but he cant leave his wife?
2006-09-24 22:27:17 · 31 answers · asked by Milkshake 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
but he cant leave his wife for fear of hurting her? I should say, what happened is he accidentally fell for me first then I also fell for him. I am sure this is not lust because what we have is a long-distance relationship. we've known and seen each other for just a week but we feel we've known each other for long time already.
2006-09-24 22:41:32 · update #1
but he cant leave his wife for fear of hurting her? I should say, what happened is he accidentally fell for me first then I also fell for him. I am sure this is not lust because what we have is a long-distance relationship. we've known and seen each other for just a week but we feel we've known each other for long time already. He is married for 2 years with no children.
2006-09-24 23:03:55 · update #2
you leave him alone, you do not ruin his marriage, you find someone single and not attached, think of other people rather than just thinking of yourself, leave him alone
2006-09-24 22:30:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you have here is feelings of lust and excitement for someone else. You don't know this person well enough to actually be "in love" with him.
The "excitement" often fades from a marriage over time. People like to experience that feeling, so they look around for something else to allow them to be excited. When you meet someone and there is an attraction to them you feel the excitement again.
Wise people know that this is not really love, but lust. Wise people also know that once you say "I do" it means "I don't do anyone else." You are married. He is married. Neither one of you are free to explore other people, so just leave him alone.
You have a commitment to your husband (and he to his wife) that you will not love another. You promised to be true to your spouse until "death do you part." You don't seem to be dead, so you must remain faithful.
If the time ever comes that both you and this man are divorced, then you will be free to explore the feelings you have. Until that time you must stay away and have no contact with him.
2006-09-25 06:37:56 · answer #2 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear go slow on this.I am also going thru the same thing in my life.Ask him bluntly will he leave his wife for your sake?What relegion is he?Other than muslims nobody can maintain two wives.Just make sure that you dont get hurt.You will not only lose your husband,but also trust on love.Go back to your husband.If this guy really loves u ,ask him to leave his wife and then marry you.Atleast explore the question of marriage with him.See that he doesnt become physically attracted to u.If you get involveed physically ,it will complicate the matter more.Just make sure that you are not getting on to him on a rebound.Best would be give a try to ur marriage first ,then take the decision.Also give him the time frame and ask him to get back to u.If he gets back to u after leaving his marriage ,he really loves u.At the same time try to find out what is wrong in his marriage?Do u really find something wrong in his marriage.Or is he leaving his marriage just for ur sake.Then he may leave u one day for a better girl.There is no harm in trying to sneak his personal life ...after all truth matters.No relationship sustains on lies. Dont force him for something that later you feel guilty for it.There is another innocent party involved and dont take the blame of hurting them.
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2006-09-25 06:15:48 · answer #3 · answered by jennifer r 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is playing you BIG TIME! Whatever he is doing to his wife he will do to you one day.
Since there aren't any children involved and you have a long distance thing then tell him to give you a call when he is truly free maybe you will be available. If he wants to build a life with you the fear of losing you to another will motivate him to take action.
No such thing as "can't leave wife because..."
He is setting you up to be his booty call whenever the time is right.
2006-09-25 08:34:10 · answer #4 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will reap what you have sow. That a week of talking to each other, is way too damn fast to fall in love. He had two years with her, compare to the one week with you.
He sounds like he don't have much of a brain, to fall in love with a stranger still.
You rush into something that may not hold ground. Or he just could be telling you this. That he figure it what you wanna hear from him. Never go with a married man, waste of time and heart ache.
If you want him as bad as he claims for you. Wait a while, and see if he will end his marriage. What he say, could be another thing on what he does.
2006-09-25 06:25:51 · answer #5 · answered by kygl28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know why are you still thinking of him if he can't leave his wife and fear he will hurt her. He already hurt her if she found out he seeing you. what the point?
You really need fixed your marriage and if not then divorce and find man who not have wife or girlfriend or anything. make yoru life better.
If woman is married and in love iwth me and I am married. I wouldn't not want to fall in love with this person. I am already in love with a woman who gave me 2 kids and 3rd on the way. I can't do that ever, I am not the kind of person to be like that. My wife and I have up and down but not great marriage but good marriage and Kids had taugh us alot. talking about age 3 and 2 years old. wow, made us become a great parents and husband and wife to talk about what to do what the best thing for kids and us. smiling. I wish you luck and You really wasting yoru time on him... he not worry about hurting her feelings he worry that if he divorce her he will be paying alot of money to his wife.
2006-09-25 07:41:23 · answer #6 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in that situation once before and I never want to be there again. You will probably get hurt and it takes awhile to heal. It is cheating. I was married and so was he. Everyone got hurt through the deal. I ended up divorced which was a good thing because my husband was very abusive and that was the only good thing that came out of it.
2006-09-25 11:06:50 · answer #7 · answered by JAYNE C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wreck two households and have fun doing it, or realize it will hurt too many people, the answer is what ever you feel right about doing. Self pleasure at the expense of hurting others, or self comes first. However you need to kee in mind once a cheater always a cheater so its unlikely you'll ever beable to trust each other.
2006-09-25 06:16:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its new love and I'm sorry but one week I'm sure lots of people feel on top of the world in a one week relationship let me know how it feels after one year or one year living together ,if he has no children and has only been married so short of time he should tell his wife the truth and allow her to fine someone decent that will love her gee how nice of him to wait and see if its going to work out with you first before he lets her know whats up,tell him you think its wrong and he should tell her .poor lady
2006-09-25 06:27:27 · answer #9 · answered by nicole l 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you are totally confused and disoriented and should take some time to pull yourself together. i am not sure what your maturity level is, but if someone in your situation has lived long enough, this whole thing is all but an infatuation. if he truly loves you, his feelings are strong enough to leave his wife for you. other than that, get this out of your system, gurl!
2006-09-25 06:01:46 · answer #10 · answered by mr8dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, you shouldnt fall in love with a married guy nor even bother to go there!
If you began to date a guy, you can tell if he's involved with someone and you get out!
Since, you did...that was wrong, risky and heartbreaking for 3 people and maybe more if there's children.
2006-09-25 05:42:52 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋