he says he loves me but he always goes home to her.he does verything for me but i dont get enough of his time i cant call him while he is home.i love this guy what do i do.
2006-09-26 01:53:08 · 19 answers · asked by lilly 1 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Other - Arts & Humanities
Well, there's this thing called the 7 year itch. There was even a movie made about it. Some people, after about 7 years, need a change in their life. They get bored of their partner.
So, he may be ripe for switching from his common-law wife to you.
But, the problem is, if you become the new substitute wife, someone else is going to have to become the new substitute mistress.
Why are you even with the guy in the first place if you know that he's living with a woman? Is it his mom? Sister? Doesn't sound like it.
Methinks you couldn't handle a guy devoted to yourself, otherwise you'd join the ranks of most people who prefer to be in a monogamous relation. You want some distance. You like to complain about the other woman.
2006-09-26 02:00:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey, you need to forget him. He doesn't have enough respect for you or the other woman is his life. If he truly loved you, he'd be coming home to you every night. He may give you everything else, but he's not giving you everything. And if he has the gall to cheat on this other woman with you than he is the dirt underneath your nails. Might be hard but you need to keep looking for that one person that is going to love you, stay true to you, respect you, come home to you, and support you in all the ways you need supported. You don't need a man to be important so branch off, be single, enjoy the single life, find yourself and the right guy will find you. But stop selling yourself short with this man.
2006-09-26 09:03:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a real life and realize that he's banging both of you and getting away with it. Move on. You're being used for sex. What a scum bag. Of course he loves you. You probably do things his wife wont do in the sack. If he's cheating on her and ended up leaving her, next thing you know he would be out chasing some other girl and still doing you. get it. He's a LOSER. Probably gonna get some STD and pass it on to his harem. You better not be in the harem .
2006-09-26 09:05:16 · answer #3 · answered by nicksriders 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All the other answers here are telling you to leave him. Sorry that I can't give that simple of an answer, but honestly I don't know your complete situation, you, or him. First, you have to decide that you truly want him all for yourself regardless of all the complication so far. You have to be the judge of his character and why he's doing what he's doing. If you choose him, he must choose you, too. Give him and ultimatum. Tell him to leave her, or you'll leave him. Regardless of complications or people or attitudes, if he does not leave her, he doesn't love you enough. If you can't leave him after this, it means that he has control over your life. I hope this helps. Good Luck.
2006-09-26 09:07:37 · answer #4 · answered by Locke 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You get out! This guy is using you and saying all the things you want to hear. Trust me. Actions DO speak louder than words. If he loved you, he wouldn't be going home to her. She AND you are BOTH idiots and should get this guy out of your lives. He is not worth your time or trouble. You deserve MUCH better than someone who lies to you. No one can take advantage of you unless you let them!
2006-09-26 09:02:09 · answer #5 · answered by clarity 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a very bad situation indeed.
I think you already know the answer though - he would still rather be with and live with the other woman so LEAVE HIM and find someone who loves and cherishs you as much as you do him.
or just carry on as you have been with the part time lover.
2006-09-26 08:58:10 · answer #6 · answered by weizy_26 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Leave him alone. If he's still going home to her, why would you want to be with him anyway? There are plenty of single men in the world, why pick one that's already taken?
2006-09-26 08:57:25 · answer #7 · answered by Kristina 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. Sounds like he is using you BIG TIME. He loves her more, sorry. Or he'd be going home with you. You can find someone deserving of your dedicated love.
2006-09-26 08:55:27 · answer #8 · answered by Sweet! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's a jerk.. don't listen to him when he say he loves you and all.. it's bullshit.. he has another woman living with him for 7 years remember.. so just leave him alone cause there are still a lot of birds in the sky..
2006-09-26 09:02:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have to make a desicion about being the other one,, better yet ask your self "do I realy want a life like this?" because if you let him do anything he wants with you then he is not giving you your value,, maybe you think that you should'nt tell him anything because you knew he was married,but that dosent mean that you dont have feelings,, you need to let him know that you are not willing to take it anymore he needs to decide ,your feelings are not something that you can control,
2006-09-26 09:04:00 · answer #10 · answered by Airforcepink 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋