My husband is in the military, and by the time he comes home from Korea we will have been apart for 2 years. All I want to know is how to be happy because I forget how. Watching our son grow up without him is so hard, it breaks my heart everytime I see him do something new because I know his daddy missed it. Six more months, but I dont know how to keep going anymore.
2006-09-24 23:28:03 · 15 answers · asked by Manda 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm Military myself, and I know how hard it can be, my wife cheated on me while I was in Afghanistan and I was just heartbroke. Look for the positives. Right now your husband is thinking about you and your son every chance he gets. Please don't do anything stupid while he is gone, it is really easy to over react while being deployed, I would not even make him second guess. Your husband has a job to do, and that is to take care of you and your son and that should make you feel proud. If I were you I would take up some hobbies, such as scrap-booking pictures of your boy growing up for him, do a book of your wedding, exercise, but just wait for him. My wife could not wait 4 months, so my hats off to you. best of luck
2006-09-24 23:36:43 · answer #1 · answered by Koolaid1730 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you have to be apart 2 years? My sister-n-laws husband was assigned to Korea for a year and he took "HOPS" to the U.S. every 3-4 months. Your husband should look into "stand-by" flights. It was tuff but they managed. You are married for a life time. Keep in constant contact using all vehicles of communication. Also, think of all the cool things he will be able to get from Korea for your son. The mink blankets, the satan jackets w/the cool animal embroidery, glass boxed dolls for you, he can get portraits done onto plates and painted in oil...and more. Everything there is cheap.
Be positive with your son and tell him often how daddy loves him etc...
Children are barometers for how their parents feel. If you act like it's the end of the world he will soon pick up on that and feel the same way you do.
You need to be assuring him that no matter where his daddy is, he will always be in his heart. Assure him that daddy will be coming back. Tell him that he isn't the only one with a daddy that has had to go overseas. There are some children that have their mommy over there. At least his mommy will be here waiting with him til daddy comes home etc...
It could be worse; he could be in IRAQ!
2006-09-25 08:29:55 · answer #2 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well think of it this way... ur husband needs you to be strong for him.. back here at home.. if he knows your falling apart back here its just going to make him worry and he needs to stay focused on his job at hand right now, he needs u to be his rock, he needs u to be the woman he believes can handle the job of being his military wife.. technology being what it is today.. start taking videos of your son, start taking lots of pictures, make ur husband feel like he's a part of and not missing out on.. ur camera should be with u a majority of the time as he needs to feel like he's right there with u even if its only in spirit for now.. Email him, send him packages.. send him pictures, video, audio ect.. and just keep telling urself that u can do this.. that u love him enough to wait forever if u had to..
2006-09-25 08:02:56 · answer #3 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a former retired married wife. You knew this going into a marriage marrying a military man. The man is married to the military 1st...then you. Sacrafices have to be made. Keep your communication lines open with your spouse. Keep active with his family and yours. If you want the marriage to work then it's YOU and he that have the power to do this.
You are in control of making your ownself HAPPY. Don't depend on another human being to control the emotion of happiness within yourself. Keep yourself busy.....devote your time and the energy you have into a positive.....If you're feeling sorry for yourself because your husband is on duty for his country...then SHAME on YOU!!!!....What kind of message are you sending to your child? Put your PITY PARTY towel in the dryer and put it away. You have so much to be thankful for!....Think about all the wives whos' husbands are in IRAQ or someother GOD forsaken country.....where their lives are in danger due to the WAR....
YOU my dear are being very selfish and self absorbed....and trying to make YOUR PITY party....a tangible something to hold on to!!
Honey...you need to get a grip....LIFE and HAPPINESS is what you make it!
2006-09-25 06:45:17 · answer #4 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be Proud of your husband!!!Tell your son about him every day, Think of things you can do when he gets back as a family and other wise. Build your excitement towards him by thinking what it was like when he was home.
2006-09-25 06:34:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
join a support group of other wives in the same situation good luck do not give up. video tape what is going on with your son so your husband does not miss it good luck
2006-09-25 06:33:53 · answer #6 · answered by kelsey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is it sexually that u miss him the most....if thats the case find some solution temporarily with out jeopardising your family life....2ndly u need him for emotional needs....u will have to console because he is there for a cause.....social needs u i am sure will take care of because in usa women specially those living alone are not considered with a bad eye.
2006-09-25 06:32:02 · answer #7 · answered by uknownotlove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pray that you can hold out until your husband come home ,he is doing a great service for our country though you maybe lonely do all you can to stay busy and keep going ,don't you give up.
2006-09-25 08:27:58 · answer #8 · answered by ladybug 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why aren't you with him?? I have known other wives and families who are with thei husbands. Something is funny here.....two years away???? I would check into that one, sweetie! Perhaps a nice Korean girlfriend with another family????? Hmmmmmmmmm????
2006-09-25 06:31:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang in there,I know how it feels my hubby was in the military also! Just be patient its just 6 more months :-)
2006-09-25 06:34:21 · answer #10 · answered by Paola L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋