After not seeing him for two months we got together for a nite. He is married which he hid from me in the beginning. That is why I broke up with him. How do you trust a cheater? I am married too and although my husband has suspected something I have been able to bluff him so far. I really love my boyfriend and can't seem to move on.... HELP!!
2006-09-24 20:20:37 · 27 answers · asked by patmallard 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It would depend on how your "boyfriend" said it. Maybe he wishes he never met you because of the turmoil he is going through, chosing between the two of you. However, he might say that because he thinks you are ruining his life.
You say how do you trust a cheater? Well, darling, you are one too. Go home and tell your husband and hope that he doesn't kick you out of the house, which is what he should do.
2006-09-24 20:23:50 · answer #1 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Ok, I've been there and I've done this so I know exactly what this guy means:
This basically means one thing: HE'S FALLING IN LOVE WITH YOU
...and he's not too keen to break up his marraige
Probably he's going through a marraige which somehow is falling short, which is why he went into this as a little adventure on-the-side, probably the excitement of this would have been sufficient for him to go through with his boring life. Only he didn't count on getting too emotionally involved. When he says he wishes he never met you he's obviously saying he's trapped and that this whole thing is a bit more than he'd ever expected.
The thing now is where do you (as a fellow cheater) want to take this? Do you also reciprocate his feelings or is this just a little adventure for you?
2006-09-24 20:43:22 · answer #2 · answered by Norman 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get a grip. You are really messed up. How do you trust a cheater........you don't trust him. Also, if he has cheated with you, he will cheat on you. Is this the life you want?
And exactually why do you think it ok to cheat on your husband after taking vows in your marriage ceremony.? You act like this is an ok situation.
You really don't love your lover.......you are just addicted to the pleasure that he brings you. I say it is time to work on your marriage now.
So, this guy hid the fact that he was married and you feel like you can't trust him.......what part of that is attractive to you?
Clean up your own homelife before you break up his.
2006-09-24 20:27:58 · answer #3 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where's the "I will always be faithful to you (hubby)?" Definitely you need counseling. Perhaps you're at lost for love, or not know what IS love?
Basically what your "boyfriend" said could mean anything. Maybe he regretted that he met another married woman or regretted that he's cheating. Maybe he thinks "that's it"... can't be with you no more. It could mean anything. Your job for now? Get counseling and move on like the "boyfriend" never existed.
2006-09-24 20:27:35 · answer #4 · answered by appletech089 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG are you for real? "How do you trust a cheater?"!?
Reality check...both of you need to be honest with your spouses, or else it will eat at you for the rest of your lives. You're concerned about your boyfriend being married and not telling you...but you're doing the same thing to YOUR husband!!!
Good grief, they need to have a secluded island to send all you cheaters. Maybe then it'd be a little easier to trust in a relationship.
2006-09-24 20:24:52 · answer #5 · answered by prayinfroggy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It seems pretty crystal clear, he wishes he had never meant you. Perhaps he regrets cheating on his wife.
How do you trust a cheater you don’t? You’re married so you’re a cheater too. As said go home and confess to your husband and see if he trusts you.
2006-09-24 20:25:48 · answer #6 · answered by Spread Peace and Love 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How can u trust a cheater? LOL, u should know as u are one yourself. He wished he never met u because he KNOWS he's screwed up and is probably feeling guilty for cheating on his wife. I suggest u stay out of his life and worry about your own marriage.
2006-09-24 20:25:39 · answer #7 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He only means one thing and that is he regret having a sin affair with you,how would you trust a cheater why don't u ask dat to yourself,How would ur husband and your kids trust you????Then get some counselling.
2006-09-24 20:29:59 · answer #8 · answered by kimy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm exactly what it sounds like is what it means. Maybe he realized he was wrong and loves his wife. Besides that you said you don't like cheaters yet you are doing the EXACT same thing. Isn't that a little hypocritical not to mention contradicting? I hope your husband does find out.
2006-09-24 20:23:24 · answer #9 · answered by mystique_dragon4 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Girl you are in a sticky situtation...boyfriend & husband? First of all you need to drop that so called boyfriend of yours...he doesnt want you anymore. Now about your husband...you need to let him go too. Obviously, you are not interested in him either or else you wouldn't be playing. You need to start fresh and get rid of all that drama in your life. Things seem to be going wrong because you are going in the wrong direction. I hope this helps.
2006-09-24 20:25:59 · answer #10 · answered by ♪♫♫♪ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋