I'm an 18 year old male and I still have my virginity. I know that most people say you should lose it to the one you love but I suck at the relationship game (with no serious relationship to speak of). I don't want to lose my virginity at an old age, but I also want to keep my dignity intact (that is, I don't want a sleazy one-nighter). I feel like I won't lose my virginity or ever have a real relationship EVER! I just wanna know....am I pathetic for having these thoughts?
2006-09-26 00:03:11 · 6 answers · asked by Aaron G 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
You're NOT pathetic!!! You are a REAL MAN! Don't be so insecure, and don't give in to pressure from an unrealistic cultural/media portrayal of when a guy "Should" lose his virginity...Don't make the same mistake that 99% of people make, and regret forever...wait until the time is right, you are still young (Yes, you are..no matter what MTV says)...Don't worry about staying a virgin forever...worry about making a mistake that you will regret forever...you will be fine!
2006-09-26 00:13:38 · answer #1 · answered by reuprict2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
naw, im 24 and still a virgin, just be glad you dont have sex with everyone and risk diseases. All you can do is wait or go out and have sex, its your choice. My ex-fiance was 29 and he was still a virgin, so it is possible to be old. I am tempted to have sex, but find other ways to divert that energy, sometimes not always the best way, but i do. no one is really good at relationships. In 5 years things will look different, you might meet someone who changes your outlook on it all. Pray about it if you like.
2006-09-26 07:13:10 · answer #2 · answered by JustJane 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, you are (comparatively) so young. No insult intended. Please don't feel that you have to rush this for whatever reason, peer pressure, hormones, whatever. There is absolutely no reason that you have to loose your virginity until you're ready. If that means waiting, so what. When the time comes, you will know it. In the meantime, just enjoy yourself and live your life. Don't pressure yourself to get into a relationship with someone for the wrong reasons, things come when they're supposed to.
When the time does come, protect yourself.
2006-09-26 08:04:24 · answer #3 · answered by Laurie K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax. You are not pathetic, just a bit frustrated at the moment. This feeling will pass, so don't worry about it too much. When I was about 26 my first wife upped and left me. I remember thinking to myself "My sex life is over!". I was miserable. Little did I realize it at the time that it really had not even started yet and the best was yet to come. Matter of fact, it keeps getting better. So you have plenty of time.
You ain't seen nuttin yet. Wondrous and amazing things await those who have patience.
2006-09-26 07:14:57 · answer #4 · answered by Kokopelli 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Come on, your 18. you have plenty of time to loose your virginity.
Young men your age that go out humping anything they can find aren't doing themselves a favour.
2006-09-26 07:09:24 · answer #5 · answered by luckycat 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no...it's the hormones...you have to come to terms with yourself....
Take care of yourself, and you'll eventuaslly come out of your shell.......
2006-09-26 07:07:53 · answer #6 · answered by Brian F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋