Pregnancy opinons?

Question

well i just asked my boyfriend to let me use the car so i can go to the store and get a test, but im having a hard time getting the keys becuase he is sleep. but if i am pregnant, i dont know what i should do, i was in the process of losing weight, i lost 21lbs so far, and if i was pregnant and decided to terminate it, either way he will tell his twin brother, and his twin will tellh is wife, and i dont want them knowing my business, and trust me no matter how much i plead for him not to tell our business, he is gonna tell his twin anyway. what do u think i should do?

THY TO EVERYONE WHO ANSWERED THIS QUESTION WITH SINCERITY, AND FOR THOSE WHO WASTED THEIR POOR TIME TO ASSULT ME BECAUSE I MISPELLED TWO LITTLE WORDS, IF IT HURTS YOUR FEELINGS SOO MUCH THEN DONT COME TO YAHOO ANSWERS, MOST PEOPLE TYPE REALLY FAST AND ARE VERY NERVOUS TO A SITUATION THAT IS GOING ON IN THEIR LIFE, YOURE SO PERFECT, GOOD FOR YOU!!!

BUT I WOULD LOVE TO KEEP MY BABY, ITS JUST THAT I DONT WANT TO HAVE TO START ALL OVER AT LOSING WEIGHT, BUT YOU KNOW WHAT, THESE PEOPLE ON THIS SITE WILL NEVER UNDERSTAND, ITS LIKE YOU DONT HAVE NO ONE TO TALK TO, AND THESE PEOPLE GET ON YAHOO ANSWERS AND ACT A FOOL WITH ME AND THINKING THE WORLD EVOLVE AROUND THEM, BECAUSE IM TRING TO GET A RELATION OR A CLEAR OPINION OF ONES THOUGHT.

Answer 1

You have such a load right now. First you need to find out if your pregnant. Secondly, have a talk with your man....whether its pregnancy or any other issue he needs to understand that what is between you two, is just that, between the two of you. If he cannot get that you have to ask yourself can you really deal with that on a long term bases because there are so many things that you will want kept confidential over the course of a lifetime. THIRD, I completely understand the weight issue. I struggle with my weight also. I lost about 50lbs in 2005 and it was an amazing triumph. However, I really want to have a baby and understand that weight gain is a part of the most amazing experience a woman can have in her lifetime. Just know that you can maintain healthy eating habits during your pregnancy to gain a healthy amount of weight. The issue will be your seld discipline to not excessively overeat because you are pregnant. And when the baby comes (if you are pregnant) Then it will truly be lifechangin in so many ways because not only will you get back to habits that you know support weight loss, but you will be demonstrating this to your little one so that he/she will not go through the struggles that you have faced with your weight. LAST, know that know matter what it takes you knowing your beaty from the inside to ever truly experience it on the outside. And even though it is so hard to even be "thick" in this day and age, some of us will never be skinny. SO my sister love who you are so that whether it be this child or the next you will pass down that self love.......GOOD LUCK

Answer 2

If it is determined that u are pregnant, i would suggest that u not get an abortion because u don't want to gain the weight back that u have already lost. I had an abortion like 2 years ago for a totally different reason. That was the hardest thing that i have ever done in my life. That is something that I think about on occassion. It is something that will never leave my head or my heart. That was my child. If u decide that u want to get one and go ahead with it u will never forget and will feel miserable for a long long time. Once the procedure is done there is no way to go back no matter how bad u really want to. What if something happens and this was your last chance to become a mother, would u ever be able to forgive yourself????

Answer 3

Whats the biggest problem here - the pregnancy, the part about telling the twin, the weight loss etc. See first you have to gauge what exactly bothers you about this situation, regarding the pregnancy, either you want it or you don't - both decisions should be made right away and both decisions are only yours and your b/f business. Once that's out of the way you can deal with how to get your b/f to keep private things private. About the weight loss, its great that you managed 21 pounds, its a LOT, but that shouldn't be the reason to terminate a pregnancy, these days women don't put on massive weight like they used to. Figure out the main issue here before you get all worked up - lack of privacy, a possible pregnancy, the weight loss process - what is it that you want to control? All of us here will have advice but ultimately you got to work out some of this stuff just by introspection.
To 'Living In Korea' - I too get irritated by people that misspell or are grammatically challenged but then I check myself - people are here to be themselves, get counsel/advice and pass time, why must it be so strict and why must you be so stuck up. Consider yourself lucky, your college attitude shows. Oh ya about me I am a PhD in social sciences and I also hold 3 degrees in Nutrition, Asian History and Religious Studies - you don't see me getting palpitations over spellings.

Answer 4

It's a bit of a moral issue but at the end of the day it's your body and you shouldnt feel like you have to have a baby if you don't want it. It also depends on how serious the relationship is. Just walk down to the store and do the test when he's out. In an ideal situation if you are pregnant your partner should be made aware but if you don't want to keep it and you feel he will object it may be easier to deal with it yourself. Having a termination will be very difficult to keep to yourself though especially as you won't be able to have sex for a while afterwards, not to mention you may need councilling. I think you need to establish if you are pregnant first though.

Answer 5

Stop waisting time worrying about if you are or not. Find out. I wouldn't base my decision on having a baby on loosing weight. If that's the case most women wouldn't ever get pregnant. If that is the way you really feel then i thin you are not ready to have a child. When you are a mother you have to basically give up your life for your child. Maturity is very important also.

Having an abortion is a big emotional thing to do also. My opinion is think as if you were your child. If you are dedicated enough now to loose the weight then you will loose it after your child. You only have to put on 10 - 25lbs anyway.

I think you were really trying to take care of yourself you would have used protection when having sex. I may seem harsh but think about it after you take your taest of course.

Either way it goes for you GOOD LUCK

Answer 6

Is this the only day and the only way you have of getting to a drug store? If so, you have other problems.

Don't worry about what other people think about you or how you will look weight-wise. The lowered weight would make the pregnancy easier and healthier anyway. The relationship on the other hand, might need some work.

If you are pregnant, email me and I will happily discuss options with you other than terminating a pregnancy. My husband and I are one of many couples who would mourn your decision - not to mention you would for the rest of your life.

Answer 7

Snatch those keys & go. Let him sleep t/o the test taking.

But, I think you should tell him your results.

He contributed to the pregnancy so he should know.

Even if you have a baby, you can still lose weight in the future. Under a physician's care you can even limit the amount of weight you gain and/or do workouts designed for pregnant women.

It's unfortunate that he may/will tell his twin but maybe it's b/c of their "special" twin bond. Or maybe telling his twin will help him cope w/ the situation, whatever the situation maybe at the time. Either way, please don't let this stop you from letting him know!

Answer 8

Doesn't sound like your boyfriend is someone you need to be with if the only way you can get to use the car is while he's sleeping. If that's the case, but if you haven't told him already, Don't!!! its your decision not his. If he can respect you enough not to tell your business, especially business like this, then he needs to go. Also, if losing weight is something you want to do and it makes you happy then great job!, but don't try to do it for anyone else. I hope there are more reasons you're considering an abortion beside weight gain. Like the crappy world we live in, high cost of raising a child, etc...

Answer 9

Get the keys anyways and go take a test and if your pregnant dont murder your baby give it up for adoption if you dont want it you can always lose weight again you can never get back a baby after killing it dont be selfish its not its fault you didnt protect yourself assuming you are pregnant that is and if your not pregnant which I hope you are not then from now on learn how to use some protection before you start bringing beautiful unwanted babies into this world.

Answer 10

What I want to tell you is not to go for the abortion. What I should tell you is that ultimately it is your choice. To help you on the weight loss thing. My second child is three months old and I am already back to pre-pregnancy weight. I was told nursing your baby helps a lot to bring your weight back to normal. I would have to agree seeing as I nursed both children. Anyway, get the test asap. Talk it over with your boyfriend and see how you two feel.