we are a young couple.we are both 28 been married for four years,and the whole time we been married hes been cold.ive always been sexual.i love sex and enjoy it to the max.i do things for him that other men would go crazy over and for him is like he freaks out.so far ive been told hes asking me to cheat.but i dont want to,i love him.i trully feel im doing something wrong.i am a guys dream.i have a nice figure,im not overweight.i take care of my self.he is wonderful outside the bedroom.but inside the bedroom hes lame and sex is only allowed if he feels like it.i am horny as hell right now and want him.but i tried to wake him up and he just pushed me away saying he wasnt in the mood.a couple of days ago i waited for him naked he freaked out,and lap dances,strip teases.heck he dont like for me to give him head.and i enjoy doing that to him so much.his perfect way of having sex is same old misionary.i am so bored,its a shame.sex should be fun and experimental and it takes two.
2006-09-24 20:05:21 · 15 answers · asked by super girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This guy is dead - you need to find yourself a real man!
2006-09-24 21:24:50 · answer #1 · answered by bad_bob_69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should both see a sexual therapist.It all boils down to you having a higher sex drive than him-a therapist would eventually get the both of you to meet in the middle,and work from there.Most men would like the sexual variety in the bedroom that you speak of(tried any other parts of the house-bathroom,kitchen,living room,on the stairway,garden...or in the car?)and also the spontaneity too-but no matter how frustrated you feel,to force this issue would not be good for your otherwise stable marriage,especially if he has a problem you do not know about.You are right,it does take two,so work together:-)
2006-09-25 03:47:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Masterbation is natural. I think roleplaying will help the marriage, for example pretened you both met and to different people. But taking a vacation on a cruise ship is a good way to get each other open and lose for each other again. No matter if you are male or female, masturbation in general is not bad for your health. But you should be careful not to allow it to interfere with other more important things. Whatever it takes to satisfy your personal desires is what is right for you but again dont let it take priority over thing that should matter more. Good luck and have fun.
2006-09-25 03:13:25 · answer #3 · answered by dave l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may sound silly (especially when we're talking about a guy here) but maybe he feels just a little like that's all you want. Get a really good vibrator and some batteries to let out some of the tension, and then if you don't want it so much maybe he'll be interested. If not, find someone who can satisfy your needs better. Just make sure to leave him first.
2006-09-25 03:12:05 · answer #4 · answered by heatherhoney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about if the situation were reversed. You can't force yourself on him. It would be nice if he was more interested in sex and perhaps you should see a doctor or marriage counselor to find out what the problem is. In the meantime, you really do need to allow your husband control over his body. You don't have to masturbate. You can take a cold shower or exercise or just keep feeling sorry for yourself. If lots of interesting sex is that important to you, you should have made your expectations clear before you got married.
2006-09-25 03:12:40 · answer #5 · answered by Kuji 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
O man hmm what can i say he lacks passion thats it, if i had you here i would make you scream untill you begged me to stop, lol (stratmaster66@sbcglobal.net) i too had the same problem witha girl i could do things only few man could dream of, but have you tried getting a bit of wine in his system you know alcohole fires up the passion just enough tough==waith is he a minute man what r we dealing with here, email me i know a few tricks that might get that passion burning again--or started lol ok well send me a message.....bye good luck
2006-09-25 03:25:06 · answer #6 · answered by king cobra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow well have to ask did you no before you got married to him you were un happy with him sexually? maybe you thought you loved him so much that it didn't matter and now you realize you cant take it any more. i would ask him if he will see a marriage counselor but from what you say of him he is to proud to do such a thing. he must have some insecurities concerning sex.maybe he was abused but maybe not. obviously its not your fault you are every mans dream it sounds like lol. but don't cheat trust me i made that mistake and i am sorry i did. he is very up tight and sorry to say i don't think he will change. invest in a good vibrator i guess. good luck to you.
2006-09-25 03:17:16 · answer #7 · answered by lnay69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that might be the craziest thing i ever heard. he must be cheating on you or he is jerkin off all the time. or he is some religious weirdo who thinks sex is wrong. if it isn't working for you then move on while you are young.
other options are to try maxoderm or viagra. maybe he just isn't very confident. maybe you are just too freaky for him. i think girls that try too hard to act sexy are just pathetic and i loose sexual interest. some girls try to do what they see porn stars or strippers do. well guess what, you probably dont have the body of a pornstar or a stripper. so stop trying to make yourself sexy to him by acting sleazy. go for the emotional conection instead. the emotional connection is SOOOOO hot to me, no matter what position we are in. but like i said, trying to pull a stripper moves or saying something that only passes in a porno movie will kill my mood realfast and ill go find a girl who doesnt try so hard as to act like a hoe to impress me. there is nothing sexy about loving a ho.
2006-09-25 03:14:51 · answer #8 · answered by Matt G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you keep asking the same question over and over again but just changing the words. You are getting the answers. Just because you don't like what you are being told, doesn't give you the right to keep asking the same question.
2006-09-25 03:09:05 · answer #9 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Amen sister!! Get out that toy and use it with him laying there. Tell him he can either discuss the problem with you and the two of you find a solution together or you will do what ever is necessary to make sure you have an orgasm.
2006-09-25 03:10:05 · answer #10 · answered by up2sumpthun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋