My Husband's Work Dictates How We Live?

Answer 1

Find the courage to assert yourself. Without blaming or accusing, confront your husband. Tell him that you're not interested in making more sacrifices. He must understand that there are two people in this marriage and both have needs and wants. A marriage can only work when there is mutual respect. It might be safer to share your feelings in a letter which will enable him to have the time to think about your concerns.

Remember happiness is a function of self-respect and intimacy. Act to create happiness for yourself.

Good luck,

Answer 2

I too can understand your problem.I too had a similar problem with my husband.I finally started getting suffocated.He is 10 yrs older to me and would want to live my life his way.I couldnt enjoy my life my way and have become old even before i realized it.The age to explore has crossed me and now i am scared to step out.Its better you ask him to give your space and freedom.Nobody likes a dictator.Marriage is a companionship with equal role of the partners.Its mutual understanding between the partners and there cant be any variation in the percentage.Love yourself and then look for a job.It will give u freedom and lots of confidence about yourself.Life is one and live it everyday as the last day.Wishin you all the best.Last but the least Love conquers everything..hitler also got carried away by his lady love.So try your luck that way first.

Answer 3

Maybe yours or his lifestyle dictates his job/income? Is it possible that you could go back to work part time and he would not have to work as long or have to work this particular type job? Maybe he could set his own hours if he didn't need the money. I would discuss his job with him and try to see his point of view also. Try to be patient this may just be a trying time in your marriage that won't last very long. If it is possible I would talk with my Husband to resolve this issue. Tell him you are trying to understand. Help him as much as you can. Try to compromise and meet him halfway.

Answer 4

My husband works about 73 hours per week. I dont work I stay at home with our baby. He is very tired all the time because of his hours. The hours are mandatory and we both wish he could work less. We love each other very much and we just deal with it. He sees the people at work more then us but what can you do. I would say if it is hurting your marriage then maybe he should seek other employment.

Answer 5

Did you sign up for that? In other words, was this how it was when you got married?

If so, then you made your choice and now you need to live with it, or make a change.

If not...talk to him and let him know that while you support him in his work (if you indeed do...) you feel as if your whole life is revolving around it and you need some balance.

Good luck...be open and honest with him and it will all work out.

Answer 6

What did you say your husband's dictate like?

Answer 7

Wow, he works, sounds like a real losers if you ask me (j/k) You like to eat and you like a roof over your head right. Work sometimes dictates when you have to work, it's just life, sorry.

Answer 8

welcome to the real world, most companies dictate where you live as in what area of the country, the military dictates much more.

Answer 9

I suggest u both compromise and come to a happy middle that works for both of u.

Answer 10

thats no good get a new old man then




it should be 50/50 shared not onewayz sorryz for being so blunt