and we have now find out that it was m.r.s.a,we think it was when she was having some blood test's done with dirty equipment.The day she passed away should have been her last night in hospital so l didn't go to vist,so l never got to say goodbye.I feel so low,upset and very angry with the state of our hospitals! What would your next step be?
2006-09-26 00:47:54 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
hi, unless there was accetainable proof that the m.r.s.a was contracted through unsterilised equipment/needles, there isnt much hoping of actually proving anything......i know your angry and your hurting, but this will not bring your nan.......i am sure she would rather you remember her for who she was and how much love she had for you.......when my nan died, it was near enough the same situation.....you dont need to say goodbye, she will always be in your heart and your soul and would never want you to feel low or upset....i have a picture of my nan in my bedroom, when i wake up in the morning i see her smiling face and give thanks that i ever knew her at all, even though she has gone i know she still loves me and i smile at the thought of her, when i listen to the song your a superstar, it reminds me of her, because thats what she was......and still is........time only heals the wound...people say...which is very true......but remember the memories.....and smile! she will always love you.
2006-09-26 03:41:12 · answer #1 · answered by killan 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your grieving honey, and you need somebody to be angry with. I agree that if it was MRSA than it needs further investigation, but I'm sure there will be an enquiry. For the moment try to focus your energies on the grieving process. It's very important that we do this when somebody dies as it allows us to have closure and move on with our lives. You will be feeling many different things at the moment and questioning everything such as, 'Why wasn't I there', 'What could I have done differently' etc, and you will also be feeling guilty, angry, sad, depressed,unhappy. But as time goes by these feelings will get less and less and you will find that you will be able to cope a lot better. When you go the funeral give yourself some space to say goodbye to your nan, this may make you feel a little better. Take care and look after yourself.
2006-09-26 08:03:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont do anything in anger. Take your time grieving. A colleague of mines mother passed away earlier this year, she was in for a chest infection which did drag on a few weeks, but appeared to be getting better, but died suddenly and the doctors told my colleage that she had contracted mrsa, but they refused to put it as a cause of death. I would suggest that perhaps your mother or father ensures that the autopsy report mentions that she contracted mrsa, otherwise you have no re-dress back to the hospital if they put death by natural causes. Its a very difficult time for you all, may whichever god you follow be there for you and help you all through these times.
2006-09-26 07:58:18 · answer #3 · answered by jude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all always remember that those who you love never truely leaves you. They are always in your heart, mind and there to guide you. Your Nan will know that you love her, and she will not hold anything against you for not visiting.
The hospital should have known better. Tell them so they won't make the same mistake again.
2006-09-26 09:42:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could put in a formal complaint but this sometimes this can be a very long and drawn out process!
I would personally say to just try to focus on all the good times that you spent with your nan and remember that she loved you and you loved her and that's what counted and she knew that!
2006-09-26 07:52:05 · answer #5 · answered by Glitterstar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how very sad. complaining would probably be a waste of time cause they look out for themselves. i have no faith in hospitals.
i lost my beautiful sister in a RTA 2 years ago and i never got to say goodbye either. i know its bit different but your nan will know how you feel and will always look after you. she`s only in the next room and you will be together one day, she will probably say you should not have worried because with people we love, there never is a goodbye - just `see you soon`. please dont worry but i know how angry you must be. bloody hospitals! x
2006-09-26 10:02:19 · answer #6 · answered by Spurs17 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happened to me with my nana and grandad. I was only 11 when my grandad died so I wasn't allowed to the funeral and still feel now 22 years later that I haven't said goodbye. And when my nana died I was living in Germany and couldn't get home. My mum keeps telling me that they would both understand why I couldn't say goodbye, and I always feel that they are looking out for me. As long as you believe they are with you - they are xx
2006-09-26 08:17:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask for an investigation into the death at the hospital and raise a complaint this is someone fault make them pay for it if need be go to the local press if the hospital refuse to listen good luck i hope you get the justice you deserve
2006-09-26 08:14:57 · answer #8 · answered by natl7788 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give yourself time to greave for your nan. Then when you feel stronger, start asking questions. Im so sorry to hear about your loss, it is one of the hardest things to handle in life, but it does make us stronger people, and makes us who we are. Look after yourself, im sure you nan is still there looking out for you! xx
2006-09-26 08:13:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am so sorry to hear about your lost, I would write a formal complaint to the NHS and tell them that things need to change, maybe you could write to a news paper but I would talk to your family about it first because they might not want all your business all over the place. x
2006-09-26 07:51:51 · answer #10 · answered by Angelkiss85 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋