I am 29 weeks pregnant and I actually still WANT sex with my husband...but sometimes he doesn't! Others times...thats all he wants! I want to all the time but he just says not right now.
Example: Last night we had sex in the shower...Well I didn't finish so I wanted more. When we climbed into bed I tryed and he said not right now.
I know I'm probably not the HOTTEST right now being so pregnant (I only have a big belly...I'm still tiny everwhere eles)...but I wanted to c-u-m too! It's almost like we have sex untill he finishes then he's done... What can I do to make him want to make me finish? he says I am still extremely sexy... so what's the problem???
*And for all the immature people...
NO HE IS NOT CHEATING!
2006-09-26 01:49:54 · 25 answers · asked by NaVy WiFeY 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no he's not cheating he's exhausted lol.. dont u realize that when a man "finishes" its like a ball of energy ripped from his body.. why do u think most men roll over and fall asleep????? best thing for u to do is either finish urself off.. or have him take care of your needs prior to full intercourse.. but expecting him to be able to just go again right after is crazy.. and i understand the hormones cause when i was pregnant i wanted sex alot to.. but realize your man works all day.. he comes home had sex with u.. and U still wanted.. more and his body was saying "please i want sleep" lol..
Also realize, alot of men have problems sexually while their wife is pregnant and it has nothing to do with how u look but ALOTTTTTTTTTT of men feel awkward having sex with their pregnant wives because they are worried of hurting the baby in the process.. or just feel really weird having sex and theres a baby in there.. so feel lucky that ur husband is still wanting to have sex with u.. lol..
Maybe u should invest in some toys to help get u "over the edge " either before or after.. to make sure u "get yours".. but realize that he's only a man and he has limits too.. he's not a sex machine.. and he does get tired..too.. and it has nothing to do with how u look, or if he loves u , or desires u.. its he's pooped lol..
So try to be more understanding, and try to talk to him and see if u both can come up with a way to make sure u both "get yours" ..
2006-09-26 02:02:53 · answer #1 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i assume that this hasnt always been a problem? Maybe he is getting some stress from work, or thinking about the bills the kids gonna be costing. That would put a damper on his sex drive. It could be you, maybe you are wearing him out. maybe what worked for you both before isnt working now, and he doesnt know what position or moves or whatever to try, and feels stupid asking, so he just does what is normal and gives up. I dont know if whipping out a bob would be a great idea, at least till you've talked about what he can do. Dont withhold the sex either, without a good reason he can understand, unless you want to end the relationship.
2006-09-26 09:00:10 · answer #2 · answered by rand a 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is great that you still want to have a sexual relationship while pregnant. An idea might be for you to take control. Find a position that you like and makes you orgasm and you put it on him first. So, that way when he reaches climax it will be after you are done and you won't have a problem. Some men get excited to know that they made their woman reach climax. This turns them on more. It also makes them look like they care for you more. Then once you have reached climax you can focus on doing the things that he likes and you will both feel satisfied. Hope that helps! happy lovemaking!
2006-09-26 09:09:11 · answer #3 · answered by Bubbles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tough
pregnant women are known for an increased sex drive (because of the increased blood flow to those regions)
but pregnant women are less manageable in bed or elsewhere. And while they can be sexy yes, they do look funny from some angles. Funny, and also a bit intimidating.
personally I had less sex w my wife during her pregnancies, although she wanted more sex.
warn your husband that after birth, you'll most probably will feel much LESS hot, so he should make provisions for later ;-)
2006-09-26 08:55:48 · answer #4 · answered by AntoineBachmann 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't you know that nothing is more sexy than a pregnant woman.the most beautiful of all women is a pregnant woman.your husband may be tired.don't forget that pregnant women are very horny more than usual and he may not be there with,still he should be able to go down on you till you come and then he can do his quick thing.remind him that the more relaxed you are the better the chance of having a peaceful baby.he still loves you bot he is a little overwhelmed
2006-09-26 09:02:42 · answer #5 · answered by miraclehand2020 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have say that it is because you are preg
but because he having sex with you that is not the problem
is him not taken the time to give you an orgasm
so refuse him when he want sex and explain to him that it is because you will only be disappoint that is the reason why
2006-09-26 08:59:56 · answer #6 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing i tell you women feel more sexie during pregnacy , its normal. but if you think you are not hottie any more because of your large belly you are wrong . Your huby stops you for having more as he is worried about your pregnacy. He doesnt want to take the risk of terminating it. though he still wantsto have sexwith you.
What i used to do was that we used to do it in that position where she could stimulate her clit during intercourse.The easy and safe position is make him lie on bed , and you come on him sitting while facing his feet. That way you can have easy approach to your clit and can have orgasm according to your wishTry to have lots of long foreplay before having actual intercorse.
2006-09-26 09:25:16 · answer #7 · answered by soofi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't see a problem; unless his sex libido isn't the same as it was BEFORE you became pregnant.... did you have this much of a sex drive in the past or has it gone into overdrive?
He may not be able to keep up...
2006-09-26 08:55:01 · answer #8 · answered by E. Gads 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him if he wants sex then he needs to be more attentive to your needs. Tell him if he isn't going to do that then no sex at all...what's the point? Or even better...get a vibrator and finish yourself off right in front of him...he will question his manhood and virility and you can tell him....that its a shame you have to take care of yourself in this way....he needs to be a man and step up and get you off too!
2006-09-26 08:57:00 · answer #9 · answered by Shae 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont worry its just a man thing it doesn't mean he doesn't love you but when Ur pregnant and big, the man still has the need to ejaculate but once hes finished he wont be interested.done the same to my misses 13 years ago but were back to normal now.selfish i know but a man thing non the less try not to worry.
2006-09-26 08:54:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋