This is a 6 yr relationship.
After 3 yrs I found out he was in a strip club and started calling one of those girls for about 1 year before I found out. He's been controlling of me, always wanting to know where I am and how long it takes me to do things, etc. Accusing me of things that I'm not doing and never did do. He has a very nice side to him, and when I see the good qualities I start to cave in to him. I've tried to have no contact with him, but we also work for the same company, therefore, I have to deal w/him at work. Don't know if I should give it another chance or move on. We seem to argue about the same issues all the time, nothing seems to change.
2006-09-26 00:55:19 · 11 answers · asked by jeep 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
your relationship seems to be in a cycle which has no difference the second or third time around maybe its time for you to stop and thinking of how he treats you, how you feel when he accusses of things and would you be able to put up with an attitiude life long(assuming you want to marry this guy)personally i wouldnt put up with anyone who accusses me of something before they know the facts, or trys to control me whatever happened to freedom of expression
If the arguements you have are of the same thing ask yourself whats new now in this relationship and in doing so you might find out just what you expect out of the relationship that you are in,that you have allowed yourself to be in the same position you where in previously.
hope this helps you decide.
on your question of why u are attracted to him it might be because you have become familiar with his prescence and control but you have to take your life back into your hands and live
2006-09-26 01:19:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a part of you that isn't as independent as you would wish it to be; otherwise, you would have ended the relationship a long time ago. He accuses you of certain things because he, himself, engages in that very behavior. Liars accuse others of lying all the time. It is their rationalization for the behavior i.e. everyone else does it. Someone that doesn't trust you for no good reason isn't trustworthy themselves!
2006-09-26 08:04:06 · answer #2 · answered by j t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason that you stay with a man who does not treat you right is probably because you have low self esteem and do not value yourself as a human being... or value him more than yourself. Love yourself a little sweetheart, and tell yourself that you are a good woman who deserves love and respect... shed that man off and get yourself a good man, one who knows a woman's worth!
2006-09-26 08:04:21 · answer #3 · answered by fareen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can not turn your love for someone off and on like a water faucet so its natural to still be attracted to him. BUT, don't keep repeated the cycle in a dead relationship. Move on.
2006-09-26 07:57:38 · answer #4 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you still love him because he has a special things in bed to remember, thus he joined strip club and girls follow him.
2006-09-26 08:03:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your probably more attracted to him! For some reason when one pulls away it makes the other more attractive! He accuses you of things because he feels guilty . Tell him to come back when he can behave!(You pulling away might make him wake up!)
2006-09-26 08:05:19 · answer #6 · answered by kelley1031 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on
grow up
smarten up
2006-09-26 08:17:09 · answer #7 · answered by idtshadow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on
2006-09-26 07:57:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
time to wise up ... its not going to get better unless you BOTH want to save it
2006-09-26 07:59:28 · answer #9 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because he treats you like the dirty girl you are
2006-09-26 07:58:09 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋