My boyfriend of three years is going to break up with me tomorow, and i am so broken. I cannot stop crying and i feel so empty. I love him sooo much and he is torn with staying with me or not...hes kinda having a crisis. He thinks hes missing ou on dating or whatever because we have been together for so long and got together at 16, Please help me figure out how to convince him to stay with me. I cannot be without him. I am not okay. Please help me. I know that he still loves me and cares for me thats why its so hard for him, but I need him so badly. Why isn't love enough...i have soo much love for him and he has for me too.. I cannot function..I cannot sleep, All I do is cry, im so scared to be withouth him, i need him....please help me
2006-09-24 20:05:11 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am so sorry for you sweetie. Maybe he wants to try it out and will come back. Life is like that....you have to grab happiness whenever you can because it is always escaping from us. If he truly loves you he WILL come back. Its all part of growing up and you are afraid of the future and of being alone. You are at a lovely age and you have the world at your feet. Try to pluck up courage and do something new. If you can get away from where you are and make a fresh life...perhaps going to work abroad for a few months. don't sit at home because all you will do is think about him all the time. Start going out with your girlfriends and if you dont have any then start off by making new friends at work or going to a club or evening classes. then start going out with the people you meet. By this time you will know whether he will come back to you or not and if he doesnt you have started a new life of your own and will meet someone. You are still vey young and will have lots of opportunities to meet a nice guy and eventually marry him. Come sweetie....stop crying....who knows he still might change his mind by tomorrow. Pick up the phone and make arrangements NOW to meet an old friend whom you havent seen for a long time. Fill your days with friends . Meet someone on a regular basis and be sure that you are not left alone for a while.
2006-09-24 20:17:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry that you're going through such a tough time, and hope you get through it soon.
I can't tell you how to hold on to this guy...is it even wise to try to keep someone who wants to leave? Because sooner or later they WILL leave.
It's only natural in any relationship that the people involved feel trapped at times and have the urge to break free...sometimes the relationship does end and sometimes it survives the stormy weather.
Even if your boyfriend has expressed a desire to have some time away from each other, that does not necessarily mean that he wants to break up with you...unless he said so specifically.
From the info you've given, you are very frightened at the thought of this coming to an end...three years is a long time...and it's all right to feel sad and lonely and afraid...
I don't doubt that you love this guy and that it might take a while to get over him...maybe you both need some time away from each other, if not to meet new people then to get involved in new interests...have a new hobby, or something like that.
Your boyfriend may feel pressured by others to experience more (ie other girls) even if he does love you. Is it at all possible that the two of you can sit together and discuss the situation? Not in an angry, or bitter, or guilt tripping manner...just to clarify your situation, and get the other person's point of view.
You may or may not spend the rest of your life with this man, but regardless of that remember that you're still YOU...if he really loves you he'll come back, and if he doesn't...maybe you would be better off without him
I'm sorry that I couldn't help you more (if at all). I hope you get through this...
~vdrt
2006-09-24 20:36:21 · answer #2 · answered by vdrt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Breaking up with someone is really hard. But then if that someone is not really into you anymore its kinda hard to force them to continue with the relationship. In the end both of you will suffer with it. I guess its better to just let him go, but i think you should talk to him first and ask if it's really what he wants. talk it over. If it wont work anymore then do what is best - move on. I know its just easy for me to tell you this because im not experiencing that now, but then you are too young and the world is big enough for you to enjoy it. Think about the positive side. Discover yourself. If both of you are meant for each other then love will find it's way to bring you back together. smile!
2006-09-24 20:24:06 · answer #3 · answered by whappack 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wants to go, as hard as it is, it's best to let him do that. I just got my heart smashed into zillions of pieces, and I cried, and found it hard to function. But I had to accept being dumped because I know if I try to convince him to get back together with me, he'll only resent me for it.
Love is not enough if both parties don't want the same things.
If you convince him to stay when he doesn't want to, he won't be a good partner to you as a result. He'll even resent you for it.
2006-09-24 20:13:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try ro talk to him for the last time,ask him wat had been the problem why he come to the conclusion of ending your relationship.After you have heard and you think there is basis and you can't ask him to stay,let him go at least ur burden will be lessen cause you have known the reasons.Move on I had been with a 5 years relationship but suddenly our relationship don't turn out well i have reasons why i end it up,and he knows it,but no matter how he try to let me stay i still insist to go cause i know it will be better for both of us esp. for me.He can't force me to stay why i don't want to.Relationship should be mutual and not one sided.Its really hard to wake up one day that the person u use to be with is not beside with you anymore,but thats life,we should learn to accept the reality of life.You can move on,just remember in everything that's happening to us God has its own reason.You still have friends and your family don't be scared on being alone.
2006-09-24 20:57:16 · answer #5 · answered by kimy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know its easy to dismiss him as a weakling - but cant he understand the feeling of that every moment in 3years?
Talk to him-try convincing him..
Relationships arent games..Power money and all follow and tell him - ITS OF NO USE UNTIL YOU HAVE SOMEONE TO SPEND IT ON AND STAY WITH!
The money wouldnt give him feelings of care and love..
Money is not everything - it can be lost and earned ..
May sound too mushy i know - but its sad to see people go so emotionless in the due course of time !!
2006-09-24 20:09:48 · answer #6 · answered by Beautiful Snowwhite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 22:29:03 · answer #7 · answered by schrum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to break up. But it is worse to try and hold someone if they are restless. Let him go. Let him get it out of his system. Take the time apart to learn more about yourself - your likes and dislikes. If he grows out if this phase, he'll be back. And if he doesn't, then you are better off making room in your life for someone else. [It's sounds harsh, but it's better for you in the long run].
2006-09-24 20:09:50 · answer #8 · answered by trev 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it instride sweetie....dont be one of those girls who always needs a bf...there is a whole world of people out there why should u be so close to one of them...i realize that you guys have been together for 3 years, but your only 19. you have your whole life ahead of you....i broke up with a girl i loved once, it was the hardest think i have ever had to do. but i did it so that we could be friends later in life...and we are! and whose to say that u guys cant cheat with eachother on current bf and gf.....lol - its kinda funny...good luck babe...there is always tomorrow.....and the sunshine 2
2006-09-24 20:11:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hm..i can't help much..all i can is to give u an advise.forget bout him..he's not good enough for u!!he's probably doesn't love u anymore..so y u get all ur feeling down because of this motha***** ok..i know what u feel...but hm...
2006-09-24 20:44:07 · answer #10 · answered by ReeZ C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋