iam22 the first child of my family,and my father married my mother for lack of children for my aunt. my aunt had grown me and my youngsters, but recently my mother and aunt fought, for that my aunt cursing all us including me. she never allowed us to see and speak to her, she does everything by other women who give bad thoughts to her, she thinks we never care her, my father unable to take peace here, i am working and separete from family, my aunt had very good affection on me, but now she hates all of us becoz we r children of her enemy, but she does not have any support, we have to take care, i have younger sister, my aunt curses her also and nevr allows to her,this side my mother says do not see her, in village this is really happening, my aunt age is 48 years, but i love her, she worked hard and grown me,last 4 years i sent money to her more than to mom, bcoz she should not feel lack of child, but last 1 month my mind never allows to see her, she curses my youngsters and my sister
2006-09-24 19:46:11 · 8 answers · asked by Sky lark 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
she lives separetely, if i go to see her, she curse me and says wrongly to all people,she nevr take care my sister, she does all thing to my relatives daughter, my sister cries, my aunts hates her, but i cannot hate her, truely she gave her life to grow me rather than my mother, she doesnot believe us by accepting the wrong thoughts from others, she is uneducated and weeps everyday. iam in dilemma whether to take care of both mother and aunty, in night iam unable to get sleep.please help me to solve and get peace in my family
2006-09-24 19:50:51 · update #1
Kill her with kindness. If she is mean than you be nice. If she gets meaner than you get nicer. Buy her something nice or make her a delicious meal. Do something out of the ordinary that you don't do. She might stop & think of all the nice things you are doing to her & she might ask herself why is she treating you so mean when this should be between your mother & your auntie.
2006-09-24 20:20:01 · answer #1 · answered by smartie2828 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
this is something which your father need to take care of this issue. you are doing everything is possible. if you think that other people is making your aunt thinks bad then take her out for some time where you and your family is and no one knows you. and try to make her understand thing are not like what she is thinking. money is not everything give her so much love that she can not believe on someone other than you or your family.the love is solution of every problem.
2006-10-02 10:51:22 · answer #2 · answered by pari 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear friend, this is just a misunderstanding. Try to speak with her again, if this is not working, consult a social psychologist or write to Mrs. Anuradha Ramanan, for her e-mail visit www.dinamalar.com in that visit viewer's mail, type in your question, they will deliver it to her or Editor, Anbudan Antharangam Section, Dinamalar, Mount Road, Chennai
(Madras) - 600 002, Tamil Nadu, India. They will definitely answer you question.
2006-10-02 10:04:08 · answer #3 · answered by rdhinakar4477 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since Christmas and Thanksgiving Day are fast approaching, save money to buy her flowers and I am sure by this time, you know her favorite things ;) Don't allow yourself to be included in the oldies' quarrel. Love is patient. Your Aunt is still trying to heal her heartaches.
2006-09-24 19:52:39 · answer #4 · answered by Mutya P 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, that is a very upsetting thing for you to have to bear. i understand how you love her, and are grateful for her help.however, giving her financial help, when she causes so much pain in you and your brothers, and sisters, is inexcusable. she has to be made to understand that such childish behaviour will not be tolerated, and if i were you, i would send her very little if any money . ( i wouldn't send any for awhile) so she can understand the consequences of her foolish actions. i think after a few weeks of reality, she may be more agreeable than you thought. you don't reward someone for bad behaviour.
2006-10-01 13:57:47 · answer #5 · answered by cee jay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are so close to her and cant find yourself hating her, make peace with her.Explain situation to her.This may take some time.Dont neglect her.Even if she hates you please dont stop caring for her.At the same time dont neglect your mom.
Do some meditation to relax yourself.Remember to fight against bad people or bad situation you have to be strong and cheerful.
Best of luck.
2006-09-24 22:11:20 · answer #6 · answered by sweety 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with along with your best friend and give her a Warm HUG and Say you LOVE her a lot.
2006-09-24 21:34:13 · answer #7 · answered by Mechie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is because of the angry which she had got in herself if it goes out she will be ok. If she really loved u she cannot forget u.so please keep on trying
2006-09-24 22:04:19 · answer #8 · answered by valu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋