I told my husband that im not quite ready to have kids. Ive been off the pill for a month do to medical reasons and i told him to pull out and he didnt! He said that he didnt have any more control and he was sorry. i mean, everythings fine with our marriage, im just not ready to have one yet. Should i be really mad?
2006-09-26 03:07:03 · 21 answers · asked by Baby Jack born 4/5/09 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
MAD AT MY HUSBAND FOR NOT PULLING OUT WHEN I TOLD HIM TO!!
2006-09-26 03:10:25 · update #1
While you have every right to be mad, don't let it define your marriage. Our 9 year old happened the same way and both my wife and I couldn't wish for a better ending. The last few seconds can come(excuse the pun) with little or no warning and more than a few responders suggested condoms. I had a vasectomy after our 9 year old, your husband can have the lines tied instead of cut with little discomfort. Just a thought. Good luck and please, don't stay angry, just be a little more carefull, you should know when your partner is about to finish.
2006-09-26 03:21:03 · answer #1 · answered by Bob D 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Let me tell you from my stand point. If it is gonna happen it is gonna happen. Pregnancy is one of those mysteries that no one can understand and certainly can't explain. There are women out there that have been told 6 or 7 years ago that they can't get pregnant but then come up pregnant. Maybe you feel like you are not ready for children but there is nothing like being pregnant especially if you are in love with your husband. If you not then okay, you got what you wanted but if you are enjoy the moment and enjoy how your husband will pamper you because if he loves you he will. Smile. And no don't be mad at him.
2006-09-26 10:18:31 · answer #2 · answered by ga_gyrl91 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well he shouldn't have done it against ur will, but try talking to him, ask him how he feels, maybe he does want a baby, it is better if u come to an understanding b/c this is not gonna get easier. But why dont u want kids, not ready to be a mom? R u not financially stable? They are things that u can talk with him about and delete once and for all all of these things that are making u guys argue or disagree
2006-09-26 11:31:57 · answer #3 · answered by chinaz777 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, dont be mad, that sometimes happens. But if you dont want kids just now and cant be on the pill anymore, then maybe see your ob and get fitted for a diaphragm so you dont have to worry about him pulling out in time.
2006-09-26 10:19:23 · answer #4 · answered by sooz 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he knew your feelings about pregnancy, why you wanted him to pull out...then yes you do have the right to be mad out of lack of respect for your feelings. If he didn't know the reason behind why you wanted him to pull out then no, you don't really have the right to be mad. :)
2006-09-26 10:20:29 · answer #5 · answered by 2¢ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess now you know why the with-drawl method is not a reliable source of birth control as so many people have discovered before you and has been known to most people for a long time.
2006-09-26 10:20:29 · answer #6 · answered by Iknowthisone 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's done. What's the point in being mad. It can't possibly get you anything positive. Given the same circumstances, it will most likely happen again.
2006-09-26 12:08:10 · answer #7 · answered by delmaanna67 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i am going through the same thing girl i just miscarried and my man tried me like that the other day too, and yes i got mad at him but not for long i just let him know that i didnt want him to
2006-09-26 10:16:35 · answer #8 · answered by Victoria 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you have to be mad at your irresponsibility too. if you dont want kids. use condoms or go to your doctor and get the ring put in. problem solved.
2006-09-26 10:38:28 · answer #9 · answered by american hispanic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you get pregnant? If yes, then I would be angry (as long as your husband knew you didn't to get pregnant yet.) But if you didn't get pregnant then make sure your husband fully understands your feelings and make him wear a condom.
2006-09-26 10:14:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋