Moving out!?

Question

This is simply a legality issue. I'm 16 (soon to be 17) and want to know if i can legally leave my house (mom) and live with another person (who is 18). I basically support myself as it is. I have a decent job, and i could afford rent on an apartment. i have a 3.9 gpa (unweighted) and am in honors classes. I hardly see my mom since we both work, but she constantly yells at me and tells me to clean the house that i only use to sleep and shower in.

i seriousy just want to move out, but what would it take to make this legal?

Answer 1

maybe you should sit down with your mom and talk to her, either tell her she needs to change the way she treats you , or ask her if she will a) change the way she treats you and B) let you move out on your own. maybe she will agree to one or both.

Answer 2

Are you in the USA? If yes, then the law calls it running away. You will be a run away until you are 18. Now if the person you are planning to live with could possibly become your foster parent, then that would be different.

Many people under the age of 25 tend not to always make wise decisions. Perfect example; the rate of auto accidents caused by men drops significantly after 25. Women do so at a younger age, but I don't remember exactly when. That's why insurance rates go down so much when people reach that age. Now, the government doesn't make us wait until we are in our 20s to be released from the responsibility of our parents, but they do make us wait until we are 18. At some point in your near future, your brain will stop making it's decisions in the impulse area of the brain, the hypothalamus, and make it in the frontal lobes, where experience & learning is kept.

Until that time, it would be easier & cheaper to negotiate with your mom. Unless she is mentally unbalanced and you need to get out for your own safety. Besides she shouldn't ask too much of you, do you work 40 hours a week? No, you not only work ___ hours, but you also go to school 30-35 hours plus 10-15 hours of homework each week. That's more than she has, maybe she could help you out.

Although it was a pain to put up with my parents yelling and sarcasim when I turned 16, once we had a fair work plan in place, (and I learned to sweetly rattle off what was done and offered to drop everything to do the current thing they were hounding me about) they realized I was a good person and got off my back.

Besides, the alternative consists of working harder your own place, spending more of your money, with nothing left for fun. Not even time for fun. And you don't want to worry about being picked up by the police and your room-mate getting arrested for harboring a run-away.

Many will say that emancipation is easy, but any lawyer will say it's next to impossible unless you are a Star actor or athlete who needs emancipation to allow you to act or compete in sports longer hours, no longer controlled by child labor laws. Besides, I hear it is expensive.

Answer 3

as a lawyer, my answer is that you have to petition the courts to be emancipated from your parents. even if your mother agrees that you can move out, she will be legally responsible for your actions, or lack thereof (e.g., you drop out of school and she can be charged). so the only thing that "should" happen is emancipation. however, i am sure that the court will hear testimony from your mother before rendering a decision. so if she is contesting the emancipation...you still may be screwed.

as a daughter of a mother who was a pain in my butt growing up...i am telling you to take your head out of your @$$. an over-bearing parent is a God-send. you are at an age where you are still inclined to round up your age ("soon to be 17")....so that lets me know that you also are eager to round up your maturity! so what, you are working. so what, cleaning a bathroom is a pain in the butt when you work long hours. but your parents are YOUR PARENTS. everything they demand is for a reason...but no one ever said that the reasons are always fair. the point is, in my prosecutorial experiance, most knuckleheads have knucklehead parents! if your mother ever responds "BECAUSE I SAID SO!"...then she is probably doing a damn good job at raising you. it's hard to explain to a 16 year old, but my only advice is that you try your best to work through it. and remember, you aren't hardly the first teenager to go through this with their parents. i remember when i got my first job at 16, and i actually framed a thought that my mother was mean to me b/c i had more "disposable income" than her. LOL. and you may agree with that logic....but trust me, it's idiotic. my mother was the way she was back then, so i could be the way i am right now.

and you know what i had to do with i gave her too much lip?? i had to open my bible to Ephesians 6:1-4. i had to right it 100 times! and my mother checked everything sentence. any mistakes or misspellings had to be rewritten. i am not sure if you are a Christian or not...but i sincerely think you should check it out .

Take care and God Bless!

Answer 4

You would probably need to go through the court system and become legally emancipated from your mom. Since you are a minor, she still has power over you. So to be able to move out and live on your own (or in this case with someone else), you need to be emancipated to detach yourself from that parental power. And I don't know much about that, but it is very hard to get emancipated except in extreme cases such as abuse.

Answer 5

this is the real world so how about baby steps sonny...start by paying your mother 400 per month... then pay a cleaning woman to come in once a week to clean...honors student huh...a good college is gonna cost you about sixty thousand. but you can get a loan.the crack and pot you will start using won't be too expensive but when you start with meth,look out.!!!!i.ve only started.....why don't you do a paper on "personal economics" on yourself. you should be able to get extra credit and raise your GPA to 4.0...i will even help you...what is the cost of taking accredited college courses by an honors high school student??? that would be zero genius!!!!!!!!! this is the real world world sonny..your mommy cannot even get you to pick up your dirty drawers.....you think she can keep you from moving out. go ahead. loser!!!

Answer 6

You would have to be emancipated, which means you would have to see a judge and show reasons why your mother shouldn't be responsible for you anymore.

Call the courts. But unless your mom is a bigtime loser (on drugs, in prison, abusive, etc) the judge probably won't want to give you the time of day.

Answer 7

Yes it is..speak to a lawyer that deals with this . If you are working and can afford to take care of yourself this would be a good way to see if you are ready to be out on your own. If you handle this well then you are going to be ok. This is one of the things that you will have to deal with out there. Be prepared for more things like this...life isn't easy even on your own.

Answer 8

You should apply for visa so you can leave