Do men feel threatened by a lively forward woman and why?

Question

I decided life was too short so I thought I would talk to as many people as possible and make some good like minded friends. The girls have been great at opening up but the boys I have approached get scared if I want to know all about them too soon i.e. within a few days of meeting them.
What is the best approach?

Answer 1

Are you kidding?

Every guy i know loves to be approached and i try and tell as many women as possible to stop moaning about being single and go for the man you want.

Men feel a huge amount of pressure, we have to appraoch women where you get loads of knock backs, do all the chat, keep things flowing, be funny and witty.
Ok, things have changed but it is still seen as the mans job to do all this and more, how fantastic is it when a woman comes to you and suddenly, the pressure is gone in a second.

Here's a good tip to break the ice.

When your see someone you like, give a smile or two so he knows you interested and you get some feedback to if he's interested too.
Then, when he goes to the bar to order a drink, you go too and stand right at the side of him.

Just say hello, you have a relaxed situation, neither of you has had to walk over in front of friends, you can comment on what he's drinking, the service being slow, just anything to get a conversation going.
A girl i know does this and starts to talk about what ever drink they've ordered, i've never had that, can i try it?
Even with beer she does this and never EVER had a guy said no, she gets a quick sip and bang, there you have the food sharing scenario between couples in restraunts.

If you don't get the right vibe then your just there to get yourself a drink which you do then walk away.

Answer 2

Some men are threatened because they "think" u have other, ulterior motives other than just being friendly. My advice is to learn to adapt to each situation differently. If u know they're the type to be afraid, don't be too forward too soon. Make them feel safe in getting to know u first before u can expect them to open up to u.

Answer 3

Don`t be as direct as you have been. Although you may think that men like the attention you give, it can be a little overwhelming to them. Just strike up a conversation with them about anything else and then ask their opinion on the matter and then just take it from there.

Answer 4

I dunno why. Maybe feel that it is their territory ( even though it is the 21st century) As I got older i got more confidence in myself. Men still seem to be of the opinion that women who chat them up are 'easy'. Unbelievable eh! Smiling at someone lets them know you like them and kinda breaks the ice a bit. Boys are funny creatures - THROW ROCKS AT THEM! Lol.

Depends on the boy/man too. Just keep doing what you are doing cos you sound cool to me.

Answer 5

I don't know what kind of men you are talking to, but with it being the 21st century I think it's great when women come up and initiate a conversation with me. Just keep on being yourself! If you want email me, and we can chat!

Answer 6

Women don't intimidate or make men feel any lesser. If a man is attracted to a woman he may welcome the approach. I think If a man is not attracted to her he may shy back. Boys are different they're well boys

Answer 7

Life is too short. Girls always seem better at 'opening up' than guys. Our ego's may be at risk from deflating if you pry too much, too soon! Be friendly and everyone will warm to you.

Answer 8

Dont change - just be yourself, always nice to meet a 'lively forward lady' - good luck

Answer 9

,Always if there is unusual then comes fear. Casual and slow approach is the best. Not everything in one day.

Answer 10

i had an overpowering woman gabbing to me at a party and I just thought, I'm glad she ay my bird.