I just found out last week im pregnant by a guy ive only been with for FOUR months. He hasnt event told me he loves me yet. Is this bad? Should i confront him about it?
2006-09-26 02:49:44 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Confront him? From what you've posted I don't think he's done anything wrong. Having sex with him was a mutual decision. You should tell him, obviously. I wish you the best of luck whatever you and your boyfriend decide to do.
2006-09-26 02:51:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Confront" him?? You make it sound like its all his fault. Unless he has been raping you on a regular basis, you share equal blame...if not more, since you had the option to say "no".
But what is done is done. Yes, you should talk to him about the pregnancy. If there is a possibility of you two staying together, great! But if not, then start deciding what to do now. Can you envision yourself being a single Mom? Would you consider finding a reputable adoption service where they find prospective parents for your baby and will help cover your medical costs and maybe even some of your living expenses until the baby is born? Of course, there is abortion, but be sure you can live with that decision...not just now, but later as you get older and are looking back on the "what-if's" in your life.
Good luck to you...and the baby.
2006-09-26 03:05:47 · answer #2 · answered by kathy_is_a_nurse 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course confront him! Shame on you for getting pregnant so soon, not being as careful as you obviously should.. but don't hold something like that back from him.
If he's a good guy, he'll stay, or at least stay around for the baby and to support and help you out.
If not, SUE!
ha.. kidding...... well.. no i'm not.
2006-09-26 02:58:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Will you keep the baby if he doesn't want to be a part of its life? Make the decision what you will do first and stick to your guns. Don't make a decision based on what he tells you to do. I hope he is supportive and you two can work something out but if not be prepared to deal with it on your own however you decide to. Then tell him the news and see how he feels about it and what you two can work out. Good Luck.
2006-09-26 03:18:06 · answer #4 · answered by therealprinsess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that. It's a tough situation. I think you two should work things out. Yes, tell him, do not confront him, but have a conversation and decide what's the best thing to do.
Good luck!
2006-09-26 02:54:02 · answer #5 · answered by MD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Four months really isn't a long time. So, expecting him to say he loves you isn't necessarily fair game. As far as the pregnancy, if this is his baby then he has the right to know ASAP. Good Luck with everything :)
2006-09-26 02:57:49 · answer #6 · answered by angeleyez0608 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could be bad. confront him about WHAT? i assume you were there when you got pregnant and someone should have used something in the way of birth control. but since neither of you took precautions, you should sit down like adults and decide what you are going to do to take care of the situation.
2006-09-26 02:52:57 · answer #7 · answered by Sylvia H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depending on how old, mature he is. Pick a time when he is vulnerable to you, don't wait to long though he will find out on his own. And no it is not a bad thing regardless of the outcome hopefully you have family and friends to help you make the best decision. Go to them they will be your biggest support.
2006-09-26 02:55:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you planning on keeping this child? If yes, you need to confront him to let him know. 4 month's is a little soon, but things could work out just communicate with one another. CONGRATULATIONS!!!! (Good Luck)!!!!!
2006-09-26 02:54:29 · answer #9 · answered by Vicky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you can have sex and get pregnant doesnt mean he has to love you.. and being pregnant doesnt make someone love you. You should have waited for him to tell you he loves you since it is bothering you that much.. dont ask him about.. he will tell you when he wants..
2006-09-26 02:52:36 · answer #10 · answered by Bell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋