My husband and I just can’t connect in bed. don’t know what turns him on ,?

Answer 1

Talk to each other. Since you’re the one who is aware of the problem then I would recommend that you initiate a discussion with your husband about your sexual concerns. If you’re afraid to, then the problem that you just mentioned is not confined to the bedroom. Sex is communication and more often than not good sexual communication is reflective of good overall communication between partners. If you’re afraid to create conflict, than you will most likely shy away from one another in all areas of your life.

If your husband responds positively to discussing your sexual relationship, then you’re on your way to solving your problems. Not knowing your sexual history, I can’t comment on your experience and knowledge about sexuality. One thing you should know is that very few couples intuitively know how to pleasure each other. To create a mutually satisfying and loving sexual relationship takes awareness and knowledge. The two of you need to spend time reading about sexual techniques. By doing so, you can learn the "what and how" of sexual pleasure. If you go to our Bookstore, you can find a number of excellent books on sexuality.

Answer 2

Well he might tell you something that turns him on, but some men dont like to talk about it, because, they might want something that you dont want or will not do. Then they are all embarressed and wont tell you what is in their small head, or big head for that matter. Men get turned on by alot of sexual things, you have to be creative. He will be turned on by you if you have learned something new, and it goes both ways. He needs to keep it fresh too.

Answer 3

u can try to ask him what turns him on.
the dialogue is very important between 2 in a relation. dont be afraid of talkin in this kind of things. he may like yhings that u dont.
u can bring a **** film and watch it together to c.
try new stuff, ask him all the time if this is good, and how he likes it.
be creative too, just put ur feelings, dont be cold when u try cos he wont feel u.
ask, talk,ask task.....

Answer 4

If he can't connect and if he's not turned on at the sight of you, just a random guess that either he's not into YOU or he's probably pitching for the other team (gay?)

Good luck on that one.

Answer 5

seduce him by wearing something which will drive him crazy.Make him yearn dont put urself nude in bed it doesnt create excitement at all.Light perfumed candles in ur room, wear a perfume urself which will make his mind off.Dont wait to connect in bed, choose another place example the bathroom, call him for the towel and u drag him to the bathtub to ur bed.Com'on dear its so easy ur a woman u can do evrything.

Answer 6

Have you tried a bit of dirty talk??? ASK him..."what do you want me to do baby" when your in the heat of the moment, OR...when you're just talking, ask him what really turns him on.

It sounds like you have a lack of communication, so work on that.

Good luck.

Answer 7

Try speaking to him, or try seeing a sex video with him and try to see what excites him, You may have to try out different things differnt styles, maybe a lot of foreplay.



Njoy....

Answer 8

I think your problem is because of so many tensions you r facing at home, just relax otherwise you can never have good sex.

Answer 9

WHOA! YOU BEEN ASKING ALOT OF QUESTION HERE AND YOU SEEM THE THE PLM NOT MOTHER IN LAW OR HUSBAND OR ANYONE JUST YOU. I THINK YOU NEED SEEK HELP FAST.

Answer 10

If u can't ask him, try some wearing sexi clothes, do something rmance such as candles & ..., french kiss, little bites, lick, s uck & ....