Pre-marital sex?

Question

Can anyone give a real reason (besides "it's a sin" or "the Bible says so") as to why pre-marital sex is bad?

By real reason I mean scientific, medical, or logical reasons. Quoting the Bible or bringing "God" into this is unacceptable as it does not relate to this question what so ever, and is not a real reason.

Talking about STDs and pregnancy is like beating a dead horse. Everyone said it. Lets say, in this hypothetical situation, that condoms (which are highly effective) are used. That gets rid of pregnancy and STDs. I am a paramedic and am have an extensive knowledge of both.

Really what I want to find out is does anyone have reasons pre-marital sex is bad besides religous reasons. I am not religous and don't care about it.

What if you love someone but are not married? Whats the difference? There is no legal doccument, so it is still pre-marital, but everything else is the same. Live together and all that good stuff that comes with getting married, but no doccument...

I'm talking about both heterosexual and homosexual sex. I really don't care.

What sets humans apart from most animals is the fact that we DO have sex just for pleasure. Most animals have sex for the reason of procreation, while humans do it just for fun.

Answer 1

I don't see a problem at all. As long as people are safe and take the appropriate birth control measures there are no health reasons why pre-marital sex is bad or harmfull. Actually if anything sex (of any kind) is very healthy in many ways. I read all the posts and noticed several interesting things. One being that someone said "our bodies are a temple." This was particularly interesting because in some religions, and in peoples personal beliefs (including my own) sex is a very powerfull spiritual experience. Who says you need to be married to share this experience.

My boyfriend and I have been seeing eachother for more than 3 years now. We have no plans to get married (yet, the future holdes answers) but we love eachother and have an exclusive relationship. I couldn't immagine being with anyone else. How is it any different if we have sex than if two people who said "I do" and signed a piece of paper? There is love in both relationships, but somehow one is better than the other? That doesn't add up.

I can't see the harm in sex between consenting people. I remember I had sex-ed in 6th grade. Most of the boys were still warming up to talking to girls, but I knew what an STD was and the importance of condoms. Who is anyone to tell a well informed person what is right and what is wrong when it comes to sex? Sure I don't like the idea that my tax dollars go to people who dropped out of high school, got pregnant, and can't keep a job, but nobody really has the right to argue? What happened to liberty and freedom? I made many mistakes as a kid but don't regret a single one because they made me a stronger person. None of them were big mistakes like say...getting pregnant, but mistakes.

Look at STDs and teen pregnancy as a form of active Darwinism. Those who sleep through sex ed. either die of a terrible STD or get pregnant, have the father leave and lead a miserable life. Who am I to tell them not to?

When I was youngerI screwed around, had fun, was safe about it, and now years later I am happy I did it, and STD/child free. Sure there were relationships that were just about sex and the ones where I wanted to kill myself when they ended, but in the end they were educational oportunities and I wouldn't ever trade it for a life of abstinance. Sure I felt depressed for months after a relationship ended, but it goes away. The sex in between the relationships really helped me get over it. There is a thing called meaningless sex. Its just that. No emotion involved just pure fun and pleasure. No reason for heartbreak or any of that other stuff that comes with ending a relationshit because it was just for fun.

Thats all I have to say for now. The man I'm not married to, nor have plans to marry, but I live with and love wants to do something fun...got to go.

Answer 2

Well I think pre-marital sex is really bad. Its just like someone driving a car without a license. You have an uneasy feeling of gettin caught by the cops or havin n accident n killin urself or atleast causin some damage.
It spreads more Sexually Transmitted Diseases. It causes depression i think coz the couple always has to make sex with fear of not gettin preganent of not gettin diseased. Atleast there sould be a difference between a human being and an animal coz animals go n *** when n whom they want but for human beings sex should be something very special and enjoyable who not many can get. A man or woman involved in pre-marital sex is never satisfied by a single partner for a long time, i mean to say they get the habit of changing or trying new partners which causes divorce or breakingup of relationship.
Now i dont actualy get exactly wht kind of pre-marital sex r u talkin about? is it a man-woman sex or gay/leasbian sex coz the later has no advantage be it pre-marital or marital...............

Answer 3

Personally, I think pre-marital sex should be encouraged, but I'll play Devil's Advocate:
If this is a heterosexual couple, they may produce a child.
This means A) an abortion, which are emotionally challenging and pricy

or B) an EXTREMELY awkwardly timed and expensive child

Regardless of sexuality, STDs are alot more prevalent than most will admit to, and even if you're straight you are totally capable of getting HIV/AIDS. Marriage doesn't particularly solve this, but it does mean the culprit aka spouse faces more difficulties in running out on you after infection.

As far as romance, it would be amazing to be with only one person and know that they are in the same boat. The intimacy would be extreme, no? Creating a better relationship.

Answer 4

Probably because if two people are not married, they are more than likely to not be in a monogamous relationship, or to have had more than one sexual partner.

Therefore, the risk of disease is higher than in a monogamous, marriage setting.

In addition, if a pregnancy results out of marriage, there is more chance of the couple splitting up, the mother keeping the child and struggling throughout life with no help.

I, myself, am all for pre-marital sex.
But there are so many retards out there who don't know what condoms are, the pill, etc... (yes, it is 2006), so they can't be considered mature enough to maintain a healthy relationship, sexual and other, outside of marriage.

Just watch Jerry Springer LOL

Answer 5

The only reasons for abstaining from per marital sex are medical and sociological - that sex with many partners leads to proliferation of sex connected diseases and children born outside a formal family status receive less support.
This is the true reason why religions object to pre marital sex.
With care and modern contraceptives these reasons could become irrelevant, but the fact is the they are still relevant today.

Answer 6

1) If pre-marital sex leads to pregnancy, guyz usually back-off from taking the responsibility. girls resort to abortion which can be dangerous for them.

If the woman decides to keep the baby, her child will suffer after growing up and will question about his/her father. this ruins societies.


2) Pre-marital sex can involve many partners and this has given a rise to AIDS.


3) You may have all pre-marital sex you want but one day you will definitely die and face God....sorry but this is the major point that i can't miss. If something is prohibited in religion, there's always a logic behind it. so instead of running away from religion, try to find logic in it and everything will be fine.


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Answer 7

I take issue with the way the question is framed, because questions of "why something is bad" is a matter for philosophical reflection, and not one that "science" (even medical science) can settle. For that matter, neither can logic. All these disciplines do is tell us the "how" behind the way things work. You need something far different to supply you with the "why" that makes ANYTHING "good" or "bad". For that, theists are in a much better position to determine the "why" behind life and everything in it, because God has a purpose for his universe and his creation. If something is unnaceptable, we can at least give reasons "why". The atheist ultimately doesn't have much, it seems, to ground any ultimate "why" behind any claim ... such as why it is "unnaceptable" to bring God into the equation.

Answer 8

When you dump religious reasons, there is nothing bad about pre-marital sex as such. As long as people are careful and ready to take the consequences if something unexpected happens (pregnancy or a STD) there is nothing wrong with it. It's when people aren't careful or sensible enough that trouble can be expected, but marriage has nothing to do with it.

Answer 9

Getting married indicates a level of commitment that will provide support for any children that result from sexual relations. On the other hand, there are many people who stay together, and have children, and never get married, so it is not a good rule, really.

It all comes down to people trying to muscle in and live other peoples' lives.

In my opinion, if you and your partner want to have sex before marraige it is your affair.

Good luck.

Answer 10

well first Pre-martial sex need to be defined for some of us we maybe living together but not married.
with any relationship we should get to each other first,find out if that person has similar interests,wever you communicate well,then the biggest issue is trust,you have to trust an believe in them if not the sex wont be good just imagine your baking a cake and the sex is the icing,you must have the ingrediants right or it wont taste good.