i have know this guy for about humm....6 years...hes always been kinda fruity...i just recently found gay porn on his computer. i totally dont hate gay people, i've worked with them. he is always pessemistic, and is all about drama in the friend circle...goes behind peoples backs...i just wanna know if i should be like "dude, i know your gay i dont care, thats your thing" or should i wait until hes comfortable enough with it himself....???
2006-09-24 20:17:10 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If he is gay then he is embarrassed.A lot of gay people are scared to 'come out' of the closet for fear of what other people will say,scared of their reaction.He might be scared of losing your friendship.Plus if he was gay,he might think if he was honest and told male friends, that he is giving the impression that he is interested in them.You have to wait and go with the flow.If he is gay he will come out in his own time.Just don't recoil in horror,be prepared,and be cool about it.He knows you are straight,so chill out.
2006-09-24 21:34:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is into drama and is pessimistic because he has a desire to come out and is scared to.. so thats his way of dealing with it. I would just wait until he confides in you. Continue to be his friend.. but dont go barging into his private business.
2006-09-28 21:02:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just wait, he'll tell you when he's ready. but also turn on some green light for him here and there...give him some hint about you ok with a guy being gay. you're a good friend.
2006-09-25 08:39:38 · answer #3 · answered by hoang anh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say straight out "are you gay?" Just a friendly question and get an answer.
2006-09-25 03:21:41 · answer #4 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi!
I guess ... just a simple question will be enough ..."are you gay?"
If he has a mature personality he will answering to tell the truth
Cool !!
FER
2006-09-26 15:20:55 · answer #5 · answered by revenger98 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait until he comes out then tell him you suspected it for a while
2006-09-26 14:58:45 · answer #6 · answered by tchn138 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea, dont assume anything, when he's ready, he'll tell you, and dont mention the fact taht you snop on his comp.
2006-09-25 03:20:23 · answer #7 · answered by Pie Man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no reason to bring it up, let him tell you when he's ready :)
2006-09-25 03:24:02 · answer #8 · answered by pinknoodle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋