i do everything, and i mean everything to make sure he is satisfied.the other night i decided to open the door for him naked and he freaked out.he said i was to s l u t t y . couple of nights before that, i had candles and insence going on.i gave him a lap dance and a strip show.and everytime he said i was inapropiate.that women are not sopose to act like that.he said only whores act like that around men. i felt insulted and he has been sleeping in the guest room ever since.i told him that he could come back when he started to look at me diferently.but what if he dont?is he gay?or am i freaking him out?maybe im doing too much.we only have sex whenever he feels like it,and when that is i dont hear him complainig about how i act.so am i doing something wrong?am i being too much to handle?should i stop being like that with him?i love sex,cant help being sexual with my husband.so what do you think?whats your opinion on all this?
2006-09-24 19:02:16 · 18 answers · asked by super girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i want to be able to initiate sex and he cant handle it.how can i let him know that i love having sex with him,and thats why i do what i do.i dont consider my self to be a s l u t hes my husband.so why have to feel that way.
2006-09-24 19:06:14 · update #1
I think the dumb@ss don't know how GREAT he has it! I would have given anything if my wife was anything like that,when I was married! Keep up the good work,Honey!
2006-09-24 19:08:39 · answer #1 · answered by Putt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie your efforts are wasted on a man like this. Alot of guys would love for their mates to be uninhibited and try to fulfill their needs in an entertaining way. He is trying to control an oppress you. If you were doing these things in front of other men then it could be considered loose but in the privacy of your home there isn't anything inappropriate about it. Pack your bags and get out of there. Pretty soon you will be doing everything wrong from cleaning to cooking to just breathing.
You are being groomed to become an abused woman.
2006-09-25 10:36:18 · answer #2 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi how are you well i read you question and this things mostly happens between those couples who are very eaisly bored ..!
your question shows that your value is lost in the eye of your hubby its because either you tried to let him explore your self very quickly or you did some thing wrong behind him wich he knows but he not can ask from u ..... Well what ever u do to win his love is right but this not can work this thing only work in the new marrage days well i not saying that you are wrong but its time to zip up your self where perfect dress means full dress cook good food for him or what ever he likes and when he come back from work open the door give him not so much big smile just a smile and say him heloo in very soft voice when he sit some where ask him about food dont talk alot just keep eye on him dont let him feel that your are also tired just make him feel that you just care him and nothing else than that you want be serious when he home when he going to sleep go near to him and ask him do u need any thing ...fullfilling his request say good nite to him and have your own bed do like this dont talk so much make a serious envoirment of home if he ask any thing from you give him polite asnwer but not go so much down keep going like this for few days i know he will come back when he come back to you ask him what wrong u did to him that he was behaving like that if you didnt did like that it could go more worst slowly slwoly That all if you need any further help you can email me candle_in_darkness@yahoo.com Good LUCK!
2006-09-25 02:49:52 · answer #3 · answered by Muhammad Ali 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just wondering, did you just start with the strip teases and the nakedness or where you always like that?
If you were always like that and now he is putting you down, there is definitely something else going on.
If this is something new, then maybe your hubby is kinda old fashion in that sense and wants wifee to act more like I love Lucy.
In any case, if you see he's not comfortable with this flirty you.
just stop and I would suggest you guys see a marriage counselor to help get a clearer view on your wants/needs. Its harder to argue or get insulted when there is a professional around being a mediator. Good luck.
2006-09-25 02:13:36 · answer #4 · answered by muuuua 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly is this "sl utt y" behavior something thats new to your relationship???
Regardless tell him how you feel. Tell him ur not feelin the love and went to this extreme because you dont feel wanted....
try to cuddle with him, and talk....
Men can be weird. I take a antidepressant... I have never had much of a sex drive- now that im on meds its even worse... My girl always thinks that i dont love her.... If she doesnt get it more then once a week- she is hurt....
My girl seems to be the one who initiated sex.. I have noticed when it comes to the females initationg sex- the male can feel inferior and feel as if he is not in control....
This doesnt sound to good though- expecially if ur married- anyone should be able to start sex, and ur partnet should go with it- even just to make u happy
Women can be weird tooo... Good luck...
2006-09-25 02:08:35 · answer #5 · answered by mikey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say he kind of has a typical syndrome in men where he doesn't want to see his wife as a sexual person.
I don't know if there is any cure for that type of thing, I'd say you need to find some kind of middle ground where you can both be happy and express yourselves. A good talk about what he wants in a sexual relationship and what you want is probably a good place to start.
2006-09-25 02:06:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he's not used to having someone he really cares about and may even love doing those things around him. it seems that you're looking for romance between the two of you and that he doesnt want that. he wants to be with the girl he fell in love with him, not with the girl who tries to impress him by acting like that. it doesnt necessarily mean that he's gay, it just means that he doesnt like it when you do that around him because it's you. in a way, opening the door for him naked comes across as slutty, and giving him a lap dance and a strip show may seem awkward to him because those are the things "strippers", "sluts" and "whores" do and he's used to seeing that in them, not you. i think that perhaps you need to cut down on what you do to try to satisfy him. there can still be sex and all, but less lap dances and strip shows because you can tell by his reaction that he doesnt like you doing that around him.
2006-09-25 02:14:02 · answer #7 · answered by kristyb872001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, do you know how many men would love it if their women would answer the door naked and give them lap dances? Stop questioning yourself and wondering if you're doing something wrong. If your man can't appreciate you, then find someone else who will.
2006-09-25 02:10:44 · answer #8 · answered by Victoria 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look it's his loss...You're good don't worry about his rude comments..he has the problem not you...But how was he before you married him?
I`m kinda in the same situation.... i ended up not having any sex with my Husband in 7 years now... i`m very oral and love trying new things but everytime i touched him in certain areas he was like stop that tickles.....I mean damn suck it up.... maybe they are uhmm you know
2006-09-25 02:07:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are meant to be easy. I think he has a problem and you need to talk to him about this. Open and honest conversations are required. What have you got to lose.
Tell him you want to be sexual with him, make things fun and ask him why it makes him uncomfortable.
2006-09-25 02:06:46 · answer #10 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋