me and my boyfriend are both young an we have a child together we live together and we have been together for 6yrs he is 22 and im 20 but i keep finding out about him and other girls and i keep tring to forgive him and keep our family together but he keep playing games i understand that we are both young but when will it end
2006-09-24 19:41:43 · 18 answers · asked by leena 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It won't. He'll keep doing this until you finally wise up and leave him. It's as simple as that.
2006-09-24 19:43:54 · answer #1 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you are so young. normally i would say learn some self respect and move on. that might be the best answer anyways...
but with the kid it is probably hard to date and find sombody new. But staying with him is emotionally unhealthy.
you have two options:
1: leave him and focus on your own life. be social and humble, there are probably boys that like you and you don't even know it. also it is the only way for your boyfriend to learn respect for you. he may realize that you are not a push over and come back to you as a deacent guy (highly unlikely though.)
2: stay with him and feel bad about yourself, since he cheats on you he has no respect for you. he may stop cheating but he will never gain respect for you. live a long life being depressed because you never gave real love with a different man a shot. instead you are stuck forever with a man who doesnt respect you and you will lose all respect for yourself.
actually, if you had any self respect you would have left him by now. so knowing that you have no self respect, you must find how to gain self respect so you can have more confidence in your direction, intuition, and descisions. then you can take controll of your life one small step at a time.
remember this always: YOU CAN NOT CHANGE OTHERS. YOU CAN ONLY CHANGE YOURSELF.
2006-09-25 02:53:54 · answer #2 · answered by Matt G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no point trying to keep the family together of you are unhappy - the child will pick up on this sooner or later.
Best thing would be to let him go - it's hard to hear, but the fact that he's cheating sounds like he wants to get out...
Perhaps stay with your folks at first so they can ease you into raising a child alone since you are younger than most.
2006-09-25 02:46:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If my math is correct, you have been with your boyfriend since you were 14 and he was 16 and had a child. That's so sad for you because, of course, you have to stay home and take care of the baby, while he is trying to relive his missed youth. See if he will go to counseling with you. If not, sadly enough, you will have to break up with him for your mental peace. Did you graduate from high school? If not, try to get your GED. You will probably have to work to support yourself and your child. Can someone such as your parents take you and the child in until you are self-supporting? Good luck but don't put up with his infidelity any longer.
2006-09-25 02:48:44 · answer #4 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When he find the right girl he let you know .
If he doesn't find is gonna ended probably 20 years later or never.
Find someone to have fun on the side too, it makes you fill much better and you can easily forgive him.
Keep the balance and family together.
2006-09-25 02:48:47 · answer #5 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your both so young , he wont stop , he is still young and you are as well , so tell him to stop If he does;t leave him , what If he brings home a std , Do tou want that . get some help from your peers, people that support what you believe in , do you want your child to grow up and cheat . so break the chain know , get a break from each othjer Iknow it will be hard just do it , not only for but your childs sake as well. you both need to get your fun out of your systme , then if its ment to be then its ment to be ,
2006-09-25 02:55:50 · answer #6 · answered by hipchicangel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just end it...the baby will pick up on this behaviour and learn that it is acceptable.
both of you deserve better. maybe when b/f is older,he will act right. Ya'll started a family pretty early, he's not ready to be as mature as you are.
department of health and human services can get you$$ to help you out.
hope all works out
2006-09-25 02:50:42 · answer #7 · answered by Duckie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men don't tend to mature until they are in their late 20's so unless you plan on hanging around and being treated like a doormat cut him loose. Resist all contact. It will be difficult but I'm sure you could be with someone better.
2006-09-25 02:44:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no honey u are both NOT young anymore, don't make that as an excuse, talk to a professional both of you and think about the child u both have,it's not the child fault that he or she was borned to parents like you! there is still time to rectify the situation.. talk to your boyfriend and face the REALITY OF LIFE and then do SOMETHING!!!!
2006-09-25 02:56:37 · answer #9 · answered by livinhapi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait until he is sleeping one night, take out a knife and just hover over him until he wakes up. when he does, just softly, slowly, and calmly tell him that if you find out one more time that he has been cheating on you, he is going to wake up without someone. let him know you're trying to be nice and keep your family together and that he needs to pull his sh*t together.
need to put the fear of woman into that man.. let him KNOW who wears the pants in the family.
2006-09-25 02:48:15 · answer #10 · answered by .jess 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
time ends many things.....how long will he be able to play.....one day he will be as serious as u are and settle down or at least try for the same......the best thing is not always to break up....it is also some time s being patient and giving some one a chance.
2006-09-25 02:44:46 · answer #11 · answered by uknownotlove 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋