every time i try and speak to me boyfriend about somehting he just get mad and end us shouting at me or walking away! if we have a problem that needs talking about i will try and sort it out but he cant do that i hate levaing things on bad terms so i have to then run after him but i just want to tlk to him about things rather than neva mentioning them again and just pretending it never happened... what can i do???
2006-09-26 01:13:15 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
1stly stop running after him. If he runs away again let him go, if he cares he will come back.
Dont u c, he wants u to run after him. I know this is hard to do, but u have to remain calm and dont scream at him although he might be doing it to u. Give him a pissed off stare, and just look at him.
When he has come back and u r looking cross then dont start a conversation with him. Let him start.
Afterwards tell him u want to talk about what just happened and everything else that is bothering u and he should do the same. If he cant verbalize it to u then maybe this relationship isnt going to work. U cant always just let things go. Everything worth having is worth fighting for. A relationship is nothing if there is no real communication.
2006-09-26 01:23:17 · answer #1 · answered by chanD 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's not mature enough to handle talking about it, then he's not mature enough to have a girlfriend.
BUT
It is possible you are going about it in the wrong way though.. Are you asking when it is a good time, when the two of you can privately discuss it... Is it something from the past that doesn't really need to be talked about again? Leave the past in the past, are you holding a grudge... Are you trying to talk about it right after it happened, when neither of you has had time to think it over? Are you telling him that you both are going to talk about it, or are you asking if he would talk to you? are you saying mean/angry things? Are you guilt tripping him? Is it something that really is a big problem? Do you say what you really feel in a way that he won't take as a blow?
-there is alot you have to consider b4 you bring something up! Be smart! and good luck
2006-09-26 01:23:30 · answer #2 · answered by lily 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to have similar problem wt ex bf n even family. Now, my relationships with others r improved by listening wat they have to say n try c things from the other side.
Take a deep, slow breath n try respond in a normal voice tone. Never raise ur voice. Sometimes, it's still too difficult to discuss when both r angry n unable to think clearly. It's better to stop n talk afterwards when enviroment r more calm. Well tat's my experience, u check whether it works wt u. Tell ur bf too..
2006-09-26 01:34:06 · answer #3 · answered by fify 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-02 02:22:36 · answer #4 · answered by plunkett 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit pushing so hard. A forced conversation is never a good thing. Try talking more IN BETWEEN the arguments and maybe you won't have to worry about arguing so often.
2006-09-26 01:16:27 · answer #5 · answered by spedtrap 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love you are chasing a man. you are female and you need to teach him (by actions not words) that he better start chasing you or your eyes may look elsewhere
How you teach a dog is how you teach the boys!!!
If you dont wont him up on the lounge, you don't allow it to happen once or he will do it again.
From today on, you are a stronger woman - don't allow him to treat you the wrong way or it will keep happening with him (or with your next partner). You deserve respect simply because you are a lady.
2006-09-26 01:18:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People waste alot of time arguing! Say what you have to say and go on! Choice your battles wisely! Is being right as important as getting along? Tell your boyfriend sweeping things under the rug doesn't make them go away!(neither does beating them to death!) Good Luck!
2006-09-26 01:22:43 · answer #7 · answered by kelley1031 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck. 20 years with my man and I can't change him. But I love him anyhow, aside from the frustration. Maybe somebody can find an answer for me, too.
2006-09-26 01:17:55 · answer #8 · answered by phantom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing... stop talking to him
He'll freak out - but then plainly say... what's the point all you do is yell and scream and walk away.
Why don't you walk away?
2006-09-26 01:16:51 · answer #9 · answered by krickets 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you were my g/f, i'd have a hard time talking to you, or even understanding what in the heck you were talking about
2006-09-26 01:15:47 · answer #10 · answered by bama_cid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋