I have been separated from my husband.There is no contact with him.In the mean while i have a friend who has been there with me during my crises.We eneded up sleeping with each other and we also realize we are in love.But at the same time i dont know my status of marriage.I would like to give a second chance to my marriage provided my husband gets in touch with me.He has kept my son also with him.He had been physical with me and tries to prove everything wrong in me.I had found a friend who would listen to me all the time.At the same time he also wants me to be happy and back in marriage.Mine was alove marriage with my husband and at times feel that i am still in love with him.Or is it that i was in love with the routine.We had too many fights.Is sleeping with my friend for once called infedility?We just talk each other everyday but have resolved nothing like that should happen again.He is also married.Too confused.Should i go ahead with my relationship with my friend or should wait
2006-09-24 20:01:54 · 11 answers · asked by jennifer r 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, it's infidelity because even though u were separated, u were still legally married and now u are in deeper s**t than u intended to be in because your so-called friend is also married. How can u even call that love when u know for a fact that u slept with him to fill in a void left by your husband? If your husband and your friend's wife find out u two were sleeping together, do u realize how many more people you'll hurt (including children)?
I suggest u make up your mind on whether u are going to stay with your husband or not. As far as your friend is concerned, u best stay out of his life and stop getting in between him and his own wife who, unfortunately, is the innocent party here.
2006-09-24 20:12:02 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jen: where I am from, unless one is legally separated by the State (recognized by the state), or divorced, it is considered infidelity on both your parts. Your friend may love you...but if he tells you that he 'also want you to be happy and back in marriage' it sounds like he has no intent on divorcing his wife. How old is your son? I couldn't stand being separated from my children as well. My children were what held me together in my separation. If your husband was physical with you...and tried to prove everything was wrong with you, what makes you think that he isn't going to be physical with your son? Get him out of there or go back and be an advocate for your son.
2006-09-25 03:15:57 · answer #2 · answered by What, what, what?? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear i think u think just think about sex becuse as situation stands ur friend r married man and he also not leave his faimly. then how can help you. a good friend never sugest you to broke up your relationship he must give u a positive thinking dear in the world a little of people think for others . so how u can say that he should be a right person. just think about u r previous relationship with u r faimly because dear no knowlege without collage and no life without wife. how many days u can sped sprately ? dear just make a habbite of give a balidan apno ke liye kuch dena sikho phir dekho life ka rang hi bdal jayega.
2006-09-28 02:10:28 · answer #3 · answered by ~~bindaas~~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you wanna give your husband another chance? One chance is enough. You don't want to second guess yourself before you know it you are right back at where you started. If he is physical & he don't listen & critize you by putting you down than you don't need that. You deserve better. Believe me i went though that. I second guess myself & i went right back at where i started. About your friend is he a good friend or just a friend with benefits? He is married but thinks you should go back with your husband but you guys are in love? Um.. Put yourself in his wife's shoes? Don't do it.
2006-09-25 03:14:02 · answer #4 · answered by smartie2828 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Don't go back to your husband. There were good reasons for your split.
2. Stop sleeping with your "friend". He is married, for crying out loud.
3. Get through your upcoming divorce, child custody issues, etc. and THEN
4. Think about another relationship.
2006-09-25 03:05:09 · answer #5 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that is a heavy situation, one that I don't have the answers for except one. You shouldn't be sleeping with a married man! just because your marriage is in question, it doesn't make it right to mess with someone elses marriage. Your first priority is your SON!!! Find out the status of your marriage for his benifit and decide what is best for him!!!!
2006-09-25 03:07:46 · answer #6 · answered by rimples25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly if your husband always tries to find fault with you and physically and mentally abuses you then even if you love him you should end it because he will always try to find fault in you because he is insecure about his self.as far as your friend yes it is infidelity but if your friends marriage is over or he wants to be with you instead then it sounds like you are happy with him but if he says he will not leave his wife then you should move on but...not to your husband. i am sure you are able to be happy with someone else someday. don't be afraid to be alone respect yourself do not let him hurt you any longer. good luck to you.
2006-09-25 03:09:58 · answer #7 · answered by lnay69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look on,
Its not right sleeing around with your ex.
Coz afterall you had it enough before separation. And most of all, there are so many men out there.
2006-09-25 03:18:12 · answer #8 · answered by Storm 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
R u sexually unsatisfied or u love fun sex. friend should remain friend only. I can suggest u two answers
1-ENJOY SEX WITH UR FRIEND WILDLY & SPOIL UR & URS FAMILY FOT UR THRUST OF SEX.
2-FORGET SEX KEEP THE RELATIONS HEALTHY & FIND OUT THE SOLUTIONS
OR CALL ANY CASANOVA SO NO FAMILY WILL BE HURT & U GET UR PHISICAL SATISFACTION ALSO
2006-09-25 03:51:26 · answer #9 · answered by sandeep k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex doesn't deserve you darling: Go for the guy that is there when you need him, the one you really love! Good luck!!
2006-09-25 03:10:54 · answer #10 · answered by bb37dubai 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋