I am really close with one of my best friends. We talk about any and everything. We have so much in common. He he has been in a relationship since I met him, so I never thought of being with him. He's really sweet, but she doesn't seem to appreciate him. She always accuses him of cheating, even though he never has. She has messed around on him though. He spoils her and she doesn't diserve it. They just broke up. I'm moving away for a little while. I have been thinking about the possibility of me and him together. Since I started thinking about it, I can't stop. I think about the things she did wrong to him. I think about how wonderful he was to her. I think about what it would be like falling asleep in his arms. Or what it would be like to hold his hand. I even think about what it would be like to really kiss him for the first time. He is all I think about now. He could make me forget about everything that hurts me. Do I tell him how I feel even though I'm leaving?
2006-09-26 03:00:27 · 25 answers · asked by Alexia S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yeah tell him, you never know how he feels toward you!
2006-09-26 03:02:40 · answer #1 · answered by SittingBull 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would handle this one carefully. Since he just broke up with this other woman he may need some recovery time. First and foremost, be his friend. Yes, you are moving away but that doesn't mean you can't still be there for him. (Trust me, I've maintained friendships over a lot of miles and a lot of years.)
Keeping the friendship close will also provide you with another benefit: First, you can remind him to allow himself time to breathe and recover. (Legitimately good advice that I would give under any circumstances.) Second, if he tells you he's looking again, or that he met someone THEN you can step in and tell him how you feel! Ideally though I would wait at least a few months. You know him. When you think he's ready to get back in the game talk to him. But do be prepared. You are crossing a line here and you COULD be risking your friendship. I hope it works out for you. Sounds like it could be a great match.
2006-09-26 10:06:42 · answer #2 · answered by danl747 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, as he's broken up with her, this is an opportunity that might not come again. It could be embarrassing if he turns you down, but then again, you will kick yourself if you don't do anything then he meets someone else. It doesn't matter that you're moving away - lots of couples get round problems of being in different towns - and if he turns you down at least you'll be somewhere new where you can make a fresh start. Good luck!
2006-09-26 10:06:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him how you feel - but leave out your opinion of his ex. The best thing that you can do for yourself is be honest with him and tell him how you feel. Even if you are leaving, if the feelings are mutual then there's a possibility of a wonderful relationship, if not then you will know the truth and start to move forward.
2006-09-26 10:05:43 · answer #4 · answered by Please use other door 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ooooh be careful, what is more important to you.. having him in your life for the rest of your life as a friend, or trying him as a lover and then falling out with him? It all depends on how much you want him and really want him, not just because he is available. I do say, if you dont try you will never know, but do you think you could repaire your friendship if anything did go wrong.
2006-09-26 15:29:51 · answer #5 · answered by jayne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You only live once and you have to make the most of what life you have!!!!! go for it tell him how you feel what have you got to lose??? Just take the bull by the horns and go for it. Have fun and remember living with regrets and what if's are very hard. If you dont try you never know.
Good luck
2006-09-26 10:47:25 · answer #6 · answered by Secretguk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you already have most of what makes for a great relationship, being best friends! Take it a step farther and tell him. If it works out, fantastic. If not, you should still be able to be friends if it was true.
2006-09-26 10:57:41 · answer #7 · answered by stever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is such a hard situation to be in, i know because i've been in it myself! You should definatly tell him, its hard but u feel so much better afterwards, i was lucky enuf to actually get a happy ending and i am still ever so much in love with him now
2006-09-26 10:22:31 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ Jodi ♥ Kaydi's Mummy ♥ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
relationships like that rarely work out because hes the one you confide in hes the one you realy realy open up to. being his partner ou would most probabuly have some inhabitions. plus you cant realy be sure if hes over his ex
2006-09-26 10:08:11 · answer #9 · answered by Q? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,i guess theres nothing wrong in expressing your feelings towards him to him,he should know what you think about him as you guys are really close to each other...but i think you delayed it a too long,but still better late than never and one sided love is no love!!good luck!!
2006-09-26 10:22:21 · answer #10 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In love you should always listen to your heart.
You shouldn't even be asking this question.
Stop thinking and "feel" your way to what to do.
2006-09-26 10:06:47 · answer #11 · answered by St.Anger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋