We met a year ago at our department store jobs, and from NYE have been a strong couple, so much love and so much respect for each other. He's been there for me through the tough times i've had this year with new responsibilities, the need for me to find a new job, etc. Not long ago i started work in the call centre of a major company, which is a job that pays better than the department store. Ever since then he has been getting sadder and sadder and i've been so supportive cos he just has so much trouble finding a job even tho hes qualified to do IT, so much so that i helped him apply for a job at my work. It took them a while to reply, but with me getting to know some people there, his resume got moved up and he got the phone interview, but its almost been a week and he has not heard from them since. Now he is so sad that he tends to take it out on me cos he only talks to me, and he says he's nothing and i try to console him, but i dont know what else to do! I LOVE HIM but im scared!!
2006-09-26 02:51:11 · 6 answers · asked by bigsista 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My husband went through the same thing hon, he was without work for over a year, and I could sense that his frustration had lead to depression and so on...He took it out on me also, and all I can say, is just be understanding, be there to listen, sometimes that is all they want, no advice..just listening, being supportive and encouraging him to move forward is all you can do.
Even though you have helped him by getting this phone interview, I wouldn't bring up the fact that you helped him get that far...let him believe that he got there on his own merit...A Males Ego and Pride is very hard to maintain when he is brought up to be the bread winner..statistically speaking, of course.
2006-09-26 03:04:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look this guy, so called man is a cry baby. Just because he faces a road block in life he lets it get him down. We all have had roadblocks in life, but how we deal with adversity is the true answer to a person. He should be bound and determined to find a job and not let this get him down. If he keeps trying sooner or later he will find a job. What he is going through is a reason why people hate trying to find another job, it is very demanding and it really tests a persons patience.
2006-09-26 02:57:08 · answer #2 · answered by Rooster 1972 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Help him. Find him a hobby, take him for walks, do something to take his mind out of the narrow tunnel of darkness and self pity that he's in and remind him that life is about so much more. Some people will stew on things if that's all they've got to think about and turn it into something way bigger than it is. He needs a good distraction.
2006-09-26 03:06:46 · answer #3 · answered by Kristy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have got to be kidding me. He needs to get the chip off his own shoulder, get a better attitude. If he is soooooo sad then he's probably coming off like that in interviews. Instead of spending your time babying him, go find something fun to do and if he is not into it - find someone that is.
2006-09-26 02:59:40 · answer #4 · answered by natural g 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
BE SUPPORTIVE.
2006-09-26 02:54:26 · answer #5 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This story is too long...but thanks for the two points.
2006-09-26 02:56:26 · answer #6 · answered by Jookemgood 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋