I've been married for 28 yrs. sex has been exactly the same all these years, how do I approch my husband with trying new things? he is very hard to talk to about some things. how do I get him to explore? I NEED HELP! or I'm affraid I might end up cheating on him...
2006-09-26 02:38:13 · 19 answers · asked by ondrea b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hi sweaty
if I was you I'd go to the nearest sex store and buy a dildo or a vibrator lay down in bed and start masturbating just before you expect him to come home when he comes in and catches you don't stop just give him a great show and let him see you have the best orgasm you have ever had, PLAY IT UP. that will get his attention and he will want to know what got you so turned on . It might take more than one time but I think if he saw that you can really get that turned on it will do the same for him , if not at least you have a new toy to please yourself.
2006-09-26 03:59:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first you have to find out what he likes. Then you start suggesting. If he's shy, this may take a little time. Be open. Tell him what you like, share fantasies. Start showing him little more attention than usual, rub him, cater to him.. Remember they love their ego stroked. Then start opening the door, try bending over, no panties, he comes home answer the door naked. Create moods, take the time to make it interesting. But you should be prepared accept. Men have some pretty nasty thoughts. Be prewpared that you make open doors you did not xpect.
If you ask questions you should never have problems, talk to each other as you watch a porno.
2006-09-26 10:17:35 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy a cosmo and keep it by the toilet and just clean out any other reading material, get rid of the old stuff if you know what I mean. Cosmo contains a lot of stuff that will get his mind working. He may ask you what kind of trash you are reading and of course you read it for the fashion and beauty tips (like guys read playboy and penthouse for the articles...LOL), but then you can ask him what so bad about it that he thinks it is trash. This can open a conversation with him about different things sexually and it is not like you are bringing them up, they were in the cosmo and he will have already read them...It's worth a try...
2006-09-26 09:48:40 · answer #3 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes its difficult for a man to accept the fact they aren't doing everything above and beyond. If talking with him has yielded no success then its time to grab the bull by the balls.
Got a fantasy? Does he? Make it happen. Strolling on the beach? Alone? Drop down and service him. You get the idea
2006-09-26 09:41:44 · answer #4 · answered by Jeffer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What ever happend to "forsakeing all others"???? Just because the sex isn't as explosive as you would like, you are considering cheating? Do him a favor and file for divorce. You aren't completely devoted to him if this is how you are feeling.... Put the shoe on the other foot and think about how you would feel if he were to cheat on you.....
2006-09-26 09:42:09 · answer #5 · answered by ladysteelersince1976 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
"Your afraid u might end up cheating on him" LOL!!! Your a smart one, I love u thinking!!! WHATEVER!! Just talk to him in a sincere matter if he is hard to talk to. If he cares he would listen and try to make you feel as happy as possible. Good Luck!!
2006-09-26 09:49:13 · answer #6 · answered by **What??** 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
28 yrs is a long time , you've been married that long I am pretty sure you can go to him and talk to him .. let him know you wanna try new things to spice it up a lil
2006-09-26 17:35:37 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ Army Wife ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
watch some videos together, invest in some toys. Sometimes actions are needed and are way better than talking to him about it.
2006-09-26 09:43:05 · answer #8 · answered by shae 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
start off by saying you love him and how you enjoy him now but would luv to explore new things with him
2006-09-26 11:09:05 · answer #9 · answered by OFFICER CAMPBELL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rent triple x movies and tell him you will like to do the different positions that they show......buy him the kamasutra for his birthday or just surprise him do something nasty to him!!!
2006-09-26 09:43:12 · answer #10 · answered by haki 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋