the guy am dating seems so distant, he dogdes my family functions with no sound excuse and he never invites me to his. should i chuck him? am confused
2006-09-26 02:43:59 · 15 answers · asked by natuj 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well thats up to u and how serious of a problem this has become to u.. some people dont want to meet someone elses family or bring them home to meet theirs till they know its a very committed relationship , meaning they are on the verge of marriage.. and that could be whats going on with him.. he's not ready to marry u , so he's still keeping his distance from all family functions.. he doesnt want u to just be "Some other girl " that his parents met, and him to be just "Some other guy" your parents met once..
2006-09-26 02:47:05 · answer #1 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My man was totaly like that in the begining it took me three years to break that we have now been together 4 and I just got him to meet my grandmother some guys are weird like that maybe he is afraid by meeting the families there will become pressure to commit and he's not ready ask him flat out if he's just not ready give him time it means when he does take you home to meet mom you know you can expect a diamond however if he gets angry about this conversation just let him go he's hiding something *** enough to make his family off limits to you. I hope thats not it. Good Luck
2006-09-26 02:49:45 · answer #2 · answered by Katlynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah. sounds like you are family oriented and he isn't. also sounds like he has somethign to hide or not sure about bringing you around family as he is unsure about how he really feels about you. go ahead and chuck him before you get aggravated or your feelings hurt.
I dated a guy like that only he didn't care to be around his own family which was a red flag. I had a strange vibe when I did meet his mom and siblings but it was one that told me I would not be comfortable with them as in-laws. That's another reason you need to meet his family but you can't so let it go, I guess.
2006-09-26 02:51:27 · answer #3 · answered by Skypride 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how long you've been dating and on whether or not you have a monogomous relationship.
Has he made a committment to you? Has he asked for one? If not, he may still be dating other people.
Perhaps he thinks it's too soon to meet your family.
2006-09-26 02:48:26 · answer #4 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My family is very important to me and i personally would definitely chuck him, but if you like him a lot, keep him around for a while to try and figure why he is like this.
2006-09-26 02:51:49 · answer #5 · answered by mstngsally26 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not confront him first, tell him that family functions are important to you...or as you say, move on, because he sounds like a confirmed loner...depends on how YOUR feelings run.
Offer to help him if he gets counselling.
2006-09-26 02:47:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends how long you've been dating - if it's still new he's probably not ready to meet the family - once you meet the family the relationship usually jumps to the next level - he may not want that level of commitment rite now.
2006-09-26 03:00:19 · answer #7 · answered by livetall1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he doesnt sem interested in yr family matters or let u get close towards his family.. it really depends on how long u ppl have been dating.... ASK HIM THE QUESTION at the right time... dont wait for thr the worst time.. just pop up the question anytime when he is in a mood tio listen..... CLEARLY AK HIM HIS VIEWS... if he yet seems not answerable i dont think its worth wasting time behind him,,,,
2006-09-26 02:58:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can sit down and talk this problem out. If you don't
get a clear resolution to the problem,you two might be
better off to find someone else.
2006-09-26 02:55:31 · answer #9 · answered by caroline j 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds as if he doesn't see you as a permanent girlfriend yet. just give it time and relax. if you don't see changes soon, and it bothers you, talk to him.
if you want to leave him after that, then you'll know at the time.
2006-09-26 02:50:30 · answer #10 · answered by wayouthere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋