e.g The flat we live in is in my name, but i still say my flat although we have been living together for 2 years!
Any advance!
2006-09-26 00:20:12 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
well it is your flat...it's in your name....i guess it's just habit....don't worry about it..it's no big deal
2006-09-26 00:26:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, yeah......he's been here over a year and I still do it , too. It's not that you find it hard to share, obviously she likes something about you after 2 years there. Fact is, she's living in your place. Think about moving into a new place and then it can be both of yours, or put both your names on the lease when it comes time to renew. Try to be conscious of your vocabulary....It's our cat and our bills and our living room. Encourage her to incorporate any personal belongings of hers that haven't made their way into the flat yet. I commend you for being aware of your tendency and caring enough to correct it.
2006-09-26 07:50:17 · answer #2 · answered by Sunbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly is this a problem for your GF. if not then don't make this into an issue that does not need to be one.my motto is "if it isn't broken, don't try to fix it".
If indeed it is an issue for her or you come to that then there is only you that can change that, and the first step in this case is how about putting the flat in joint names,?this way she sees you are trying to change and it shows your commitment into making this work.been a partnership is all about sharing, these things are material things how about concentrating on preserving the non material things like the love you both have for each other.
2006-09-26 07:26:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you lived in the flat previously, which I'm assuming you did, then it's always going to be difficult to have someone move in and live in "your" space. I would freak out! Perhaps if you guys are really planning on settling (maybe that's what's scaring you?), might it be best to move out of your flat and go and find yourselves something together?
2006-09-26 07:24:38 · answer #4 · answered by Wes W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are finding it hard to share with her then maybe you two do not belong together . Is it that you find it hard to share with anybody or just her? but if it is just her then you two do not belong together. Sharing has to be part of the relationship if you cannot share then dont and break it off. be fair and tell her . good luck.
2006-09-26 07:24:51 · answer #5 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is normal. It will always be "your flat" in your mind until you two move out and get a place together.
2006-09-26 07:22:47 · answer #6 · answered by StephanieW 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the thing about being married is that things are ours- and even though you have been living together for 2 years- you make it sound like you are not really even a couple by saying mine- and not saying ours-makes me think of my little brother- its mone! it's mine! I think you see your problem- and you know what to do about it- D
2006-09-26 07:27:51 · answer #7 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is technically half hers anyway as you have been living together for so long, so just look at it that way, she can take half of everything of yours so it should always be ours.
2006-09-26 07:23:29 · answer #8 · answered by mango_amigone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop being selfish and be willing to share with this woman especially if you plan on spending the rest of your life with her. sharing is not hard at all.
2006-09-26 07:26:20 · answer #9 · answered by netta j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up
2006-09-26 07:24:18 · answer #10 · answered by Gossip81 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋