i cannot get ANY kind of job, and i mean that. most people seem to think that it means i am not trying. they say, just get some shitty boring job. the point is that i can't even get those. i have tried. nobody wants me. the way i was brought up was to be polite, unassuming, gentle. even to answer a phone they want a **** who can yell really loudly about himself and has ambition. essentially, someone who i would probably hate. so the question is: should i keep trying? or just run away and hide? and why should i have to change, if indeed i can, or should? to be honest, this is becoming more of a rhetorical question.
what if you do not fit in with society, at all, through no fault of your own?
2006-09-26 02:02:42 · 5 answers · asked by barnyianni 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Don't give up.Everyone has a place in society you just have to find it.We could give you some suggestions if we knew what your interests are.
2006-09-26 02:45:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, lots of answers here. Mainly because I think a lot of people feel/have felt the same way as you. Probably more than you think. (Myself included at one point.) And society is a BIG place, you just have to find your niche in it. SO, here's my 2 cents, some of which I'm sure you've heard before but worth repeating:
1) You are not your job and your job is not you. However, that doesn't meant you can't do something you like to do for a job. What is it you like to do? Any hobbies or interests that you find yourself gravitating towards when you have some spare time? Try looking for jobs in those fields because your interest will motivate you to work harder and go the extra mile while working at a crap job is just that. Crap. (Sometimes soul-draining crap at that!) Don't be afraid to ask for informational interviews either. For the most part, people love to talk about their jobs and its a great way to make some contacts. Speaking of contacts...
2) It took me awhile to realize that for the most part, there are not people out there looking to give you a job. However, the people who are willing to help you the most are your friends and family. (In fact, of all the jobs I've had, not one was found through traditional send-in-your-resume-and-get-an-interview means. All were found through friends of friends.) Start asking around for help and you might be surprised at what turns up.
3) Be persistent. I can't emphasize this one enough. I got my very first job by accident simply because the interview ended by them asking if I could start by September 1st. I didn't hear from them in the following 2 weeks, but I thought the interview went well and I wanted the job so I showed up again on September 1st just in case. They all kinda laughed at me, but I was hired on the spot because I showed initiative and persistence. I'm not saying this works all the time or is advisable, but just when you start making excuses to yourself about why you should not be doing something is exactly when you SHOULD be doing something.
4) Stay true to yourself. Don't become the loud, obnoxious guy if that is not who you are. However being polite, unassuming, and gentle does not mean you cannot pursue a particular job with some passion. Don't be afraid to speak up and speak out, especially if you are getting crapped on.
Hope this helps some, and good luck! Know that there is somebody out there that is pulling for you...
2006-09-26 02:39:56 · answer #2 · answered by Westward 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually we all do have power to do what we are comfortable doing , nothing ever comes easy that is worth having though !
Perhaps you need to step and regroup , figure out what your likes and dislikes are . Even go to a job agency and ask for help in that area . Honey , never think that you are any less cut out for this world than any of the rest of us . If you need to talk you can get my eMail add. from my 360 page.
2006-09-26 05:36:13 · answer #3 · answered by Geedebb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look in the mirror. Who are you? What do you want?
Write down what are your 1) STRENGTHS, 2) Weaknesses, 3) Opportunities & 4) Threats to keep you from accomplishing your goals. Act on your plan, measure your performance & stay busy working your plan.
2006-09-26 02:10:45 · answer #4 · answered by bereftcat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have some financial support, and you must, get some more education, or job training. Get job counseling as well. There are "loner" jobs out there. If you are unkempt, clean yourself up before an interview.
2006-09-26 02:07:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋