2006-09-24 23:47:34 · 31 answers · asked by R I Y A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You sound like you feel isolated within your situation. Perhaps this is because you are hesitant to share your feelings with others, even close friends. I think that it would be helpful for you to join a women's group. Sometimes it's easier to talk to strangers about our situation than to a friend. The therapist running the group will insist on the rule of "what's said in the group, stays in the group." This might give you the opportunity to talk through your concerns and receive support.
It's important for you to work through this now as it appears that your husband's relationship with your daughter will always have some degree of devotion. If you don't, this situation will continue to bother you and color other aspects of your marriage. Down the road you may want to also consider couple's counseling, but for now, take care of yourself.
2006-09-24 23:50:15 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
For real? Or perhaps you're feeling neglected because there's now a completely dependent infant consuming all of your time, thereby making you needier than ever. When you see your husband ooohing and aaahing over Baby, that makes you feel less important, and that's a natural reaction. But, hey! Your new-born is now the center of your and your husband's lives. You should be pleased that he's taking an interest. It is to be hoped that interest will translate into genuine helpfulness: diaper-changing, late-night feedings, cooking, cleaning, shopping. Anything he can do to burden-share should be regarded as a blessing.
If you're sadness persists, please talk to someone. That may be all you need -- a sympathetic ear. Hope so. You know you've got lots of people in this forum who take interest in the issues of others.
Hope this helps.
2006-09-24 23:54:32 · answer #2 · answered by macguffin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is trying to give his wife a little down time to relax so that is why he is so interested in the baby and too his wife might not be fully healed yet so he is doing what he thinks is right and don't get mad at him for trying. Or he could be a father that does not care about his child at and there are fathers out there like that my ex husband is one of the guys that does not care about his children
2006-09-24 23:52:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's unusaul. Usually the mom is more interested, and the husband is feeling left out. But be glad you have a husband that is that into his own child. Alot of men love their children, but the moms are the ones that do all the care. He loves his child! Great!
2006-09-25 00:28:42 · answer #4 · answered by Paulda37 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they baby was just born it is completely normal. My husband and I didn't have a normal marriage again until my now 6 month old was about 2 months. Just be patient and eventually he will come around. If not then have a talk with him. Be truthful and let him know how you feel.
2006-09-24 23:51:59 · answer #5 · answered by Miss Vira 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happened to me 24 years ago. He was obsessed with our daughter and ignored me. Later I did my best and talked him into another child. He didn't even care that we had a son. He actually to the neighbors that he never wanted his son.
When we divorced (he had an affair) my son lived with me and daughter with him. My ex poisoned my daughter's mind and she had no contact with me for 6 years - even though we lived in the same town.
I kept calling her about every two weeks to let her know that I still loved her - no matter what. After 6 years something happened to her at work and she decided mom would understand more than dad. She called me and we go together. We now have a great relationship and talk almost every day.
2006-09-24 23:52:49 · answer #6 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey..not to worry..this is so normal for a husband to be more close with the baby....as days go by...your husband will just simply turn his head towards you...Is this your first baby?the more it will be normal...because he will really feel that he's fullfilled as a husband and was able to give you a child....be happy that your husband is close with your child...maybe you'll feel more insecure if your husband doesnt spend his time with your child....Hey...smile and take care...
2006-09-24 23:58:25 · answer #7 · answered by xrae12 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe your husband is trying to give the baby a bit of love and care and a bond that is formed between a baby and their parents is very important and could affect the rest of their lives with their parents.
2006-09-25 01:03:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you have children? If it was to get more of your husband's attention, you made a bad choice. Children are natural attention seekers and humans are wired to pay attention to children. Be glad your husban likes your child and make the best of it. It is too late to turn back now.
2006-09-25 00:22:13 · answer #9 · answered by Sugarface 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is sure getting a lot of blame....whether it be complaints about your mother in law or now complaints of jealousy about your child!
You my dear need to grow up.....LIFE IN GENERAL is not all and ever focused on you! Quit trying to make everything about YOU!
Spoiled brat, self-absorbed, selfish, jealous are some of the words that come to mind from reading your question!!
2006-09-24 23:52:25 · answer #10 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋