2006-09-24 21:58:58 · 17 answers · asked by joshooog 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
appreciate the people that raised you and move on and live life the best i can. treat your adopted parents as your own since they are your own. you should realize that the people that raised you did the best they could and were selfless in raising a child that wasn't thiers. even though if the people that concieved you weren't able to give you the best life. appreciate the fact that they realized they couldn't and gave you to a wonderful family that could.
2006-09-24 22:03:46 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everything happens for a reason firstly don't think any less of yourself and don't make any conclusions of your own. At this point i believe you are old enough to deal with the matter accordingly. Of course one of the phases of dealing with this matter is acceptance and forgiveness. Accept that you were adopted and after you were given up you were blessed enough to be found by someone who has raised you you to be a fine young man or woman which I'm sure you are.Then begin searching for your biological parents so that you can get answers from the horses mouth. But all in all you should thank GOD for the fact that you did not end up as part of the statistics of the many homeless children. GOOD LUCK !!!
2006-09-25 05:20:45 · answer #2 · answered by t 4 t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would hug the parents that raised me and thank them, and tell them I love them.
Going to meet your birth parents is always for the best. I know, I have an older sister that wanted to meet hers and when she did she came home upset and depressed and all of that and my mom couldn't really do anything. Unfortunately to this day it still effects her every once in a while, but she is very greatful to our mom for adopting her and treating her no different from her birth children.
So I say be thankful for what you have!!!
2006-09-25 05:04:32 · answer #3 · answered by UNapologetic! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be grateful that you were adopted, especially if it was a good family. I MIGHT be curious and go find out who my real parents were and why they left me for adoption. Must be prepared for the results, they might not be pleasant. OR I could just let it go (not wanting to find out more) and live on.
2006-09-25 05:05:30 · answer #4 · answered by TK 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow! I'd ask my (adopted) parents why it was that they never told me sooner, what do they know about my birth parents, whether they have contact information, etc. I guess I'd want to meet my birth parents as I might have siblings. I'd want to find out about health issues too. Many medical problems are genetic and it would be good to know what is in store for me later.
I'm sure I'd be confused and angry but I'd try to remember that my adopted parents love me and will always love me. I'd be sure to tell them that I love them as often as possible.
Good luck.
2006-09-25 05:10:20 · answer #5 · answered by ssbn598 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing, you're still the exact same person you were. if two people chose not to be in your life there was a reason. basically drop it. if you open the can of worms it's you who could get hurt, your biological parents may not want anything to do with you (another rejection) or they may have raised other kids lovingly (why not me) i have several adopted cousins and a brother in law, so i've seen it before..........whatever you decide to do i wish you the best of luck!!!
2006-09-25 05:04:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will feel good about having a considerate and great parents. You are always imposed upon your real parents but these guys selected you even when your biological parents were not able to take care of you.
you see how many persons grow up as anti social elements as they dont get parental care and guidance, many dont even grow up but die too young. but a adopted person is much more luckier as god wanted him to havea better and more deserving parents.
2006-09-25 05:37:36 · answer #7 · answered by GAGAN G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would spend the next few hours telling my (adoptive) parents what selfish jerks they were for not being honest with me all along.
I was adopted, and it was never hidden from me, so I just grew up and accepted it. Healthier that way I think...
2006-09-25 05:01:21 · answer #8 · answered by HP 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be greatful to your adopted parents, they adopt you cos they love you. Move on with your life as usual and be happy. Dnt let the word "adopt" get into your head and ruin your life and happiness. ;-)
2006-09-25 05:01:42 · answer #9 · answered by Redberry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 36 when I found out I was adopted! My adoptive mother finally told me 3 weeks before she died of cancer. So for me while it changed the idea of being able to inherit cancer from her it did not change how we felt about one another. On the other hand I felt lied to and betrayed!!! It was like all the stories I was told growing up about my "heritiage" was total lies!!! I felt like a fraud or a fake??? Not sure if any of this sounds familiar???
I would also say I felt like the rug had been jerked out from underneath me and the world was spining out of control..............I found out in Sept and by January I was ready to find out who my biological family was. I think for me because my mother died and my father and brother had passed earlier in my life, I needed to connect with a family member?????
While my story turned out good, I found my biological mother and sisters and brother, and they were loving and accepting it does not always turn out that way???? So the one thing I guess I would warn you would be to work out your feelings about finding out before you search, and then think about how you might react to all scenarios. It will not prepare you totally but you will not feel so out of control.
I have a cousin who was adopted by my biological aunt, she found her biological mother who is receptive but her siblings are not (in fact not the least bit interested in her of anything about her) and it was very hurtful to her! Then I have a friend who found out her parents gave up a daughter before she was born.....she went from being first born to middle child and did not take it well. Plus the older sister is very different from her and her mother in vaules and many other things????? so just be very careful
I will tell you it was very strange because there are things that my mother and sisters do that I do (Nature) but there are also things I do because of the way I was raised (nurture).
If you need a shoulder to cry on or a friend to talk to feel free to contact me just_me_lb@yahoo.com.
It would be nice to hear how you feel too, because I have never met or talked to anyone that has gone through this
2006-09-25 05:15:21 · answer #10 · answered by Lisa H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋