondly you need to get back in tune sexually. If you continue to blame him he will be gone.
Not having marital relations is not the cure to the problem. Quit looking to blame and start looking for a cure. You should take a hard look at your conclusion that this is somehow his fault. This could indicate an overall mistrust which will ultimately ruin your marriage as well.

I felt compelled to revisit the answer and add the following. What you describe is a bacterial infection. People do not walk around with them for long without some problems. Assume for a moment that you picked this up somewhere else for some other reason than your husbands RECENT infidelity. You have come to accuse him of infidelity or promiscuity when he is guiltless. You have also considered it a result of sexual transmission. If he is guiltless, guess what, you just told him that it was you who was not faithful. His thought could very well be Its an STD, which is probably is not, it wasn't me, therefore it was her. Of course he will not have sex with you. If you are wrong here you just accused him of cheating and threw doubts into his mind as well.
You'd better get an opinion from your doctor and get one soon. If the opinion is that it was most likely from a source unrelated to sex with others you have a LOT of damage control to do. You need to get to the bottom of this quickly if your marriage is to survive.
Big apologies are in order.

2006-09-26 03:30:25 · answer #2 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0 0

That is more than likely has nothing to do with him. I was diagnosed with the same thing about 6 months ago, and I am still sleeping with the same guy I was then, and I have been for over a year now. I was told it was caused from not wearing cotton underware, or it being too hot out, certain foods, medicines, almost anything can cause this, and almost every female gets this and never knows. I didn't even know when I had it, but I was give antibiotics.

2006-09-26 03:26:59 · answer #3 · answered by darcilynn83 4 · 2 0

First, stop blaming him or each other. It isn't good for the relationship. Next, deal with the now. Have him treated, even if he comes up negative. If he gets defensive, just say that maybe YOU infected him by accident and you don't want him to suffer ( Hey, if it gets him treated, who cares how long your nose grows because of the lie ) Once he's treated, if you are still nervous, use barrier protection. Condoms are best for this, but, the female condom would work too. Diaphragms and cervical cups aren't good for protection from sexually transmitted diseases. Tell him that women have gotten pregnant while on the Pill and that you feel that you just aren't ready for kids, yet.

Now, if the feelings of insecurity and lack of trust still are there after all of this and some time, you might want to visit the issue of fidelity in your marriage. I would suggest a marriage counselor.

Good luck

2006-09-26 03:30:17 · answer #4 · answered by yodeladyhoo 5 · 0 1

Your husband did not transmit this to you. Here is some information I dug up on WebMD.


Per WebMD: Bacterial vaginosis (BV) is a change in the balance of bacteria that are normally present in the vagina, which can cause bothersome symptoms. BV is the most common cause of vaginal symptoms in women of childbearing age. Although bacterial vaginosis seems to be triggered or worsened by sexual activity, it is not an infection that is passed from person to person. Therefore, experts do not consider bacterial vaginosis to be a sexually transmitted disease.

2006-09-26 03:54:13 · answer #5 · answered by ladysteelersince1976 3 · 0 0

. What you dont say in your question is how long you have been married for? Most cases of bacterial vaginosis occur in sexually active women between the ages of 15 and 44, especially after contact with a new partner.
However a word of caution, although BV appears to be associated with and triggered by sexual intercourse, there is no clear evidence of sexual transmission.So dont go about filing for divorce just yet. Tell him the facts ive outlined above and gague his response, that should hopefully give you a better idea as to whether hes been cheating or not.

2006-09-26 03:36:13 · answer #6 · answered by J B 2 · 0 1

Get professional help from a Doctor. Fix the root of the problem with an open mind. Blaming will not fix anything.

Get proper treatment. Get well. Continue to enjoy good and safe sex.

Don't just let a phobia ruin, an otherwrise, potentially happy marriage.

2006-09-26 03:29:38 · answer #7 · answered by ausserdem2002 2 · 1 0

Ask him to go to the doctor and get a clean bill of health first explain how sick you were and make it clear he can withhold it as long as he won'ts the bottom line is his wife will not make love to him till he has seen the doctor and had a physical and labwork thats just the deal then if you don't believe he's cheating all is well if thats a concern after the clean bill of health purchase condoms.

2006-09-26 03:28:14 · answer #8 · answered by Katlynn 3 · 0 1

Bacterial Vaginosa is caused by an overgrowth of an organism that is already present in the vagina. Your husband did not give this to you. It is very common in women (like 1 in 6). You will be fine.

2006-09-26 03:43:38 · answer #9 · answered by Jville Girl 1 · 2 0

Ask your Dr how you would of contacted the infection. If in fact it is a sexually transmitted infection and you are faithful to your husband then you have your answer. There are way too many diseases out there to be passed on to you with an unfaithful husband. Now if I was you and the Dr said it is sexually then I would tell the husband to pack his bags and get the hell out. My life is worth more to me then him promiscuous ways. Good luck.

2006-09-26 03:34:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

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