Do I scare you?

Question

Some people can't handle me. Some people think I'm crazy. Some people think I'm too out there for them, once they get to know me. It makes me want to keep the real me inside, but I just can't make myself do this, to pretend to be something I'm not. I have to be me. I won't change for anyone. If you answer yes or no, please explain your answer.

I'm just asking this because at times I feel like I scare people away, being misunderstood.

Answer 1

No Silly!

You have to be yourself, if not you will never find true happiness.

And, if some people think you are to out there for them, then they are not worth your time. By being yourself you will find people that you want to be surrounded by. People who like you for who you are. I am pretty sure you are a good person maybe a little eccentric (plenty of gifted people are) but, that's a good thing! :-)

Answer 2

Well, I don't know you to say that you scare me or not, however, what you are discribing, you are outgoing, not shy and like to chalange people.

Most people tend to be comfortable in their own bubble and are scared of changes and to try new things. They are scared of being judged, that they might appear "too crazy" and out there.

It doesn't mean that they are bad people, they just tend to block everything out that is too much to handle or that will make them appear a certain way.

You seam young, I would say in your late teens or early 20ies, so now is the time to be as crazy and out there as you want. I use to be you. I know what it is. To a point, we like the shock value and are willing to try everything.

The only thing I can say is that is ok, just know where to draw the line. Don't be anything else but you, but don't be what you think others expect of you to be because of your reputation.

I am in my early thirties now and I am a lot calmer. I have learned a lot from my past experiences and I am very greatful for them. I don't think that I would do now what i did back then, but I don't regret them. Remember, no matter how good we appear to be, in life, there is ALWAYS room for improvement.

Answer 3

Nobody on here is likely to be afraid of you. You do give the impression that maybe you like thinking people are afraid of you.

Be the real you. If people think you're crazy or can't handle dealing with you you may want to consider that you have some issue you ought to address with a professional. In general, if someone seems to have issues with other people there's a good chance they have the issues within themself.

If you are genuinely "out there" and not just someone who likes to think of yourself as different from everyone else because that's a little cooler than being one of the crowd, you can't build a relationship on hiding who you are; but you probably can't have normal relationships by being as "out there" as you genuinely are. Either way, the prospects for your having good relationships aren't good.

I'm not afraid of you. I think you're either someone with emotional problems or else a phony.

Answer 4

Yes, your font scares the hell out of me. But anyway.I've noticed that anyone who asks "do I scare you?", well, they're usually fake. Honestly, are you a psychopath who has killed people before? Do you ride a motorbike and eat babies for lunch? Randomly beat the shyte out of old ladies? Steal money from orphans?

Really, it seems like people usually ask this to get attention. For some reason, people think it's cool to be "scary", and it's goofy. And oddly enough, it's usually the so called "preppy" people who ask this. Are you trying to come across as a bad-*** or something? Because someone who asks complete strangers if they're scared of you is pathetic in my opinion.

Answer 5

No, you don't scare me. You don't scare my wife either :-) I find it refreshing when people say what they think, do as they wish and don't follow preconceived notions of what "normal" is. Miel even mentioned to me this morning how much she liked you...

Don't ever keep the real you inside. The only way that you'll find true friends and true love is by being you. Which reminds me of a story...I'll send it you in a separate message (in the interests of board etiquette).

Answer 6

no, you don't scare me, there is nothing wrong with being yourself. you should be yourself, why would you want to be someone your not. Be true to yourself and what you truly feel is what you want and those who can't deal with your just don't understand you or want to take time to know you and for that are just not worth the time. I don't care what people think or say about me, I am just me and that is good enough for me. I'm strong and can stand on my own. You can too. Good luck.

Answer 7

Er, no, because I don't yet know you or anything 'crazy' that you claim you've done. In my experience most people who think they are "far out there" or "crazier than all their friends" need to spend five minutes in a big city and see what real crazies look like!

Don't worry about it - find some people who appreciate you for what you are.

Answer 8

sometimes u do scare me,,
I do like ur questions, nothings wrong with them...
But some nights, I am just scared of the possibility that you are a mutant monkey trying to rule the world and this is the reason for u not putting ur real pics on internet but use some other woman's pics ( whose brain u have eaten while she was alive )
breeze... :)

Answer 9

No. It's always best to be yourself. Relationships get in trouble when we fall for the facade the other person puts up. Later, when the man behind the curtain is exposed we are lost. Be yourself we need more crazies in the world!

Answer 10

No. You do not affect my life seriously. I don't know you but a (very) few of your questions I've answered so far made me assume that you're a gentle person who uses her imagination very much -- obsessed with the abilities of the mind -- which you rather fascinate me.

Only your closest friends, who know you inside out, can tell what scares them about you... but will definitely love you anyway.

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