second misscarriage...how to overcome it???

Question

I had another misscarriage last friday, and i am really sad, I want to know, is there any possibility i can get pregnant and have a healthy baby... i know that there are a lot of women have had more than two misscarriages and then healthy babies, but how can i overcome my fears of loosing another baby and the guilt of what happened????

Answer 1

I went through the same thing and they were back to back, there is no way to really "get over" the feelings that you have, you have to "deal with it" in your own way, you can celebrate that God gave you life for the small amount of time that he did and thank him for that blessing or whatever makes you feel at ease, it will never be easy. I am sure if you can get pregnant you most likely can retain a pregnancy ONCE the doctors find out why they are happening, you need to find a doctor who will do a complete blood work on your hormones and find out why they are happening, most doctors wont do this till after 3 miscarriages but a good one will do everything on you now. I found out my progesterone levels were off. I could get pregnant but my body wouldnt produce enough hormone to retain the pregnancy. Keep your head up sweetie things will open up for you and you will be holding your miracle before you know it!

Answer 2

Well I've had 5 miscarriages and I've just fallen pregnant again. There is no easy way to get over it. I dont know where you live but in the Uk you'd be sent for fertility testing after 3 miscarriages (which I had... mine are just down to bad luck apparently). Just give yourself time. I leave about a year in between trying so I'm emotionally and physically better.

Dont feel guilty, every doctor I have seen has said that if a miscarriage is going to happen it will happen, there is nothing you can do to change that! Its not your fault (unless you did something really stupid like drugs etc etc)

Just give yourself time hunny, next time you try do your best to have a positive outlook on it because worrying about a miscarriage could well lead to a miscarriage!!!!

Take care

Answer 3

I had a miscarriage and then was told by numerous doctors that I could not have a baby. 6 years later I had a baby. The doctors said it was a miracle but I would not be able to have another baby. Then I had another miscarriage 3 years later. But then 3 years after that I had another "impossible" baby.

So the total is 2 miscarriages and 2 healthy babies. BTW second daughter's middle name is Faith cuz I always had faith that I would have another child.

You should not give up.

Answer 4

You WILL have a happy and healthy baby. Be sad, mourn, but then move on. Stress isn't going to help you with your future pregnancies. Meditate (or pray if you're so inclined) and let your fears go. I know WAY too many poeple who've gone on and had healthy babies after several miscarriages. One out of every three pregnancies ends in a miscarriage (used to be one in four), so afetr you've come to terms with your loss, move on and be hopeful (without getting too excited) and you won't be disappointed in the long run.

Answer 5

It is hard to over come but you can do it. I had 2 miscarriages in between my second and third child. I talked to my gynecologist about it. And together we worked it out. I also went through therapy to help with the fear of loosing another child. But a few years later I had my wonderful little girl who is now 3. I wouldn't give up trying to have a baby unless your doctor advises you not to. And try going to therapy to over come your fears, they also have support groups that help a lot.
Good Luck.

Answer 6

1st of all it isn't your fault, unless you know you did something on purpose to harm the baby. ( And it don't sound like you did)

2nd Ive never lost a child, OMG I can only image what that feels like. So My prayers will be with you.

rd. Id seek medical advise, do you know yours and your husbands blood type? I think I've heard something about couples having miscarriages because of the opposite blood types, or if you have Neg blood??? look into that.. my cuz says she has to have injections before and after a child to carry to because of her neg blood type? She had several miscarriages before she found that out.

Good luck and keep the faith. Pray!

Answer 7

I am sorry to hear this and can't imagine for one second how you are feeling. You have to move forward though! You have to be strong and not scared. You shouldn't have guilt, your babies were not meant for this world but I am sure there is one that is meant for it when the time is right. Stop beating yourself up about it and carry on trying, the time will come! Good Luck!

Answer 8

Greetings little soldier:

i understand your worry , but , cheer up there are times where one person or another will get preg. without trouble and carry full term every time and just P*&Y%^^%^%$ off others and there are people like you and my wife and i... we had 2 miscarriages and a still birth before our first full term pregnancy happened now my son is 18 and my daughter is 14 and thye were both not expected to carry either...just keep plugging and it will hit when it is time

Answer 9

There is no way to know which pregnancy will go full term and which ones won't. You did nothing wrong. Keep trying though. Change doctors if you feel you need to, perhaps there is an underlying cause that can be treated.

Answer 10

i think of that many human beings would be keen to furnish you yet another probability. i might, and that i don't additionally be attentive to you. no person in this earth is optimal, all of us make errors. As we develop in existence, we do substitute. in case you extremely want the folk on your existence to furnish you a 2d probability, then take each possibility to tutor the hot "you." enable human beings be attentive to which you have made some undesirable selections in existence, yet which you are trying to head previous that and to be a greater advantageous individual. movements communicate louder than words, so only commence being that new individual. it may take time to earn know and have confidence, quite in case you have left a great number of harm alongside the way. you may even prefer to contemplate asking the harmed to forgive you for the discomfort you led to them, you are going to be shocked on the reaction you get. Do pass forward and set up new relationships besides, as there will be no detrimental historic past to get interior the way. stable luck on your New commence! you're already on the suitable music to transforming into a greater advantageous individual. you ought to to encompass your self with people who exhibit the features, values and features you idealize, persist with their occasion, that's going to truly aid you. NurseMom :)