My husband's ex-girlfriend calls him from time to time and tells him that she thinks about him all the time and wants to know if that matters to him? She asks him if he will take her back? and I might add that this is the same girl that cheated on him with my ex-boyfriend YES!!! My ex and I broke up after 4 years, because she cheated on my husband with him and as fate would have it my husband and I ended up together married now for over a year and have a 1 year old little boy together! I told me ex- to just stay away and he has, he has moved on and it was hard for him but he has.but, my husband's ex will not move on she keeps popping up! My husband has told her over and over that he wants nothing to do with her, and that he is happily married and loves his wife and child What should I do? He has already had to get his cell number changed! now she is calling him at work SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME???? I love my husband and trust him, but I dont want her in our family picture!!!!
2006-09-26 02:05:19 · 29 answers · asked by YOUKNOWYOUWANNAKNOW 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if he is going to great lengths to avoid her calls and efforts of contact,,she is harrassing him,,have you gotten on the phone and said your piece?,,it would seem you have respect for your husband because you say nothing of interfearing yourself which,,lets face it many women would scream and stalk the other woman and threaten her with violence,,you seem to have thought ,,'this is his ex,his business,,he should sort it' which i have to say is what i would do BUT,,she may,,from what you have said,,,consider the fact that you havent jumped in as meaning she is in with a chance,,she may even think you know nothing of her because your husband obviously keeps things from you,,you and he know this isnt the case but you are not getting very far being mature about it now are you,,,,,,if it were me,,wait to see if she does this again and then YOU call her,,give the fool a dressing down and let her know she is embarrassing herself,,and dont forget to laugh,,if she continues,call the police as for all you and he know,,she is a potential stalker in the making,,some people need no encouragment as even saying no,for them is contact. you and he have been fair and now it is time not to be fair anymore,,he is your man,all is not fair in love and war.
2006-09-26 02:20:14 · answer #1 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I truly question your husband here. I know this is not what you would like to hear.
You are "married" there is no reason there should be any communication between the both of them. It is completely up to him to stand up and say "enough" if he truly wanted to cut it off, it would be completely "done". Only he can make her go away, it has nothing to do with you.
Just think about it for a moment if you were in her place, you wanted him back (just a thought here) and he treated you like crap, drew the line of "no communication", and told you I "don't want you anymore". wouldn't you back off?
I just can't understand why he would be sharing all this with you, is only going to get you upset. and "yes" I'm sure you rather know etc...but in the long run, he needs to set her straight and be done with her. He shouldn't accept any of her phone calls at work. If she does continue to call "hang up" she will get the message just as long "HE" stays firm! The only thing that she should be able to say when he picks up is "hi", and right there he should say BYE and hang up. I think he's letting her talk way too much, and giving her the attention she is looking for, so you really need to think this through and be sure that he ends it NOW.
All the best.
2006-09-26 02:21:12 · answer #2 · answered by E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time for you to speak with her this is harrasment explain that you are giving her fair warning and your husband is taking notes on the calls to hand over to an attorney and that you are not against pressing charges don't back down and don't get worked up thats what she wants just tell her matter of factly that you are both very serious about this. In the end usualy the threat of litigation will deal with a reasonable human being and if she's not you press charges file a restaining order let her know you mean buisness.
2006-09-26 02:17:06 · answer #3 · answered by Katlynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say restraining order since she is calling him at work. Other than changing your phone numbers you might have another option putting a block on your phone that would require her to state her name upon calling and then you can reject that one call. I know it is an option in some areas. It is good to hear that you aren't threatened by her and that you trust your husband. If all else fails just ignore her and hope that she gets the hint. Although, that doesn't sound like it is going to happen anytime soon.
2006-09-26 02:29:38 · answer #4 · answered by ladysteelersince1976 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband to let his work know that his ex is harrassing him at work by calling. So they will be aware of it,,and so that he doesnt get him in trouble. Have his boss or someone speak to his ex. Or have him get a restraining order on her,for bothering him. She sounds like a crazy *****. You and him have a child together and she still doesnt care and trying to break up a family? Trifiling hoe. If you havent confronted her yet,,,maybe you should. This is a tough situation...your husband has to be the one to put a stop to it. And he got to mean it,when he tells her that its over for good. Or maybe you should find someone to whip her ***,,,or do it yourself.
2006-09-26 02:11:12 · answer #5 · answered by michelle 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, other than calling her yourself and threatening to whup her ***, there's little you can do... your husband has said and done nearly all he can do. He can now refuse her calls at work and if she does happen to get him on the phone, to just hang up on her.
Just maintain your composure and your stance; NEVER doubt or blame your husband for her antics because you do NOT want to give her any energy. Stay strong and committed as a family and she'll eventually get tired of her efforts.
2006-09-26 02:21:51 · answer #6 · answered by E. Gads 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is harassment and stalking. Laws do apply. Use them. File complaints and get a restraining order. Call the phone company too and give them the number you are getting these calls from. Stop her now.
2006-09-26 02:15:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband needs to get a restraining order on her. If he truely does not want anything to do with her, then this won't be a problem for him. You should not do anything. She obviously has a problem with you, she cheated with your first man, now trying to get this one back. You need to be supportive of your husband and inform him to get a restraining order. If he objects, then you know he doesn't mind her calling him. Good luck.
2006-09-26 06:33:45 · answer #8 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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This is probably the most important part. With texting, you can stop and think about what you want to say to your ex at each step of the way. Instead of reacting emotionally, you can take your time, figure out the right thing to say (I’ll give you most of it), and be strategic with your ex without saying something that you’ll regret.
2016-04-24 10:19:14 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to understand that possible scenario,she doesn't really want/love your husband rather, her intention is to bring havoc on your blissful marriage if not to break it up. For this reason,i don't see anything preventing you from taking necessary actions,ask for legal intervention,or whatever you think can stop her before she achieves her mission.Believe you me,she won't stop unless she is stopped. There are many of them out there,they are miserable,clog in a wheel,nothing but just a mere nightmare.Prove to her you can stop her,you can stop her,stop her before she stops you!
2006-09-26 02:27:21 · answer #10 · answered by Samuel O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋