hi, well im a proud mommy of a 13 month old.baby girl..i love her to death, but i just recently found out im pregnant..im about 6 weeks..and i was wondering is there a possibility to love one of your children more the other??? what about my dezy, how will she act on a new baby?? ( i need advice and comfort from mothers who have children so close in age)
oh and by the way here are my names tell me what you think:: for a girl Jazmin Alexa, (my first is Dezaray Ayraly, (jaz, dez) & (Dezy, Lexy) what do you think?? lol
for a boy i like Noah, but i have yet to find a middle name, and my husband likes the name nathaniel ray (his middle name is ray, but i think nathan is such a common name?) tell me what you think.
2006-09-24 20:23:35 · 9 answers · asked by nahdya21 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
well just envolve you other baby when taking care of your newborn baby and YOU can never love one more then the other you love the both the same so no worries there ok. Just make sure you make some alone time with the oldest and you envolve the oldest when you are taking care of the newborn maybe give the oldest child little chores like getting mommy wipes and things like that she will be older when the new baby arrives so maybe these little chores will be easy for her and she will feel better about having a sibbling bc she is still getting your attention and helping out too. And about names pick what you like but do try not to pick out a name that is easy to tease.
Congrats
2006-09-24 20:35:52 · answer #1 · answered by knowssignlanguage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no worries about the love for your children. you will love them all, in different ways, but you will love them all. As for the baby and her sibling there may be some jealousy issues, but then again, she may be really nurturing towards the baby. There is going to be some jealousy....of course....but it can be worked with. Just make sure that you make special time for her even after the baby comes. This will make her feel less like she is loosing mommy to this new kid. My friend said that her older child was at first not paying much attention to the new baby. and tha maybe she thought that the baby would eventually go away. Well, they are doing much better a few years later. When I had my second, my first was 9, he had been asking for a little brother for years. There were still some jealousy issues there to deal with even though he understood more. So this all depends on your child. I am also due again in December, and my 2nd is only 16months, so I am kind of in the same boat as you witha little one and one on the way. let me know if you have any more questions. good luck and congrats.
2006-09-25 03:38:45 · answer #2 · answered by hazel eyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There always is the possiblity that someone could love one child mor ethen the other.. But honestly, both of these children are you flesh and blood, you will love them both and Im sure you would do anything for either of them.. Don't worry your self about that.. You will instantly fall in love with this new child just as quickly as you did you last,
I really like the name Alexa.. Did you know that people that have a name that end in an A are usually more successful because they are more dominating and self motivated.. I don't know why that is but I read it somewhere..
Nathaniel is a cute name too. I don't think it is too common. I know one person name Nathaniel and he is the only person I have ver met with that name. But go with your heart or you could just wait til the baby is born and decied when he is delivered,, When you see him you will know which name is right for him.
Congrats on you new baby and Good Luck!!!
2006-09-25 03:31:49 · answer #3 · answered by summfish 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh thank God I wasn't the only one who thought that! I was afraid that I would love my two year old more than my son. Here I am now with two precious children, a three month old and a two and a half year old. I love em both with all my heart and if a third one came I would love him/her just the same. Don't worry a bit. I really like Jazmin Alexa as a name...really pretty. Congratulations and good luck. You will do much better than you think on the love part.
2006-09-25 04:56:48 · answer #4 · answered by SquirrelBait 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a mother of 3 boys, and two of them are 20 months apart. I was scared that I wouldnt be able to have the same feelings and love for my second and third children, but in all reality as soon as that baby is born, there is no question. You may think that you couldnt possibly love someone as much as you do your first child, but you can, I promise! I love all of my boys so much, and for so many different reasons. They are all so different and wonderful that I sometimes catch myself smiling just because they are each so special. So, please, dont worry at all about lacking in love with your second, child, you will be suprised to find out just how much love you have in you.
2006-09-25 14:31:37 · answer #5 · answered by holly w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No so keen on Nathan but love Noah, and your girls names has a cool 'ring' to it. I felt like you did, didn't quite understand (but kept it to myself) how you can treat 2 (or more) children with the same love, affection etc but honestly, it's true. I can honestly say that I don't feel any more or less towards either of my children. I feel 100% the same towards them both. A tip that we used for our first to get used to the second was to involve them in everything, take them to the scans, it's "their" baby and not yours, feeling your tummy, choosing a few bits (nearer the time) for the baby then the good old thing of the baby bringing a present when it's born....good luck with it all and enjoy, it's amazing to see how your first reacts to your second and vice versa - brings tears to your eyes.
2006-09-25 11:09:34 · answer #6 · answered by aza 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Me and one of my sisters are 17 months apart and we were so close growing up together.
I think that one should love their kids equally. Everyone should not treat one child no differently than the other one.
I know people that has their "favorite" out of their kids and the kids that aren't mom's pick makes them feel like they are worthless so i stress that so much that someone should have a "PICK' out of their kids.
I like the name Jasmine Alexis Or Kennedy Alexis or Addison Rayleigh
I like Noah Kendall or Noah Jeremiah
Good luck and congrats
2006-09-25 04:39:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a mother of three now I don't think you love one of your kids more than the other. I think you just love them all in different ways. I think you love them for the different joys they bring into your life. I love all my kids just as much as the other just in different ways.
My oldest daughter is named Misti Dawn
My middle daughter is named Morgan Amie and we went a little different with my son. He is 3 months old and his name is Ashton Caleb. Hope this helps.
2006-09-25 03:32:46 · answer #8 · answered by gatattoogal 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
congratulations. im sure you could love one child more than the other, but a respectable parent wont show it.
so close in age, plus a toddler will be wanting your attention, so remember to keep having one on one time with her.
love the names. hope it all goes well for you
2006-09-25 03:29:51 · answer #9 · answered by huney_mumi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋