When i'm with my friends, I would usually talk non-stop and went crazy with them, but when i'm on the phone with my bf, I can't talk much and usually there would be long pauses before words came out...
2006-09-24 19:09:56 · 13 answers · asked by dolphin 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
the reason is simple,with your friends you feel comfortable due to subject yal speaking on,now the phone with the boyfriend,both of yalls fault,lack of communication,baddddd for the relations,there are so much to talk about,or go with what he likes or want,wishes something he can relate to and see how that works out.it,s like respect played waiting my turn to talk then yours,silence,get to the poing somebody has to say say something or what you doing,conversationnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn.
2006-09-24 19:19:26 · answer #1 · answered by sheena s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see your answer page is filled with girls' opinions. So, in an effort to be helpful, I'll give my official guy perspective. First off, in response to the person that said guys don't like you to talk their ear off, in my case, at least, that couldn't be further from the truth. Not being much of a talker myself, I actually enjoy having somebody else around who will fill in any empty spaces in the conversation. The problem starts to arise when someone talks so much that they don't pay attention to what the other person is saying. That being said, I should also point out that not saying anything can be just as fun. The question is, "Do these long pauses feel akward to you?" If you honestly have things to say, but don't feel comfortable saying them to him, that could signify a problem. On the other hand, if you just have nothing to say, but feel that if you did, he would be the one you wanted to tell, then you're fine. Now for the unsolicited advice... If you do want to have some actual dialogue with him, maybe you could start by discussing this problem with him, rather than with the Yahoo posse, over here.
2006-09-25 02:26:12 · answer #2 · answered by mctfelton 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds a lot like me actually. I'm constantly talking around some people, but I'm very shy around my bf. And we've been together for a long time, so it's not that I'm uncomfortable around him. It's really weird. It's not like I'm scared to talk, the words just don't come out right. I hate it too. One thing to try, even though it sounds kinda stupid, might be to actually write a list of things you want to talk about. So, if a quiet pause comes, you can just look at what's on the list you want to bring up next. Or maybe, think about what you always talk about with friends, and try talking about that, and that might help you get some words going. Hope this helps a bit!
2006-09-25 02:14:29 · answer #3 · answered by consumingfire783 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry... it's normal. I'm guessing the both of you are still quite fresh into this relationship. Relationships and bonds take time to grow.
You start by saying very little cause you might be afraid of alot of things
Then you may start saying alot cause you've got so much you want the other person to know, to be closer to understanding you
Then you go back to saying little, cause words don't mean as much when you just feel it.
2006-09-25 02:24:49 · answer #4 · answered by Hang Tough 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you know your friend won't blame you for went crazy, but you worry your bf may.
2006-09-25 02:16:46 · answer #5 · answered by Tan D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say its possible you love him and are subconsiously affraid of making a fool of your self. Its normal, a stage relationships go through... Have fun and Goodluck!
2006-09-25 02:21:01 · answer #6 · answered by busybody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If both of you had more in common your conversations would be more animated. You both need to find out what interests you both and explore them together.
2006-09-25 02:15:07 · answer #7 · answered by doschowchows 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm like that too... you know why..because there's still an obstacle... it may be the way you treat him.. or something like...you don't feel much comfortable when you're with him.
2006-09-25 02:13:42 · answer #8 · answered by doverds_blag 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's not unusual. Make a list of things to ask him or to talk about and keep it handy for when he calls.
2006-09-25 02:12:12 · answer #9 · answered by winkcat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's cuz you probably don't want to share your secrets with him. you are clueless of what to say to him. or you're afraid what you're about to say might hurt his feeling.. you should try to talk to him about your days. it always work for me.
2006-09-25 02:12:50 · answer #10 · answered by jv637 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋