he told me he was going 2 his mates house which is only a 10min drive n he rang me n was on fone 2 me 4 half n hour till he pulled up outside his house i thought it was strange but no i no why please help me what do i do now?
2006-09-26 00:03:25 · 35 answers · asked by kelky29 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'd say it's time to find someone better (if I'm understanding you properly) - he's not staying faithful, I'm afraid.
If you confront him, he'll deny it, and probably have a go at you for checking his aol account.
You're on a no-win situation here, I'm afraid. Move on.
2006-09-26 00:09:16 · answer #1 · answered by mattygroves 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just ask him straight out. Tell him he had been acting funny and think of something that he has done which is odd because he's bound to ask you what you mean by that. And then tell him that because of your suspiscions, you logged into his aol (this doesn't really justify spying on him but it will give you some sort of reasoning behind your argument) and then just tell him what you found and you want an explanation.
Tell him if you're wrong then you're sorry but you have to know the truth.
I must warn you, if he's innocent this could hurt a lot more because he could turn the tables and blame you for not trusting him. If you break up, it'll be because of your trust issues. At the end of the day, you snooped, plain and simple.
If you are right then you need to decide whether you can keep this relationship going and work through it (can you ever trust him again?) or whether you should cut your losses.
Either way, when confronting him, if this is what you decide to do, don't go in guns blazing. Tread very carefully
2006-09-26 00:16:30 · answer #2 · answered by mother knowledge 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To have found out your partners password and then log in you obviously did not trust him and suspected things where not right in the first place. All this has done is confirm your suspicion and you are now shocked in what to do for the stage.
No easy answer I am afraid you have to ask him who this women is and it will mean telling him you checked his private mailing system. Be prepared for his wrath he will be very angry and will use that as an excuse to finish with you by saying you do not trust me and he will then walk away guilt free and you feeling bad. However if that is the way he does it then he is a snake and you are better off without him.
If he loves you and wants to be with you he will get angry but will listen to why you did it as there must have been a reason for you to do it.He will also tell you who it is and reassure you if it is Innocent.
I feel it is not good my friend and needs sorting by asking him outright.
2006-09-26 00:32:49 · answer #3 · answered by momof3 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
This one is a tough one, i have experinced a similar situtation myself.
Dont jump into this feet first when you talk to him about it. Confrontion isnt the answer incase you have the wrong end of the stick. Just because i man/women speaks to someone via a messenger service doesnt mean they are up to no good or being unfaithful. Men and women can just be friends without anything else going on.
99% of people that use the internet have explored chat rooms and messengers and found really good friends whether male or female and i would say 99% of those people have had harmless fun talking to people that doesnt mean anything. words on a computer dont mean anything at the end of the day its face to face that matters. On the internet you can totally change your identity, in real life you could be a man in your 20's overweight spotty and a bit of a loner, where as on the internet that person can be a man in his 20's got a 6 pack goes to the gym 5 times a week and drop dead gorgeous. you can be whatever you want. See what i mean. It doesnt mean he has been unfaithful.
Lots of people go on about cybersex its been in the media alot which in turn alot of people wondered what it was and what it was about so they tried it. its just harmless fun that is just words doesnt mean he doesnt love you.
I am not saying what he is doing is right i am just saying dont jump in to quickly until you know all the facts about who the women is ??? and what they have been saying together!!!!
I hope it all works out for you.
2006-09-26 00:22:49 · answer #4 · answered by Secretguk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would appear that you have found out he's cheating on you although I have to say that "finding out his AOl password" suggests you either already suspected him or you're very nosey.
If you already suspected him, you've now been presented with enough evidence to confront him about it ... if you were being nosey, you've left yourself open to him getting angry (although it might be guilt rather than anger that sets him off)
Presumably you're not married to him (partner??) so there's not a lot you can do other than throw him out - or leave him - depending on how your home is owned/paid for.
Either way, he's got some explaining to do ... and you're probably not going to like what he has to say, so prepare for a long night of accusation and recrimination.
Sorry :-(
2006-09-26 00:34:34 · answer #5 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relax, first of all it could be perfectly innocent. Granted it does sound strange. Dont confront ur partner angrily as he could throw back the fact that u went on to aol with his password, which is meant to be provate. Talk to him calmly, if his explantion is pure bullsh*t than I m afraid u've got a few things to think about in your relationship. If it is reasonable, let him know that u will not accept being cheated on, and if he is lying than there is no second chances. just remember to stay calm, ull regret it if ure too angry.
2006-09-26 00:09:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kelly kelly kelly!!!! You poor thing!
how did you found out the password? Were you sneaking around behind his back or did you just stumble on it?
If you stumbled upon it then you have every reason to be mad and Id confront him on it - you need to be a bit more careful if you were sneaking around for it though as that makes you as bad ashim!
All I can say is it sounds like hes cheating and you're going to have to say it to him - I hope things go ok for you!!!
2006-09-26 00:47:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to tell you but I have a feeling he's got a wife or at least a live-in girlfriend. And I think you suspected something or you wouldn't have spied on him to begin with. But you now know that your suspicions were correct and you need to find out the truth. You can try to confront him, but he's lied to you so far, so why would he tell you the truth now? Whatever you have to do, find out.
2006-09-26 00:10:32 · answer #8 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start by e-mailing the other women so she can start sweating - nothing nasty just hints that you know. Then have a good blazing row with you partner - find out some facts - and then when you have calmed down decide whether you could learn to trust him again - even if you decide you want to. Good luck.
2006-09-26 00:07:33 · answer #9 · answered by geegee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
surely their is perfect answer for why a woman is emailing him! Give him a chance ask him who she is and why you don`t know about her! My opinion is that it my just be a new friend he has just meet recently, Before you jump into anything, ask yourself do you trust him, how long have you been together and and more important have you any kids involved and do you love him! Then you will know what to do! If you love and trust him then their is always a better outcome! But, if the worst comes out, then you have to look out for yourself! Trust your feelings!
2006-09-26 00:13:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋