i have been with him for 10 years, at first, like any other new relationship, it was great, we moved in together for 4 years but it didnt work, he was very lazy and untidy and didn't help much around the house, anyways i asked him to move out, we seemed to get on better and our relationship continued, he'll ask me round only to be sat there waching him on his pc or watching some sport programme, which i find very annoying, we hardly ever communicate, my feelings have changed towards him alot over the past year, we don't go out any more, we don't do anything together like we used to, if i suggest we do something he says he cant be bothered, i am 43, he's 56, maybe it's his age but i dont want to be in a dull and boring relationship, i am thinking about finishing it, i am bored, and i dont feel the love like i used to, i dont want to get intimate with him, i find it very difficult because it's the same thing every time, no passion, i have my own mind but any suggestions would help
2006-09-26 01:14:35 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
this is your life and about what makes you happy, at 43 you need to start thinking about yourself. you have put a lot of time into this relationship and where has it got you?that is what you need to ask yourself. is he worth more hard work or is it better to say "you know what, I am done". whatever you choose I wish you luck and happiness,
2006-09-26 01:23:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been with my wife for 15 years. We do go through lulls in our relationship. The thing that gets us out of these lulls is talking and keeping an open mind to what the other is saying because most of the time the other is right.
That said, if you've tried talking to him and nothing has changed, give him an ultimatum. If he doesn't show any willingness to try and make things better then move on.
However, you have a part to play in this too. Try adding some spark in your intimacy. Try something different to get his attention. Don't do anything you're uncomfortable with because that will not turn him on.
If he is not responsive to the new elements to you intimacy or to openeing up in conversation then move on after the ultimatum's deline is met.
I know how you feel my wife and I have been there many times but we always renew our relationship.
Best of luck to you.
2006-09-26 01:27:48 · answer #2 · answered by St.Anger 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you already made your decision. Now do something about it. There is nothing wrong about wanting and needing more in life.
Its your life to do what you want and everybody has the right to be happy. Upon leaving, make it simple. Either don't accept invitations from him when he calls , telling him you have other plans, he will either make an effort to get up and do something, maybe even try to rekindle the relationship or he will just accept your busy and he will get it that you are moving on, Or tell him you are not happy and you have decide to discontinue your relationship. with him (without placing blame or fault )and then say goodbye
2006-09-26 01:31:52 · answer #3 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to him about how you feel, find out how he feels about the relationship, and possibly suggest that you two go your own seperate way. Find out if he's willing to change and/or make things better between the two of you, and then you decide for sure if it's time for you to leave or if it's worth it to try and work things out. It's sounds like he's pretty set in his ways though, so I think you might be better off finding someone new.
2006-09-26 01:23:18 · answer #4 · answered by melcar12345 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's time to move on. 43 is young. Make the most of your life.
2006-09-26 02:00:32 · answer #5 · answered by Wild Bill 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Finish it... find someone that will make you happy in all areas of your life. Anyway you tried the living together thing so I don't see you going back there. Keep him as a booty call while looking for someone to make you HAPPY.
2006-09-26 01:18:25 · answer #6 · answered by krickets 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
because of the fact females are no longer mature adequate on the age whilst they are seeking for those type of adult adult males. they choose somebody distinctive, it is often in the focal element (a foul boy). Then they advance up and that they think of roughly protection, thoughts and stability in a dating. it is merely how issues are.
2016-12-12 15:22:48 · answer #7 · answered by hayakawa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been time to move on for quite a while now. Wouldn't bother my **** with him another day. Plenty more where he came from.
2006-09-26 01:21:31 · answer #8 · answered by auld mom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ten years no commitment,it's time to move on to greener pasture the interested is gone in this relationship and it has nothing to do with his age...it's time to move on to someone that cares.
2006-09-26 01:25:01 · answer #9 · answered by ladybug 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you already decided, what you see is what you get ... he will not change unless he wants to change for himself ... my question is, why did you stay 6 more years if you had nothing but sex in common and you didn;t want him as he was and is
2006-09-26 01:22:39 · answer #10 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋