He has been good when he wants to be and bad when he wants to be.I am one person who likes to remember good things and forget and forgive wrong things.I miss him a lot though he has done enough to hurt me .He has taken my child from me and i miss him a lot.Miss the life when just three of us together.Lot of people got between us and both of us realize that.But he doesnt want accept that it his parents role also in that.He has been divorced before also.I started my life with him and have learnt many things thru him.He was also older to me by 09 yrs.I end up hearing his music recorded for me.What do i do?I miss the life together.My well wishers tell me to move on life.Its not that easy.I am living with a hope that things will be alright one day.Is it depression. Is it going to take time for me to become normal.Is it possible to live without my son.i CANT THINK OF LIVING MY LIFE WITHE ANYBODY.Do i still belong to older thoughts.I belong to India and i would want replies in respect to Indi
2006-09-26 02:55:48 · 16 answers · asked by jennifer r 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Its really tough to answer and console yu.
Although yur age and background is missing in the information, still Ms. Jennifer yu know time is best remedy. I will suggest, pl don lost in the memories of gud or bad, get up and face yur life with all mental toughness. Yu will soon find the new avenues are waiting for yu with more wide spectrum.
Cheer up! and in Hindi, "Wo tumhe nahi mila; Jo tumne manga tha..........Leking wo tumhe jarur milega jo tumhe chahiye tha"
Wish yu world all good wishes for yu.......Good Luck!
2006-09-26 04:04:21 · answer #1 · answered by Rohit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, his history of divorce should have meant somethin right?? Did you try and find out about the reason for his first divorce? Anyways, i just want to prove a point that you should learn from others misktakes as well as yor own.
CHEER UP GIRL! Everything happens for a reason. If you can imagine a life without your son, i would definitely advice you to contact an NGO soon as possible and take your ex-husband to court. No child deservoes to be separated from his mother and im sure you wil get your son back.
Try to make changes in your life. Take up new hobbies, Join courses, make new friends, have an active social life... just don't spend your time thinking abt the past! Im sure you will get over him with the passage of time... time is the greatest healer!
Good luck and God bless.
2006-09-26 13:09:19 · answer #2 · answered by freshlimesoda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good friend once told me everything happens for a reason. Your family was a part of your life, your history, who you are. You cannot undo that. A bad thing has happened to you, and now it is over. You must somehow end it within yourself. Only you can control how you feel about something. You can allow it to overtake you and depress you, or you can focus on yourself, on healing you. Do something you really enjoy. Something you have to concentrate on. Try to avoid being idle. Exercise. The passage of time will soften your pain, and eventually you willbe happy again, but you must work at it. Just give yourself some time, there's no "on off" switch to inner peace and happiness. Counseling and or a doctor can help if you're seriously depressed. You just sound broken hearted right now. Get out there and force yourslf to become part of life.
2006-09-26 10:05:36 · answer #3 · answered by Mike 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dear i agree with what u feel as i too belong from india and married last ten years .at this point of time i can just tell u that we womans r very sensitive when we love some one then we r very loyal to them. while this rearly happens with men. they r always practical.they r having strong heart and relations heardly matters to them so dear pls think this that firstly if he really loved u and respected u he would never leave u ,and if he left u and took ur child that means he is truely heartless.try to forget him as he never deserved u.u can be happy always by moving ahead do a job,meet people and keep ur self busy may be u can find some one who will love u and care u the way u loved and cared,it is never too late u will forget him as far as ur child is concerned u cant forget becoz he is ur blood but u can try to be normal as life has to go on.forgeting and forgiving is a good habbit .so forget him and look ahead for a new sunshine and a beautiful day which is waiting for u.my blessings are with u.
2006-09-26 10:33:23 · answer #4 · answered by jasmine 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You belong where ever ur son is.. he needs you just as much as u need him, and if he lives with his father then u need to be where ever his father is living.. same town ect.. Im sorry that ur feeling hurt, this is part of divorce.. and the pain could last for a very long time.. the best u can do is be the best mom u can be to your son, see him as often as u can...but ur focus needs to be on him now.. if you and ur husband are meant to be together again it will happen, but if not u'll find someone else that will make your heart whole again.. but since u dont know what the future holds, just do ur best to focus on ur son..and let the rest be in Gods hands..
2006-09-26 10:10:41 · answer #5 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you will never be able to separate you memories from him or vice verse He is a part of you and the life you had together and the child that you share will always be a reminder of the bond that you share. my advise to you is not to try to block them out or to make them go away......embrace the memories and make them work for you But remember this.....take the good memories and revel in them, do not forget or let them tarnish, they will get you through many hard times ahead and they will be there to warm you at night. Take the bad or not so good memories and learn from them, use them to help you move on and to not make the mistakes that you may have in the past. Use all of this and try to move on and make a life for you once again. If you find that you are having a harder time and that you cannot do this, find a friend, counselor or a member of your place of worship. You do not have to do this alone. I hope this helps and I will pray for you.
2006-09-26 10:08:18 · answer #6 · answered by NolaDawn 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
memories never fade..specially the gud moments spent together... there are two options for u..one is that try to patch up with him and reason out that its been coz of others meddling in ur affairs and convince him to be back with u...as its really difficult to be away from one u still have feelings for and ur child the second is find another guy with whom u will have a more comfort level than what u had which will as time passes by make u forget ur old relations
2006-09-27 03:24:50 · answer #7 · answered by sweeeeeeeeet sood 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For your child sake bear every grudge without responding.Do good to even bad people & leave it on God.From your side don't do anything wrong.It is truly said that the wrongs have to pay the price in this world only.The price that you are paying is of your past.Your today is your past so do good to make your past good.
Without thinking go & start living with your child.Your world is your child so smilingly go & say sorry to whatever,even if you are right.Pray to God regularly & if possible join Yoga,it will prove wonders.
2006-09-27 00:33:29 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear that you were separated from your son. I don't know why anyone would take a child away from their mother, But whatever it may be you need to worry about your son and getting him back! Once you have accomplished that, then you can think about your Husband. Time will cure the pain, first try accepting your mistakes and improving them, I am not saying it was your fault but it will remove the feeling of guilt inside you, and will ease the pain.
2006-09-26 10:07:30 · answer #9 · answered by Ladyshy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are the second one for him to divorce, there are chances for him to marry again and even divorce again. What would you do if he marries again and what would you do if you again landup in the same problem if you make up your mind to stay with him again.
Better engage yourself in some good hobbies. Though it is too hurting to forget a beloved one and the child too, you have to sustain that as you have gone for divorce.
2006-09-28 06:11:10 · answer #10 · answered by sona_d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋